Current Events > How do men under 30 afford to have weddings

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unless they never went to college and saved a bunch of money or they went to college and their parents paid for everything?
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Isn't it a Western tradition to have the bride's parents pay for the wedding?
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these days? all you got to do is be an adorable couple and start a gofundme and say your crippling student debt is making your guys' dream wedding an impossibility
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Veggeta X posted...

Isn't it a Western tradition to have the bride's parents pay for the wedding?

I think so, but I don't think that upholds because most people are broke af
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Weddings don't have to be expensive. Lol at anyone who pays a lot to get married.

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By taking out a loan to pay for 1 day of fun that they will remember until the inevitable divorce. Best way to start that marriage is by being in debt and having money problems from the rip. Gives you something to squabble about/ "You wanted an open bar! Look at how much that set us back!", "Well maybe if you didnt insist on a 2000 dress that you are gonna wear once we wouldnt be so bad off. And you just HAAAAAD to fly in your druggy friend from Arizona, because "she couldnt afford to get here on her own"."
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It took about a year of planning/saving

We made it back in gifts basically, because its chinese tradition to give cash

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Court house is like 50 bucks.
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I went to college but worked full time whilst studying full time... and ten years later when I did get married, I also had some decent savings built up.

I've said it in other threads before where even though we spent all up about $70k (including the sangjit gifts) for the ceremony and two receptions (in different countries), it was worth it since it was important under Asian cultures/traditions and I know it really meant alot to my wife.

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Veggeta X posted...

Isn't it a Western tradition to have the bride's parents pay for the wedding?

Yeah.

But it doesn't always happen. Between the two of them, Mrs. DevsBro's parents might have been able to chip in $100. If they went without for a while.
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gloBal enemy posted...

I went to college but worked full time whilst studying full time... and ten years later when I did get married, I also had some decent savings built up.

I've said it in other threads before where even though we spent all up about $70k (including the sangjit gifts) for the ceremony and two receptions (in different countries), it was worth it since it was important under Asian cultures/traditions and I know it really meant alot to my wife.

are yall rich lol
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gloBal enemy posted...

we spent all up about $70k

Lmfao. Can't wait for the inevitable "we got divorced" topic

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Soggy_Pocket posted...

Court house is like 50 bucks.

We should have just done this tbh.

Ours was right around $3k, including reception and honeymoon. We'd hae saved around $2k (we were going to honeymoon, ofc) and wouldn't have had to deal with my dumbass mom-in-law.
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pls posted...

Lmfao. Can't wait for the inevitable "we got divorced" topic

Shrug. Hopefully not. It's only been a few years and we've had our ups and downs but let's see. Besides, I've become a much more family-man now (vs pure career/ambitious).

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Going to court one day isn't too expensive
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JBaLLEN66 posted...

are yall rich lol

She moved countries to follow me when my firm asked me to spend a couple of years in Singapore. She took a pay cut but I got a promotion and a significant payrise at the time... and then we just didn't live beyond our means.

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