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masticatingman 04/28/18 5:17:59 PM #52:	Breaking up is better than cheating long term. Youll just feel guilty if you have any conscience and it will be unnecessarily psychologically damaging. You dont even have kids so you cant even bring up a keeping the family together argument. --- I am basically am I. Well, basically. <cite>masticatingman posted [p:900471953] in I am dange... [t:76561038]...</cite> <quote>Breaking up is better than cheating long term. Youll just feel guilty if you have any conscience and it will be unnecessarily psychologically damaging. You dont even have kids so you cant even bring up a keeping the family together argument.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
VandorLee 04/28/18 5:18:19 PM #53:	If i read my wife write this, id divorce her and shed vice versa. --- "God didn't create humans, no, it's humans who created God." Dr. Londes, Cowboy Bebop: "Brain Scratch" (#1.23) (1999) <cite>VandorLee posted [p:900471966] in I am dange... [t:76561038]...</cite> <quote>If i read my wife write this, id divorce her and shed vice versa.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Aki_Narukami 04/28/18 5:21:38 PM #54:	dump her don't be a prick <cite>Aki_Narukami posted [p:900472126] in I am dange... [t:76561038]...</cite> <quote>dump her don't be a prick</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
GodSlayer15 04/28/18 6:40:37 PM #55:	-Unowninator- posted... TC, did you see my post? I saw it, it's not relevant to anything I've talked about bro. IfGodCouldDie posted... If cheating would only be physical what sexual needs does sex provide you with that jerking off doesn't? Because the endgame is the exact same in sex and masturbation, orgasm. Well I mean....it's pretty basic. There's a huge difference between jerking off and **ing someone. Yeah orgasm is the end game, but nothing beats the real deal. wah_wah_wah posted... It's barely a relationship if she refuses sex. It's not even like she just stopped showing an interest - by the sounds of it, she hates sex and is emotionally crippled by it. How can you be with a person like that in a real, romantic relationship? She doesn't hate sex, she definitely enjoys it. It's just entirely based on religion, sex to her is something only married people should do. Sajo posted... Tell her to get off BC and go back to condoms. Or see someone about getting an IUD. She doesn't want an IUD because she got one before and it messed up or something. I could try and get her off BC at some point, but then I still look like a jackass if I have sex with her after that when she can't control herself anymore. I mean I guess it somewhat solves the problem, but deep down she's not ok with doing it. JustMyOpinion posted... Just dump her. Not being sexually compatible is a legit reason to break up. Also unfair of her to freak out and nearly dump you when she consented to sex. Well I wouldn't we aren't compatible, it's the best sex I've ever had in my life with her. So I know if we get married the sex is great in the end, but it's a matter of getting to that point. --- "The future I want is the one that I create for myself.......even if it costs me my own soul. " <cite>GodSlayer15 posted [p:900475997] in I am dange... [t:76561038]...</cite> <quote><cite>-Unowninator- posted...</cite> <quote>TC, did you see my post?</quote> I saw it, it's not relevant to anything I've talked about bro. <cite>IfGodCouldDie posted...</cite> <quote> If cheating would only be physical what sexual needs does sex provide you with that jerking off doesn't? Because the endgame is the exact same in sex and masturbation, orgasm.</quote> Well I mean....it's pretty basic. There's a huge difference between jerking off and **ing someone. Yeah orgasm is the end game, but nothing beats the real deal. <cite>wah_wah_wah posted...</cite> <quote>It's barely a relationship if she refuses sex. It's not even like she just stopped showing an interest - by the sounds of it, she hates sex and is emotionally crippled by it. How can you be with a person like that in a real, romantic relationship? </quote> She doesn't hate sex, she definitely enjoys it. It's just entirely based on religion, sex to her is something only married people should do. <cite>Sajo posted...</cite> <quote>Tell her to get off BC and go back to condoms. Or see someone about getting an IUD.</quote> She doesn't want an IUD because she got one before and it messed up or something. I could try and get her off BC at some point, but then I still look like a jackass if I have sex with her after that when she can't control herself anymore. I mean I guess it somewhat solves the problem, but deep down she's not ok with doing it. <cite>JustMyOpinion posted...</cite> <quote>Just dump her. Not being sexually compatible is a legit reason to break up. Also unfair of her to freak out and nearly dump you when she consented to sex.</quote> Well I wouldn't we aren't compatible, it's the best sex I've ever had in my life with her. So I know if we get married the sex is great in the end, but it's a matter of getting to that point.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
