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MarqueeSeries 07/29/19 8:45:51 PM #151: |
TC that sounds eerily similar to what happened to me the other day.
I traveled to the main office this week and was out with coworkers at a bar the other night when one of the other sales guys on a different team noticed me. He kept hovering around me and checking me out. He was tall, hot with an athletic build and very confident. He started chatting me up and being super smooth with compliments, saying my husband is a lucky guy. He asked me to dinner but I said I was tired lol. But the fun part is I told my husband all this and hes being extra nice to me bwahahaha. He had been a turd to me these last few weeks. Snapping at me for no reason, coming home super late then not talking to me, giving me the third degree on buying little things for my mom, etc. We had a fight a week ago about it and he blamed it on being tired, and I told him he cant take that shit out on me. Well he finally apologized for it last night and said he should treat me better. Hes taking me out to an expensive dinner tomorrow. He wants to take me shopping (he rarely buys me anything). Hes even coming home early today. I guess hes a little scared now lol. I normally dont get hit on very much but I also dont go out a lot. I guess I should go out drinking more often or something. --- Posted with GameRaven 3.5.1 ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Cleo_II 07/29/19 8:47:50 PM #152: |
Comfy_Pillow posted...
Cleo_II posted...BlazinBlue88 posted...Cleo_II posted...You nailed it though. He gets comfortable. So do I, it happens in a marriage. But these last few weeks he was just extra cranky. We dont do date nights at all. I have posted in the past that its been an issue. He doesnt put effort into doing anything or planning stuff for anniversaries/birthdays. We havent gone to dinner together in months. He was supposed to take me out for my birthday in June, but never got around to it. Ive mentioned to him in the past that I would love to try a Michelin star restaurant someday. So he brought it up and is making reservations for us. I also posted that he left work early to spend time with me and apologized for his actions. My husband rarely apologizes for anything. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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BlazinBlue88 07/29/19 9:52:33 PM #153: |
Cleo_II posted...
Thats awesome. Sounds like youre both in tune with each other. My husband needs a little more to get there. We all get there in our own time. --- ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Cleo_II 07/30/19 11:06:44 PM #154: |
Welp, him being nicer to me lasted all of five days.
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ssj3vegeta 07/30/19 11:07:12 PM #155: |
I'm on my way
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Cleo_II 07/30/19 11:07:40 PM #156: |
ssj3vegeta posted...
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Touch 07/30/19 11:10:04 PM #157: |
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emblem boy 07/31/19 12:28:26 AM #158: |
Cleo_II posted...
Welp, him being nicer to me lasted all of five days. Did he change after marriage? --- Posted with GameRaven 3.5.1 ... Copied to Clipboard!
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im not 13 07/31/19 12:31:39 AM #159: |
Cleo_II posted...
We dont do date nights at all. I have posted in the past that its been an issue. He doesnt put effort into doing anything or planning stuff for anniversaries/birthdays. We havent gone to dinner together in months. He was supposed to take me out for my birthday in June, but never got around to it. Ive mentioned to him in the past that I would love to try a Michelin star restaurant someday. So he brought it up and is making reservations for us. He's fin up I've only been married a few months but I make sure every ~6 weeks we do something fun. I don't see me stopping any time soon since the last thing I want is complacency and to feel like I make no effort I'm sure you have spoken to him before...was he always like this or has he changed over the years? --- ... Copied to Clipboard!
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So_Hajile 07/31/19 12:32:58 AM #160: |
Cleo_II posted...
ssj3vegeta posted...I'm on my way Vegy is actually your husband posting on Gamefaqs. Plot twist!!! --- Reading up on the Bat-Family: https://bit.ly/2Us5RhG Completely legit these days. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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BlazinBlue88 07/31/19 7:40:36 AM #161: |
Cleo_II posted...
Welp, him being nicer to me lasted all of five days. Oh well then... It seems like he isn't fully wrapping his head around the idea of constant effort in a marriage. I guess he was just appeasing you so you'd get over it. Like others have asked. Was he like this when you guys were dating? Most people make all this effort when dating then stop once you get married. You can't do that though. You always need to put in that dating effort. --- ... Copied to Clipboard!
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DrizztLink 07/31/19 7:44:07 AM #162: |
ssj3vegeta posted...
I'm on my way What, you gonna make fun of her at a low point? Like with you laughing at me going to rehab? --- ... Copied to Clipboard!
