Current Events > I'm 26 years old, married for 5 months, and don't get sex

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Yup, ask me anything
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why
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Why did you marry someone who doesn't enjoy sex if you clearly want to have sex?
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MabusIncarnate posted...

Why did you marry someone who doesn't enjoy sex if you clearly want to have sex?

Virgins on our wedding night
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berlyman101 posted...

why

Not sure, she doesn't open up about it.
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O_Town_Rulez posted...

MabusIncarnate posted...

Why did you marry someone who doesn't enjoy sex if you clearly want to have sex?

Virgins on our wedding night

YIKES situation you got there
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Was this an arranged or cultural type marriage? Did you see this coming?
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O_Town_Rulez posted...

MabusIncarnate posted...

Why did you marry someone who doesn't enjoy sex if you clearly want to have sex?

Virgins on our wedding night

Ohhh well that's a very different scenario then.

How many times would you say you have had sex since marriage? Under 10?
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MabusIncarnate posted...

O_Town_Rulez posted...

MabusIncarnate posted...

Why did you marry someone who doesn't enjoy sex if you clearly want to have sex?

Virgins on our wedding night

Ohhh well that's a very different scenario then.

How many times would you say you have had sex since marriage? Under 10?

Im really curious as well
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berlyman101 posted...

Was this an arranged or cultural type marriage? Did you see this coming?

Did not see this coming at all, we were virgins but all over each other, but when it came to penetration, bam she stopped wanting anything.
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Didn't you used to post on The Milky Weigh board, TC?
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O_Town_Rulez posted...

berlyman101 posted...

Was this an arranged or cultural type marriage? Did you see this coming?

Did not see this coming at all, we were virgins but all over each other, but when it came to penetration, bam she stopped wanting anything.

Was the first experience bad for her, like from pain?
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MabusIncarnate posted...

O_Town_Rulez posted...

MabusIncarnate posted...

Why did you marry someone who doesn't enjoy sex if you clearly want to have sex?

Virgins on our wedding night

Ohhh well that's a very different scenario then.

How many times would you say you have had sex since marriage? Under 10?

Depends on what you consider actual sex, penetration in the vagina, only 2 times. Anal, 5 times.
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O_Town_Rulez posted...

MabusIncarnate posted...

O_Town_Rulez posted...

MabusIncarnate posted...

Why did you marry someone who doesn't enjoy sex if you clearly want to have sex?

Virgins on our wedding night

Ohhh well that's a very different scenario then.

How many times would you say you have had sex since marriage? Under 10?

Depends on what you consider actual sex, penetration in the vagina, only 2 times. Anal, 5 times.

Holy shit. Im sorry for your misfortune TC
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Shadowplay posted...

Didn't you used to post on The Milky Weigh board, TC?

Yup

MC_BatCommander posted...

O_Town_Rulez posted...

berlyman101 posted...

Was this an arranged or cultural type marriage? Did you see this coming?

Did not see this coming at all, we were virgins but all over each other, but when it came to penetration, bam she stopped wanting anything.

Was the first experience bad for her, like from pain?

She cried but I thought that was normal for a woman's first time.
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O_Town_Rulez posted...

MabusIncarnate posted...

O_Town_Rulez posted...

MabusIncarnate posted...

Why did you marry someone who doesn't enjoy sex if you clearly want to have sex?

Virgins on our wedding night

Ohhh well that's a very different scenario then.

How many times would you say you have had sex since marriage? Under 10?

Depends on what you consider actual sex, penetration in the vagina, only 2 times. Anal, 5 times.

Wait what? Are you trolling? Be serious..
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wow that's fucked
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MabusIncarnate posted...

O_Town_Rulez posted...

MabusIncarnate posted...

O_Town_Rulez posted...

MabusIncarnate posted...

Why did you marry someone who doesn't enjoy sex if you clearly want to have sex?

Virgins on our wedding night

Ohhh well that's a very different scenario then.

How many times would you say you have had sex since marriage? Under 10?

Depends on what you consider actual sex, penetration in the vagina, only 2 times. Anal, 5 times.

Wait what? Are you trolling? Be serious..

I'm sorry?
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I mean, both of you are virgins, just the immediate leap into anal and moreso than vaginal across 7 total sexual experiences for both of you is hard to believe.. I mean i'm not saying you are lying but that's just a very unusual statistic.
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Like, talk to her about this.
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MabusIncarnate posted...

I mean, both of you are virgins, just the immediate leap into anal and moreso than vaginal across 7 total sexual experiences for both of you is hard to believe.. I mean i'm not saying you are lying but that's just a very unusual statistic.

I knew it wasn't normal but she said she liked it in the butt more after our first time trying vaginal and then anal so we stuck with that for a little bit. Most of that was done on the honeymoon as well.
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billcom6 posted...

Like, talk to her about this.

And this, it's already a very serious problem for only 5 months into the marriage.

I mean, is your dick enormous? Serious question.
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billcom6 posted...

Like, talk to her about this.

Tried, she just tells me I don't understand and then I try to tell her that I won't understand if she doesn't tell me.
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MabusIncarnate posted...

billcom6 posted...

Like, talk to her about this.

And this, it's already a very serious problem for only 5 months into the marriage.

I mean, is your dick enormous? Serious question.

No it's actually a little below average. Not much, but it's not huge lol
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If that's true you are probably getting cucked TC.
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did you destroy her with your magnum dong during her first time?