IfGodCouldDie 04/28/18 6:42:01 PM #56:	GodSlayer15 posted... Well I mean....it's pretty basic. There's a huge difference between jerking off and **ing someone. Yeah orgasm is the end game, but nothing beats the real deal. That doesn't answer my question. What is the difference in your opinion? --- Mind post. XBL:Cyanide Sucker PSN:Paters1 IGN:SuperPattyCakes <cite>IfGodCouldDie posted [p:900476058] in I am dange... [t:76561038]...</cite> <quote><cite>GodSlayer15 posted...</cite> <quote>Well I mean....it's pretty basic. There's a huge difference between jerking off and **ing someone. Yeah orgasm is the end game, but nothing beats the real deal.</quote> That doesn't answer my question. What is the difference in your opinion?</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
juicebox4 04/28/18 6:42:28 PM #57:	juicebox4 posted... TheMikh posted... dump her because she deserves better hey man, he's done nothing wrong yet. her views make her seem batshit tbh; she says sex makes her feel morally fucked and yet she initiates it and strongarms him into it anyway only to guilt him after. HE deserves better tbh, so ditch her tc. form a relationship w whoever you were gona cheat on her with. and don't pick another crazy religious nut. reposting this so TC sees it. --- Ding dong, bing bong GABBA GABBA HEY <cite>juicebox4 posted [p:900476080] in I am dange... [t:76561038]...</cite> <quote><cite>juicebox4 posted...</cite> <quote><cite>TheMikh posted...</cite> <quote>dump her because she deserves better</quote> hey man, he's done nothing wrong yet. her views make her seem batshit tbh; she says sex makes her feel morally fucked and yet she initiates it and strongarms him into it anyway only to guilt him after. HE deserves better tbh, so ditch her tc. form a relationship w whoever you were gona cheat on her with. and don't pick another crazy religious nut.</quote> reposting this so TC sees it.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
GodSlayer15 04/28/18 6:44:56 PM #58:	IfGodCouldDie posted... That doesn't answer my question. I thought it did. Jerking off doesn't satisfy the urge. It's like almost an animal thing, sometimes you need to ** not jerk off. --- "The future I want is the one that I create for myself.......even if it costs me my own soul. " <cite>GodSlayer15 posted [p:900476206] in I am dange... [t:76561038]...</cite> <quote><cite>IfGodCouldDie posted...</cite> <quote> That doesn't answer my question.</quote> I thought it did. Jerking off doesn't satisfy the urge. It's like almost an animal thing, sometimes you need to ** not jerk off.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
catboy0_0 04/28/18 6:46:02 PM #59:	have you considered getting couples therapy <cite>catboy0_0 posted [p:900476258] in I am dange... [t:76561038]...</cite> <quote>have you considered getting couples therapy</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
wah_wah_wah 04/28/18 6:46:03 PM #60:	GodSlayer15 posted... She doesn't hate sex, she definitely enjoys it. It's just entirely based on religion, sex to her is something only married people should do. So she hates sex. <cite>wah_wah_wah posted [p:900476261] in I am dange... [t:76561038]...</cite> <quote><cite>GodSlayer15 posted...</cite> <quote>She doesn't hate sex, she definitely enjoys it. It's just entirely based on religion, sex to her is something only married people should do. </quote> So she hates sex.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
GodSlayer15 04/28/18 6:47:05 PM #61:	juicebox4 posted... juicebox4 posted... TheMikh posted... dump her because she deserves better hey man, he's done nothing wrong yet. her views make her seem batshit tbh; she says sex makes her feel morally fucked and yet she initiates it and strongarms him into it anyway only to guilt him after. HE deserves better tbh, so ditch her tc. form a relationship w whoever you were gona cheat on her with. and don't pick another crazy religious nut. reposting this so TC sees it. I saw it. I've definitely put up with a lot of stuff through our relationship and made sacrifices, including the current one. But I'm not too good for her or vice versa, we're a good match. --- "The future I want is the one that I create for myself.......even if it costs me my own soul. " <cite>GodSlayer15 posted [p:900476318] in I am dange... [t:76561038]...</cite> <quote><cite>juicebox4 posted...</cite> <quote><cite>juicebox4 posted...</cite> <quote><cite>TheMikh posted...</cite> <quote>dump her because she deserves better</quote> hey man, he's done nothing wrong yet. her views make her seem batshit tbh; she says sex makes her feel morally fucked and yet she initiates it and strongarms him into it anyway only to guilt him after. HE deserves better tbh, so ditch her tc. form a relationship w whoever you were gona cheat on her with. and don't pick another crazy religious nut.