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CyricZ 07/31/19 7:46:04 AM #163: |
So_Hajile posted...
Cleo_II posted...ssj3vegeta posted...I'm on my way This explains so much. --- CyricZ ... Copied to Clipboard!
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MrResetti 07/31/19 7:53:20 AM #164: |
Who the fuck tells their significant other they were flirting with someone else at a bar
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FightingJester 07/31/19 7:59:54 AM #165: |
MrResetti posted...
Who the fuck tells their significant other they were flirting with someone else at a bar Someone that thinks the nbt is just around the corner. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Tony_Biggie_Pun 07/31/19 8:15:22 AM #166: |
Cleo_II posted...
Also, only on CE is a woman disloyal for turning down a guy at the bar and telling her husband about it The fact that you even talked to him means you entertained out, then you teased your husband about it. Not really cool if he did the same in reverse you'd be upset and rightfully so ... Copied to Clipboard!
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au_gold 07/31/19 8:18:46 AM #167: |
Tony_Biggie_Pun posted...
Cleo_II posted...Also, only on CE is a woman disloyal for turning down a guy at the bar and telling her husband about it Shut the fuck up. --- Let me talk to your mother. Get your mother please. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Tony_Biggie_Pun 07/31/19 8:22:10 AM #168: |
Why are you so mad?
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CyricZ 07/31/19 8:33:41 AM #169: |
And thus the Great Cleo Wars of CE began.
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Touch 07/31/19 8:58:53 AM #170: |
"you talked to some dude that was tryna hit on you you're such a slut!"
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PoopPotato 07/31/19 9:20:57 AM #171: |
My wife tells me when she gets hit on and I respond with something along the lines of "of course you did, you're hot. Did you get any free drinks?"
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SSJGrimReaper 07/31/19 9:24:16 AM #172: |
Touch posted...
"you talked to some dude that was tryna hit on you you're such a slut!" asl bby --- Big Apple, 3 A.M. http://error1355.com/ce/SSJGrimReaper.html ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Unknown380 07/31/19 9:30:00 AM #173: |
Gobstoppers12 posted...
You're being a tad incel right now Gobstoppers12 posted... I write Naruto Fanfiction. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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assassingriskel 07/31/19 9:33:54 AM #174: |
Tony_Biggie_Pun posted...
Cleo_II posted...Also, only on CE is a woman disloyal for turning down a guy at the bar and telling her husband about it This --- "Never trust a women"-Nobliss Gordon Mobile Suit Gundam Iron Blooded Orphans episode 17 People die everyday b ... Copied to Clipboard!
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solosnake 07/31/19 9:34:18 AM #175: |
Cleo_II posted...
I traveled to the main office this week and was out with coworkers at a bar the other night when one of the other sales guys on a different team noticed me. He kept hovering around me and checking me out. He was tall, hot with an athletic build and very confident. He started chatting me up and being super smooth with compliments, saying my husband is a lucky guy. He asked me to dinner but I said I was tired lol. this post makes me sad :( It honestly sounds like your marriage is over. Sounds like the flame is gone. Im sorry. Luckily you will have plenty of Chads in your future --- "We would have no NBA possibly if they got rid of all the flopping." ~ Dwyane Wade https://imgur.com/MYYEIx5 https://imgur.com/WGE12ef ... Copied to Clipboard!
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assassingriskel 07/31/19 9:35:34 AM #176: |
Cleo_II posted...
Comfy_Pillow posted...Cleo_II posted...BlazinBlue88 posted...Cleo_II posted...You nailed it though. He gets comfortable. So do I, it happens in a marriage. But these last few weeks he was just extra cranky. So you have no agency and can't plan stuff? Only he can because...... reasons --- "Never trust a women"-Nobliss Gordon Mobile Suit Gundam Iron Blooded Orphans episode 17 People die everyday b ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Cleo_II 07/31/19 9:39:34 AM #177: |
emblem boy posted...
Did he change after marriage?Yes. He tried way more before we got married. We would go out a lot more and he was a lot more patient. Id say his change started in the last 3-4 years. BlazinBlue88 posted... Oh well then...Yeah he used to put in a lot more effort. But then he started working at companies he really hated and would take it out on me when he got home. He likes this latest company but now hes working really hard to prove himself so hes tired all the time. At least he ended up realizing he was acting like he usually does last night and came up and apologized. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Cleo_II 07/31/19 9:43:00 AM #178: |
Touch posted...