I'm out of here
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Number090684 posted...

If that's true you are probably getting cucked TC.

I don't know when she would do anything since we are always around each other.

Comfy_Pillow posted...

did you destroy her with your magnum dong during her first time?

I wish that was the reason lol
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Do you know of any history of abuse she may have endured? If i'm getting too personal let me know, i'm just trying to understand this. It's a rare scenario, when I got married, we fucked like rabbits, like 20 times a week easy. It slowed, but not even close to an average of once a month.
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O_Town_Rulez posted...

billcom6 posted...

Like, talk to her about this.

Tried, she just tells me I don't understand and then I try to tell her that I won't understand if she doesn't tell me.

Yeah, that's not gonna fly. Your marriage is never going to last if she can't be honest, vulnerable, and communicate with her husband.
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Awakened_Link posted...

O_Town_Rulez posted...

billcom6 posted...

Like, talk to her about this.

Tried, she just tells me I don't understand and then I try to tell her that I won't understand if she doesn't tell me.

Yeah, that's not gonna fly. Your marriage is never going to last if she can't be honest, vulnerable, and communicate with her husband.

Yeeeah y'all need therapy asap or it's not gonna end well
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O_Town_Rulez posted...

Yup

Is the Discord for the board users dead now?
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Awakened_Link posted...

O_Town_Rulez posted...

billcom6 posted...

Like, talk to her about this.

Tried, she just tells me I don't understand and then I try to tell her that I won't understand if she doesn't tell me.

Yeah, that's not gonna fly. Your marriage is never going to last if she can't be honest, vulnerable, and communicate with her husband.

This is a very smart post, and you are entirely correct. You can't build on anything if she won't let you in and talk to you about things like this.
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MabusIncarnate posted...

Do you know of any history of abuse she may have endured? If i'm getting too personal let me know, i'm just trying to understand this. It's a rare scenario, when I got married, we fucked like rabbits, like 20 times a week easy. It slowed, but not even close to an average of once a month.

She has never been sexually abused as far as I know.
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MC_BatCommander posted...

Awakened_Link posted...

O_Town_Rulez posted...

billcom6 posted...

Like, talk to her about this.

Tried, she just tells me I don't understand and then I try to tell her that I won't understand if she doesn't tell me.

Yeah, that's not gonna fly. Your marriage is never going to last if she can't be honest, vulnerable, and communicate with her husband.

Yeeeah y'all need therapy asap or it's not gonna end well

I agree, she doesn't.

Shadowplay posted...

O_Town_Rulez posted...

Yup

Is the Discord for the board users dead now?

What discord lol
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I feel like this is going to become a big issue sooner rather than later. You're still in the prime of your life and obviously you want to explore sex more, she should want to do the same. I don't know why she's not communicating with you about it more.

If she's the same age as you or around there, maybe she just has some weird hang-ups about sex. I feel like most women lose their v-card in their teens or maybe college years at the latest. Still being a virgin up until the mid-late 20's is almost a bit of a red flag.

Stuff like this is why I'm too scared to ever get married, lol. Imagine if they turn out to be a total monster or you go from fucking like rabbits to getting it like once a year on your birthday and that's it. You can't just peace out whenever you want, you're married now. I also wouldn't cheat on someone so that'd be out of the question as well.
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I mean, let's be real here. There is a reason, maybe it's your O face. Maybe it's something else. When she says "You wouldn't understand" there's a solid fact in her mind preventing you two from having sex. You need to figure out what that is, and she needs to talk to you about it. Right now, it's entirely unhealthy, and you are already going down a negative path. I know it's "just sex" but there's a lot more to it, and the lack of communication is concerning.

Set up a "house meeting" or whatever, letting her know you want to sit down and talk this through, set a time, and really just pursue this. Don't bring it up in casual conversation and blow it off when she makes an excuse why she won't tell you what's wrong. That isn't what marriage is at all. If there's no trust, no communication, there's zero foundation to begin building your lives together. Right now you are just living with each other, and you both should be a single unit.
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This should have come up before you married her, its a bad sign that she wont talk about it too as this is a serious issue that needs to be dealt with.

Get counseling or something cause your already on the road to having the marriage fall apart.
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How long were you two together before you married? Has communication before this ever been a problem?
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Don't bail on us now, I feel like we are getting somewhere.
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The dude is trolling obviously.
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eggcorn posted...

I'm out of here

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brestugo posted...

eggcorn posted...

I'm out of here

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How do you know if O Town rules is you never get to go there?
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Tell her to work with herself. 1 finger...2 finger...3..4..work up to get her hole fist in there.

Eventually can get her foot in there, work it real good.

By that time shell be primed and ready for that @O_Town_Rulez dick.

Of course, by that time it'll be like throwing a hot dog down a hall way.

Just rub the walls in that case, be sure to make circular motion.

Good luck, God speed.

You could, y'know' sit down and talk about this like a married couple. Certainly more helpful than a video game message board.
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The first few times are really painful for a girl. Be understanding and patient but persevere. Her experience will change as she loosens up and hopefully she will like it.

And TC was never heard from again.
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i'd try therapy. if not you're probably gonna get divorced soon.

like how much do you love her? willing to stay if you never have sex again?

I'm 36 single and do but nt often enough. I need lower standards.
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