</quote> reposting this so TC sees it.</quote> I saw it. I've definitely put up with a lot of stuff through our relationship and made sacrifices, including the current one. But I'm not too good for her or vice versa, we're a good match.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Baneseeker 04/28/18 6:48:14 PM #62:	GodSlayer15 posted... So I'm stuck with 3 options, 2 of which will make me feel like a total jackass. One, I can suck it up and just try and deal with it, but I don't think that's realistic. 2 I can break up with her and she'll hate me because I'll be breaking up over sex, especially since I've told her many times she means way more to me than just sex. 3, I can cheat on her and keep us both happy. I'd still be getting my physical needs met, and our relationship would continue as normal. But I'd be a cheating piece of **** so eh. Situation is so frustrating. You cheating on her will not make her happy unless she agrees to an open relationship. Though at that point it's not cheating anymore. --- Now bring me that horizon <cite>Baneseeker posted [p:900476377] in I am dange... [t:76561038]...</cite> <quote><cite>GodSlayer15 posted...</cite> <quote> So I'm stuck with 3 options, 2 of which will make me feel like a total jackass. One, I can suck it up and just try and deal with it, but I don't think that's realistic. 2 I can break up with her and she'll hate me because I'll be breaking up over sex, especially since I've told her many times she means way more to me than just sex. 3, I can cheat on her and keep us both happy. I'd still be getting my physical needs met, and our relationship would continue as normal. But I'd be a cheating piece of **** so eh. Situation is so frustrating.</quote> You cheating on her will not make her happy unless she agrees to an open relationship. Though at that point it's not cheating anymore.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Jerry_Hellyeah 04/28/18 6:51:43 PM #63:	Dont be a cheating loser. --- This is a cool sig <cite>Jerry_Hellyeah posted [p:900476531] in I am dange... [t:76561038]...</cite> <quote>Dont be a cheating loser.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
OpShaft 04/28/18 6:52:31 PM #64:	Baneseeker posted... GodSlayer15 posted... So I'm stuck with 3 options, 2 of which will make me feel like a total jackass. One, I can suck it up and just try and deal with it, but I don't think that's realistic. 2 I can break up with her and she'll hate me because I'll be breaking up over sex, especially since I've told her many times she means way more to me than just sex. 3, I can cheat on her and keep us both happy. I'd still be getting my physical needs met, and our relationship would continue as normal. But I'd be a cheating piece of ** so eh. Situation is so frustrating. You cheating on her will not make her happy unless she agrees to an open relationship. Though at that point it's not cheating anymore. The idea is that she won't know he cheated. Perfectly sound idea if that's how it plays out --- Posted with GameRaven 3.4 <cite>OpShaft posted [p:900476576] in I am dange... [t:76561038]...</cite> <quote><cite>Baneseeker posted...</cite> <quote><cite>GodSlayer15 posted...</cite> <quote> So I'm stuck with 3 options, 2 of which will make me feel like a total jackass. One, I can suck it up and just try and deal with it, but I don't think that's realistic. 2 I can break up with her and she'll hate me because I'll be breaking up over sex, especially since I've told her many times she means way more to me than just sex. 3, I can cheat on her and keep us both happy. I'd still be getting my physical needs met, and our relationship would continue as normal. But I'd be a cheating piece of ** so eh. Situation is so frustrating.</quote> You cheating on her will not make her happy unless she agrees to an open relationship. Though at that point it's not cheating anymore.</quote> The idea is that she won't know he cheated. Perfectly sound idea if that's how it plays out</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Sativa_Rose 04/28/18 6:58:27 PM #65:	Just tell the GF that you have certain male needs that need to be met --- I may not go down in history, but I will go down on your sister. <cite>Sativa_Rose posted [p:900476842] in I am dange... [t:76561038]...</cite> <quote>Just tell the GF that you have certain male needs that need to be met</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Pitlord_Special 04/28/18 7:01:55 PM #66:	So you started from a clean slate with a woman wet and willing and a year later shes a wreck who finds sex to be an intensely traumatic experience. Sounds like you completely mismanaged her sexual growth and at least owe her the effort of trying to work past it instead of kicking her to the curb and blaming her for it <cite>Pitlord_Special posted [p:900477000] in I am dange... [t:76561038]...</cite> <quote>So you started from a clean slate with a woman wet and willing and a year later shes a wreck who finds sex to be an intensely traumatic experience. Sounds like you completely mismanaged her sexual growth and at least owe her the effort of trying to work past it instead of kicking her to the curb and blaming her for it</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
