Current Events > Dear dudes everywhere: just leave her alone.

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Solid Snake07 posted...

LinksLiege posted...

Solid Snake07 posted...

Sure, but they'd probably prefer to be reading at home as opposed to on a stuffy bus where ass clowns with no self awareness will try to hit on them

Ok.

How does that mitigate what you declared earlier?

I never said the only reason they're reading is to get people to leave them alone. But 99 out of 100 times if someone is reading a book they probably don't want to stop to make small talk with a complete stranger

Why do you say this? How do you know?

Do you think people dont like talking to engaging strangers? The act of filling boredom with an activity like music or reading does not automatically mean they are not willing to converse with others.

I think youre looking at social interactions too cautiously.
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Women usually sit back and wait for suitors to approach. This is why men approach women and try their luck.
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bobaban posted...

cuttin_in_farm posted...

Someone having earbuds or reading is not an indication that they want to be left alone.

Its an indication that listening to music or reading > not listening to music or reading.

In public, Ill have earbuds in. If someone interesting decides to talk to me, I will and have talk to them.

You dont know until you try. Not everyone hates social interactions not planned. Just know you might get resistance, and respect that.

Its more about the intention on why or talking to her. This piece is directed at men who are approaching women because of sexual interest.

Girls don't like sex?
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karlpilkington4 posted...

bobaban posted...

cuttin_in_farm posted...

Someone having earbuds or reading is not an indication that they want to be left alone.

Its an indication that listening to music or reading > not listening to music or reading.

In public, Ill have earbuds in. If someone interesting decides to talk to me, I will and have talk to them.

You dont know until you try. Not everyone hates social interactions not planned. Just know you might get resistance, and respect that.

Its more about the intention on why or talking to her. This piece is directed at men who are approaching women because of sexual interest.

Girls don't like sex?

Apparently. Intention is irrelevant. So long as the person is engaging or endearing, people will talk. Exchange numbers. Laugh. Etc. its not a clear cut case.
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karlpilkington4 posted...

Where'd you get that statistic from? Your local town hall, or did you call CNN and ask for their reports on the subject? If you suck at communicating, or are otherwise boring to talk to, then they probably don't want to talk to you. But if you are engaging and more entertaining than the book, then I fail to see how you can't see the value exchange.

How do you think people meet each other? Message boards?

Why are you getting so defensive about the fact that most people don't want to talk to you on the bus? there's a reason most people sit in silence on public transportation, it's because they don't want to talk to anyone. Most people who are talking to each other are either there together or take the same bus together every day. Do you even live in a city? Cause you seem pretty out of touch with basic public behavior.
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Sounds like a self-fufilling prophecy.
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Funbazooka posted...

Women usually sit back and wait for suitors to approach. This is why men approach women and try their luck.

Which is fine, the problem is plenty of guys don't know how to take a hint when it isn't happening, or even worse don't care.
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>Don't want men hitting on you
>Insist that the man makes the first move

Pick one.
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Solid Snake07 posted...

karlpilkington4 posted...

Where'd you get that statistic from? Your local town hall, or did you call CNN and ask for their reports on the subject? If you suck at communicating, or are otherwise boring to talk to, then they probably don't want to talk to you. But if you are engaging and more entertaining than the book, then I fail to see how you can't see the value exchange.

How do you think people meet each other? Message boards?

Why are you getting so defensive about the fact that most people don't want to talk to you on the bus? there's a reason most people sit in silence on public transportation, it's because they don't want to talk to anyone. Most people who are talking to each other are either there together or take the same bus together every day. Do you even live in a city? Cause you seem pretty out of touch with basic public behavior.

You're literally making up statistics and assuming you know what everyone is thinking at any given moment. I literally meet girls doing this exact approach, so I know it works. There is video evidence of cold approaches in cities all over the world. Not every situation works out, on the other hand, other people report finding their spouses and girlfriends doing things like this.

So I think your messages are based on fear and a scarcity mindset, and this type of thinking makes people fear strangers for no reason. If the person you're approaching isn't interested, they will let you know. If you're not socially collaborated, then it can be a problem, but that's not the issue here.
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Solid Snake07 posted...

Funbazooka posted...

Women usually sit back and wait for suitors to approach. This is why men approach women and try their luck.

Which is fine, the problem is plenty of guys don't know how to take a hint when it isn't happening, or even worse don't care.

Sometimes men push their luck because women are kinda expected (by other women) to offer up some token resistance (even if they're into the guy) and play a little game. I don't think men ought to be vilified for not being mind-readers, when women usually play coy. It's hit or miss. It's a numbers game.
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