"you talked to some dude that was tryna hit on you you're such a slut!"Its kind of hilarious tbh. Just highlights their inexperience. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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solosnake 07/31/19 9:43:46 AM #179: |
Cleo_II posted...
emblem boy posted...Did he change after marriage?Yes. He tried way more before we got married. We would go out a lot more and he was a lot more patient. Id say his change started in the last 3-4 years. At some point you are gonna have to ask how old do you wanna get before you realize you arent happy in your relationship. You arent gonna get any younger, and the chads will slowly stop coming --- "We would have no NBA possibly if they got rid of all the flopping." ~ Dwyane Wade https://imgur.com/MYYEIx5 https://imgur.com/WGE12ef ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Balrog0 07/31/19 9:45:30 AM #180: |
diagnosing someone's relationship through an internet message board and only getting one perspective probably isn't possible imo
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CyricZ 07/31/19 9:49:59 AM #181: |
Cleo, what can I as a local CEman do to get hit on by Chads?
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assassingriskel 07/31/19 9:52:41 AM #182: |
Balrog0 posted...
diagnosing someone's relationship through an internet message board and only getting one perspective probably isn't possible imo This we are only getting her biased.view --- "Never trust a women"-Nobliss Gordon Mobile Suit Gundam Iron Blooded Orphans episode 17 People die everyday b ... Copied to Clipboard!
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solosnake 07/31/19 9:56:02 AM #183: |
assassingriskel posted...
Balrog0 posted...diagnosing someone's relationship through an internet message board and only getting one perspective probably isn't possible imo isnt that enough to know she is unhappy in the relationship? IDK, seems simple to me. But then again Ive been through a lot of failed relationships. Why force something thats not there, life is too short --- "We would have no NBA possibly if they got rid of all the flopping." ~ Dwyane Wade https://imgur.com/MYYEIx5 https://imgur.com/WGE12ef ... Copied to Clipboard!
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BlazinBlue88 07/31/19 10:01:27 AM #184: |
Cleo_II posted...
Yeah he used to put in a lot more effort. But then he started working at companies he really hated and would take it out on me when he got home. He likes this latest company but now hes working really hard to prove himself so hes tired all the time. Isn't really an excuse though. The responsibilities of being a husband are just as important as the ones he has at work. Yeah that might make it sound like being a husband is a job and it sorta is. You work really hard and prove yourself to your SO. That's just how it is. The more you put in the effort, the easier it becomes. --- ... Copied to Clipboard!
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assassingriskel 07/31/19 10:07:00 AM #185: |
solosnake posted...
assassingriskel posted...Balrog0 posted...diagnosing someone's relationship through an internet message board and only getting one perspective probably isn't possible imo Armchair therapists/marriage counselor LOL --- "Never trust a women"-Nobliss Gordon Mobile Suit Gundam Iron Blooded Orphans episode 17 People die everyday b ... Copied to Clipboard!
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solosnake 07/31/19 10:09:20 AM #186: |
assassingriskel posted...
solosnake posted...assassingriskel posted...Balrog0 posted...diagnosing someone's relationship through an internet message board and only getting one perspective probably isn't possible imo True, but at the same time a lot of people waste a decade or more of their lives trying to "save" a relationship that just isnt working. Thats silly imo. Theres literally millions of fish in the sea. Especially if you are a woman. The only reason I could see staying is if they have kids. --- "We would have no NBA possibly if they got rid of all the flopping." ~ Dwyane Wade https://imgur.com/MYYEIx5 https://imgur.com/WGE12ef ... Copied to Clipboard!
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CyricZ 07/31/19 10:10:22 AM #187: |
I would trust maybe about three people on CE to give sound and experienced marriage advice.
And even then, all three of them know better than to give it unwarranted and in a public setting. --- CyricZ ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Cleo_II 07/31/19 10:23:00 AM #188: |
solosnake posted...
isnt that enough to know she is unhappy in the relationship?Im not unhappy. Its normal to have ups and downs in long term relationships. We were doing pretty good for a while now until the last few weeks when he started reverting to old habits. Basically him taking his stress out on me. BlazinBlue88 posted... Isn't really an excuse though. The responsibilities of being a husband are just as important as the ones he has at work. Yeah that might make it sound like being a husband is a job and it sorta is. You work really hard and prove yourself to your SO. That's just how it is. The more you make a habit out of putting forth effort, the easier it becomes.Yup I tell him its not a good excuse. I told him that the day before I flew out, when we had our discussion about it. He cant use me as a punching bag. But Im patient with him. Im not perfect either and I have a lot of medical issues he puts up with. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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BlazinBlue88 07/31/19 10:28:26 AM #189: |
Cleo_II posted...