lincoln002 04/28/18 7:05:16 PM #67:	GodSlayer15 posted... lincoln002 posted... Don't break up just because of sex, that's stupid. Sex is not that important man, I don't know why you feel you need it so much. Why don't you just settle for oral sex and try to find a middle ground? Or just jerk off. This is a phase she's going through brother, you were her first and if you play your cards right you can be her only as well, don't be an idiot and throw away a great girl just because you're not busting as many nuts as you need. Go to couples counseling or something man. I'd be more than content with oral sex, but she feels exactly the same way about that. And jerking off only gets you so far and doesn't really fulfill sexual needs, at least not for me. Well relationships require sacrifices and right now you need to sacrifice your sex life for your partners mental health. You completely ignored the advice I gave you about couples counseling. You've got a great girl and real opportunity at a successful relationship, but it seems you don't understand how a relationship works so it's not a bad idea to get some help so both of you can learn to love each other better. <cite>lincoln002 posted [p:900477145] in I am dange... [t:76561038]...</cite> <quote><cite>GodSlayer15 posted...</cite> <quote><cite>lincoln002 posted...</cite> <quote>Don't break up just because of sex, that's stupid. Sex is not that important man, I don't know why you feel you need it so much. Why don't you just settle for oral sex and try to find a middle ground? Or just jerk off. This is a phase she's going through brother, you were her first and if you play your cards right you can be her only as well, don't be an idiot and throw away a great girl just because you're not busting as many nuts as you need. Go to couples counseling or something man.</quote> I'd be more than content with oral sex, but she feels exactly the same way about that. And jerking off only gets you so far and doesn't really fulfill sexual needs, at least not for me.</quote> Well relationships require sacrifices and right now you need to sacrifice your sex life for your partners mental health. You completely ignored the advice I gave you about couples counseling. You've got a great girl and real opportunity at a successful relationship, but it seems you don't understand how a relationship works so it's not a bad idea to get some help so both of you can learn to love each other better.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
IfGodCouldDie 04/28/18 7:08:11 PM #68:	GodSlayer15 posted... IfGodCouldDie posted... That doesn't answer my question. I thought it did. Jerking off doesn't satisfy the urge. It's like almost an animal thing, sometimes you need to ** not jerk off. So if that's the case for you, it's highly unlikely that cheating would be anything but "just physical." --- Mind post. XBL:Cyanide Sucker PSN:Paters1 IGN:SuperPattyCakes <cite>IfGodCouldDie posted [p:900477302] in I am dange... [t:76561038]...</cite> <quote><cite>GodSlayer15 posted...</cite> <quote><cite>IfGodCouldDie posted...</cite> <quote> That doesn't answer my question.</quote> I thought it did. Jerking off doesn't satisfy the urge. It's like almost an animal thing, sometimes you need to ** not jerk off.</quote> So if that's the case for you, it's highly unlikely that cheating would be anything but "just physical."</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
thelovefist 04/28/18 7:08:46 PM #69:	You seem like a narcissist to me TC --- N/A <cite>thelovefist posted [p:900477332] in I am dange... [t:76561038]...</cite> <quote>You seem like a narcissist to me TC</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Ruvan22 04/28/18 8:01:11 PM #70:	How old are you two? <cite>Ruvan22 posted [p:900479811] in I am dange... [t:76561038]...</cite> <quote>How old are you two?</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Sariana21 04/28/18 8:04:49 PM #71:	Didn't read all the responses. She should talk to her doctor about other options for birth control. That should be the first step. BTW, how old are you and she? --- ___ Sari, Mom to DS (07/04) and DD (01/08) <cite>Sariana21 posted [p:900480003] in I am dange... [t:76561038]...</cite> <quote>Didn't read all the responses. She should talk to her doctor about other options for birth control. That should be the first step. BTW, how old are you and she?