Current Events > Is it wrong for you to have sex with a woman who already has a boyfriend?

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Because she would be the one doing the cheating, not you (assuming you're single). But if you had sex with her, regardless of whether you knew that she was dating another guy, would that be immoral on your part? Or does the responsibility fall solely on the one who's in a relationship?
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wouldnt say wrong, just shitty.
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Yes, it's immoral on the single guy's part. Anyone who says otherwise is doing mental gymnastics. How would you feel if some bro was like "I didn't do anything wrong, even though I fully knew she was with you. It's all her fault"?
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in general yeah. it's dishonorable
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Only if you actually know the boyfriend
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WaterLink posted...

Only if you actually know the boyfriend

"I didn't do anything wrong, bro. I didn't even know who you were. Therefore, you can't be mad at me for sleeping with your girl."
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WaterLink posted...

Only if you actually know the boyfriend

That's a very childish mentality.
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Pepys Monster posted...

WaterLink posted...

Only if you actually know the boyfriend

"I didn't do anything wrong, bro. I didn't even know who you were. Therefore, you can't be mad at me for sleeping with your girl."

*shrug* I'd be mad at the girl for cheating since she was the one who failed to uphold the commitment. She was the one who made the choice
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WaterLink posted...

Pepys Monster posted...

WaterLink posted...

Only if you actually know the boyfriend

"I didn't do anything wrong, bro. I didn't even know who you were. Therefore, you can't be mad at me for sleeping with your girl."

*shrug* I'd be mad at the girl for cheating since she was the one who failed to uphold the commitment. She was the one who made the choice

So you wouldn't be mad at the bro? Would you be his friend after?
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Pepys Monster posted...

WaterLink posted...

Pepys Monster posted...

WaterLink posted...

Only if you actually know the boyfriend

"I didn't do anything wrong, bro. I didn't even know who you were. Therefore, you can't be mad at me for sleeping with your girl."

*shrug* I'd be mad at the girl for cheating since she was the one who failed to uphold the commitment. She was the one who made the choice

So you wouldn't be mad at the bro? Would you be his friend after?

No but I wasnt his friend beforehand either so nothing really changes. The dude never made a commitment to me.
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WaterLink posted...

Pepys Monster posted...

WaterLink posted...

Pepys Monster posted...

WaterLink posted...

Only if you actually know the boyfriend

"I didn't do anything wrong, bro. I didn't even know who you were. Therefore, you can't be mad at me for sleeping with your girl."

*shrug* I'd be mad at the girl for cheating since she was the one who failed to uphold the commitment. She was the one who made the choice

So you wouldn't be mad at the bro? Would you be his friend after?

No but I wasnt his friend beforehand either so nothing really changes. The dude never made a commitment to me.

What if the dude is like "Come on, bro. Let's be friends on Facebook. We both agree that I did nothing wrong"?
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It's one thing if you don't know and she tells you afterwards. Otherwise, you're just letting her take advantage of thirst culture lol.

If it were possible to do so without pissing off her bf, I'd tell her bf "yo your girl tried to sleep with me... not saying anything about her, just telling it like it is". But chances are he wouldn't believe you and would try to stick up for her.

Dudes gotta start putting their dignity before their dick. That said, she could easily find some other dude that would bang her if you don't.
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Boyfriend? Nah. Married? Yeah.

I mean, if you wanna get technical, a girl could be with this guy for all of 3 days and call him her "boyfriend" but it legitimately means nothing.

If she lives with him, or been together for a while, it's a different story.
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0xDEFECADE posted...

in general yeah. it's dishonorable

It is but hey, if shes giving it up and you feel its safe for you then go for it

Boyfriend isnt married
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Pepys Monster posted...

WaterLink posted...

Pepys Monster posted...

WaterLink posted...

Pepys Monster posted...

WaterLink posted...

Only if you actually know the boyfriend

"I didn't do anything wrong, bro. I didn't even know who you were. Therefore, you can't be mad at me for sleeping with your girl."

*shrug* I'd be mad at the girl for cheating since she was the one who failed to uphold the commitment. She was the one who made the choice

So you wouldn't be mad at the bro? Would you be his friend after?

No but I wasnt his friend beforehand either so nothing really changes. The dude never made a commitment to me.

What if the dude is like "Come on, bro. Let's be friends on Facebook. We both agree that I did nothing wrong"?

No but I wasnt his friend beforehand either so nothing really changes.
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Pepys Monster posted...

Yes, it's immoral on the single guy's part. Anyone who says otherwise is doing mental gymnastics. How would you feel if some bro was like "I didn't do anything wrong, even though I fully knew she was with you. It's all her fault"?

He'd have done me a favor by exposing an unfaithful partner. Well, not really a favor, but I don't fault him for it. She made herself available. It's her job to be faithful, not other men to keep her faithful.
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Dishonorable, but you're not the worst person in the triangle at least.
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it's wrong for the cheater. bad karma for the one who knowingly messes around with somebody else's partner.
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As long as you know how to fight naked, because if he catches you, he'll be throwing punches at you and guys are not used to fighting naked. Your first instinct is to cover your junk instead of protecting your face.