Yup I tell him its not a good excuse. I told him that the day before I flew out, when we had our discussion about it. He cant use me as a punching bag. But Im patient with him. Im not perfect either and I have a lot of medical issues he puts up with. That's good. Glad you two seem to have great communication between each other. --- ... Copied to Clipboard!
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TheBiggerWiggle 07/31/19 10:30:40 AM #190: |
Damn CE is bringing out the insecurities hard itt. TC did nothing wrong, and honestly sometimes its good to remind a partner they need to put effort into a relationship, especially when that relationship is a marriage.
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Villain 07/31/19 10:31:16 AM #191: |
My ex used to take out stress on me all the time. Maybe look into counseling if he isn't changing his behavior
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Shablagoo 07/31/19 10:31:35 AM #192: |
Cleo_II posted...
Its kind of hilarious tbh. Just highlights their inexperience. Or, you know, you could be wrong. I mean, you could be. But of course theres always that classic and irrefutable argument, teehee, Im a girl on CE THUS I can never be wrong about relationships. Never. Not in a million years. --- UnfairRepresent: "wut? who are you?" Ivynn: "DAYUM Shablagoo made you meltdown so hard you blocked it and him from your memory!" ... Copied to Clipboard!
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V-E-G-Y- 07/31/19 11:29:16 AM #193: |
Shablagoo posted...
Cleo_II posted...Its kind of hilarious tbh. Just highlights their inexperience. Lol, stop dat --- ... Copied to Clipboard!
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DrizztLink 07/31/19 11:44:11 AM #194: |
Shablagoo posted...
Cleo_II posted...Its kind of hilarious tbh. Just highlights their inexperience. Thank goodness we have someone to explain her years-long relationship to her. --- ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Dustin1280 07/31/19 11:51:45 AM #195: |
Believe it or not, you can have a healthy relationship even if you tell each other who you think is hot and tell your significant other when you get hit on.
My wife and I are very open about pretty much everything. We both talk about other people who are hot or very attractive (male and female, doesn't matter) We both are allowed to flirt with whoever we want, as long as it doesn't go beyond flirting or get physical. We both have a laugh when we tell each other about times were were hit on. There is nothing wrong with Cleo telling her husband what happened at a bar. --- RIP: Canuklehead, Karma: 1369 // RIP: Gen_Lee_Enfield, Karma: 1731 // RIP: Orlando of the Axe, Karma: 1642 // RIP nayr626 Karma: 4395 --They delivered! ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Shablagoo 07/31/19 11:52:29 AM #196: |
Thank goodness I have someone to prove my point without even realizing.
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Shablagoo 07/31/19 11:53:24 AM #197: |
Dustin1280 posted...
Believe it or not, you can have a healthy relationship even if you tell each other who you think is hot and tell your significant other when you get hit on. I agree. What is wrong is leveraging it to make her husband feel guilty, IMHO. --- UnfairRepresent: "wut? who are you?" Ivynn: "DAYUM Shablagoo made you meltdown so hard you blocked it and him from your memory!" ... Copied to Clipboard!
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DrizztLink 07/31/19 11:53:50 AM #198: |
I'd say the same thing about a dude, but I know you're desperate for a victory. I won't push.
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Shablagoo 07/31/19 11:53:57 AM #199: |
V-E-G-Y- posted...
Lol, stop dat lmao --- UnfairRepresent: "wut? who are you?" Ivynn: "DAYUM Shablagoo made you meltdown so hard you blocked it and him from your memory!" ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Dustin1280 07/31/19 11:54:27 AM #200: |
Shablagoo posted...
Dustin1280 posted...Believe it or not, you can have a healthy relationship even if you tell each other who you think is hot and tell your significant other when you get hit on. You clearly don't understand open communication in a relationship and are instantly jumping to a negative connotation when that was not the intention at all. I'm going to agree with others in this topic who say you sound very inexperienced with serious communicative relationships. --- RIP: Canuklehead, Karma: 1369 // RIP: Gen_Lee_Enfield, Karma: 1731 // RIP: Orlando of the Axe, Karma: 1642 // RIP nayr626 Karma: 4395 --They delivered! ... Copied to Clipboard!
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