</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Letron_James 04/28/18 8:30:39 PM #72:	Just move on. Sex is a very important part of relationships. If you are having issues before marriage than they will only get worse. It was her choice to continually have sex with you, and using religion to explain why its wrong is very selfish on her end. I was in the same situation beforehand too, keep in mind unless she is actually a faithful Christian she should be living the lifestyle outside of the bedroom as well in all aspects, if not that theres almost definitely an ulterior motive behind it. Also if you let her control the aspect of sex in general to that degree your thirst for cheating will only get bigger, and theres no reason to go down that route at all. --- Ask me if I would eat da booty. <cite>Letron_James posted [p:900481192] in I am dange... [t:76561038]...</cite> <quote>Just move on. Sex is a very important part of relationships. If you are having issues before marriage than they will only get worse. It was her choice to continually have sex with you, and using religion to explain why its wrong is very selfish on her end. I was in the same situation beforehand too, keep in mind unless she is actually a faithful Christian she should be living the lifestyle outside of the bedroom as well in all aspects, if not that theres almost definitely an ulterior motive behind it. Also if you let her control the aspect of sex in general to that degree your thirst for cheating will only get bigger, and theres no reason to go down that route at all.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
GodSlayer15 04/28/18 8:36:27 PM #73:	Pitlord_Special posted... So you started from a clean slate with a woman wet and willing and a year later shes a wreck who finds sex to be an intensely traumatic experience. Sounds like you completely mismanaged her sexual growth and at least owe her the effort of trying to work past it instead of kicking her to the curb and blaming her for it I didn't mismanage anything. I flat out denied her sex for the first few weeks of our relationship because I knew she didn't want to do it. I told her at the time she needs to make that decision with a clear head and not while we're in the middle of making out and things. She came to me and said it is what she wanted and we talked about it before following through with it. Not once in our entire year relationship have I ever pressured her for sex or even initiated sex with her. Literally every time we had sex, she started it. I'm not kicking her to the curb or blaming her for anything either. lincoln002 posted... Well relationships require sacrifices and right now you need to sacrifice your sex life for your partners mental health. You completely ignored the advice I gave you about couples counseling. You've got a great girl and real opportunity at a successful relationship, but it seems you don't understand how a relationship works so it's not a bad idea to get some help so both of you can learn to love each other better. I know and I've made sacrifices and continue to do so. I ignored it because I don't need couples counseling, our relationship is perfectly fine. IfGodCouldDie posted... So if that's the case for you, it's highly unlikely that cheating would be anything but "just physical." I know myself though. I've banged random chicks multiple times and couldn't give 2 **s about them afterwards. I care about my girlfriend and know that's who I love, sex with someone else would just be sex. Ruvan22 posted... How old are you two? I'm 26, she's 24. Sariana21 posted... Didn't read all the responses. She should talk to her doctor about other options for birth control. That should be the first step. I don't see what that is going to accomplish. If she gets her sex drive back, I know how she really feels about doing it now that I don't know if I can just have sex with her because I want it. Anyways, thanks for all the responses guys. To be honest I was never really seriously even considering cheating on her at all, just wanted to vent and get different opinions. I agree with what a lot of you have said, if it comes to that point I will end things first. I'm not a cheater bros! --- "The future I want is the one that I create for myself.......even if it costs me my own soul. " <cite>GodSlayer15 posted [p:900481477] in I am dange... [t:76561038]...</cite> <quote><cite>Pitlord_Special posted...</cite> <quote>So you started from a clean slate with a woman wet and willing and a year later shes a wreck who finds sex to be an intensely traumatic experience. Sounds like you completely mismanaged her sexual growth and at least owe her the effort of trying to work past it instead of kicking her to the curb and blaming her for it</quote> I didn't mismanage anything. I flat out denied her sex for the first few weeks of our relationship because I knew she didn't want to do it. I told her at the time she needs to make that decision with a clear head and not while we're in the middle of making out and things. She came to me and said it is what she wanted and we talked about it before following through with it. Not once in our entire year relationship have I ever pressured her for sex or even initiated sex with her. Literally every time we had sex, she started it. I'm not kicking her to the curb or blaming her for anything either. <cite>lincoln002 posted...