Pepys Monster posted...

Yes, it's immoral on the single guy's part. Anyone who says otherwise is doing mental gymnastics. How would you feel if some bro was like "I didn't do anything wrong, even though I fully knew she was with you. It's all her fault"?

Yea, its mostly her fault. She is in the relationship. I personally wouldnt fault the guy although i might be pissed.

Im not the type to fight a dude over a woman unless he blatantly tries to harm my girl.

Because once you two get done killing each other, she will find some other fool to fuck.
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its shitty to cheat if hes trying to be a good boyfriend

not so bad if hes an asshole thats basically inviting to be cheated on
if you want loyalty in a relationship, you have to prove you deserve it throughout the relationship, you're not just entitled to it
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NonDairyMiltank posted...

its shitty to cheat if hes trying to be a good boyfriend

not so bad if hes an asshole thats basically inviting to be cheated on
if you want loyalty in a relationship, you have to prove you deserve it throughout the relationship, you're not just entitled to it

I don't necessarily agree with this, but it's definitely the most common reason why women cheat, in my experience.
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Nothing is hotter than fucking another mans woman

There's a reason you still go to jail if you're an accomplice to a crime and didn't technically commit one yourself.
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snowman9267 posted...

There's a reason you still go to jail if you're an accomplice to a crime and didn't technically commit one yourself.

Being the accomplice is a crime, technically and practically.
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Yes.

NonDairyMiltank posted...

its shitty to cheat if hes trying to be a good boyfriend

not so bad if hes an asshole thats basically inviting to be cheated on
if you want loyalty in a relationship, you have to prove you deserve it throughout the relationship, you're not just entitled to it

Break up then. No excuses.

snowman9267 posted...

There's a reason you still go to jail if you're an accomplice to a crime and didn't technically commit one yourself.

Now this is a hot take
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That is how things started with my ex. Not proud of it. But I think they were both kinda checked out from the relationship. Not saying that makes what I did okay. I felt really shitty about it for a long time. Still kinda do even years later.

She was the initiator. She knew I liked her, but I never planned on trying anything. But still I could have said no. But I didn't.
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If the single guy knew, its definitely wrong in my book. Otherwise, no. Tho I see the temptation. Its feels empowering, esp if the girl is hot. Been there done that.
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a_riot04 posted...

If the single guy knew, its definitely wrong in my book. Otherwise, no. Tho I see the temptation. Its feels empowering, esp if the girl is hot. Been there done that.

Yeah it was kinda hot in a dirty fucked up way. Definitely a mix of feelings.
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mattnd2007 posted...

a_riot04 posted...

If the single guy knew, its definitely wrong in my book. Otherwise, no. Tho I see the temptation. Its feels empowering, esp if the girl is hot. Been there done that.

Yeah it was kinda hot in a dirty fucked up way. Definitely a mix of feelings.

Yeah. Just think of it this way, the guy can't get hurt by something he doesn't know. Probably a shitty approach but should help you feel less like a dick. At least, that's how I handle it.
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What even is a boyfriend and girlfriend other than words

I guess when you break it down to it's most basic level you are knowingly doing something that could hurt another person and in a very broad sense that is "wrong". In a more practical sense though there are levels. Are you sleeping with your friend or brother's girlfriend? You're a piece of shit. Are you seducing a married coworker via a long term gameplan? You're kind of a scumbag. Are you hooking up with some random chick who you met at a club who says she has a boyfriend "but not tonight"? Ehh...she was going to cheat with someone that night so it might as well be you.

Morally it's wrong, but it also depends on how deeply involved they are. If the person you are interested in is financially dependent and engaged or married to the other person then it's definitely wrong to try and have sex with them and steal them away, but let's say he / she is casually seeing someone, or in a turbulent relationship(Of no real fault of their own though), then you're not a complete scumbag for going for it. Also, follow the golden rule when it comes to getting involved with anyone.... NEVER, EVER go after, or accept the advances of a SO who is involved with a good friend or family member. That is wrong as fuck and is incredibly destructive.
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MICHALCOLE posted...

What even is a boyfriend and girlfriend other than words

People you share your time, emotions, possessions and finances with(All to differing degrees) and can hopefully trust and confide in them enough eventually to try build and better future together. To mock the overall worth of the people who love you, especially if they are good to you, is to mock your own family and life. Not a good outlook to have on life, even if it is cruel and unfair.
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If her boyfriend/husband is a cop, sleeping with her is the most morally righteous thing you can do.
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Number090684 posted...

MICHALCOLE posted...

What even is a boyfriend and girlfriend other than words

People you share your time, emotions, possessions and finances with(All to differing degrees) and can hopefully trust and confide in them enough eventually to try build and better future together. To mock the overall worth of the people who love you, especially if they are good to you, is to mock your own family and life. Not a good outlook to have on life, even if it is cruel and unfair.

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