</cite> <quote> Well relationships require sacrifices and right now you need to sacrifice your sex life for your partners mental health. You completely ignored the advice I gave you about couples counseling. You've got a great girl and real opportunity at a successful relationship, but it seems you don't understand how a relationship works so it's not a bad idea to get some help so both of you can learn to love each other better.</quote> I know and I've made sacrifices and continue to do so. I ignored it because I don't need couples counseling, our relationship is perfectly fine. <cite>IfGodCouldDie posted...</cite> <quote>So if that's the case for you, it's highly unlikely that cheating would be anything but "just physical."</quote> I know myself though. I've banged random chicks multiple times and couldn't give 2 **s about them afterwards. I care about my girlfriend and know that's who I love, sex with someone else would just be sex. <cite>Ruvan22 posted...</cite> <quote>How old are you two?</quote> I'm 26, she's 24. <cite>Sariana21 posted...</cite> <quote>Didn't read all the responses. She should talk to her doctor about other options for birth control. That should be the first step. </quote> I don't see what that is going to accomplish. If she gets her sex drive back, I know how she really feels about doing it now that I don't know if I can just have sex with her because I want it. Anyways, thanks for all the responses guys. To be honest I was never really seriously even considering cheating on her at all, just wanted to vent and get different opinions. I agree with what a lot of you have said, if it comes to that point I will end things first. I'm not a cheater bros!</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Sariana21 04/28/18 8:39:18 PM #74:	GodSlayer15 posted... Pitlord_Special posted... So you started from a clean slate with a woman wet and willing and a year later shes a wreck who finds sex to be an intensely traumatic experience. Sounds like you completely mismanaged her sexual growth and at least owe her the effort of trying to work past it instead of kicking her to the curb and blaming her for it I didn't mismanage anything. I flat out denied her sex for the first few weeks of our relationship because I knew she didn't want to do it. I told her at the time she needs to make that decision with a clear head and not while we're in the middle of making out and things. She came to me and said it is what she wanted and we talked about it before following through with it. Not once in our entire year relationship have I ever pressured her for sex or even initiated sex with her. Literally every time we had sex, she started it. I'm not kicking her to the curb or blaming her for anything either. lincoln002 posted... Well relationships require sacrifices and right now you need to sacrifice your sex life for your partners mental health. You completely ignored the advice I gave you about couples counseling. You've got a great girl and real opportunity at a successful relationship, but it seems you don't understand how a relationship works so it's not a bad idea to get some help so both of you can learn to love each other better. I know and I've made sacrifices and continue to do so. I ignored it because I don't need couples counseling, our relationship is perfectly fine. IfGodCouldDie posted... So if that's the case for you, it's highly unlikely that cheating would be anything but "just physical." I know myself though. I've banged random chicks multiple times and couldn't give 2 **s about them afterwards. I care about my girlfriend and know that's who I love, sex with someone else would just be sex. Ruvan22 posted... How old are you two? I'm 26, she's 24. Sariana21 posted... Didn't read all the responses. She should talk to her doctor about other options for birth control. That should be the first step. I don't see what that is going to accomplish. If she gets her sex drive back, I know how she really feels about doing it now that I don't know if I can just have sex with her because I want it. Anyways, thanks for all the responses guys. To be honest I was never really seriously even considering cheating on her at all, just wanted to vent and get different opinions. I agree with what a lot of you have said, if it comes to that point I will end things first. I'm not a cheater bros! You implied she was having overly emotional responses to things. That could be the result of a hormone imbalance. Many women are on the wrong birth control, or the wrong dosage, but never think to ask their doctors about it. It's not about her sex drive; it's about her emotional and physical well being. (It could be something else entirely, but I said talking to her doctor should be the FIRST step.) --- ___ Sari, Mom to DS (07/04) and DD (01/08) <cite>Sariana21 posted [p:900481609] in I am dange... [t:76561038]...</cite> <quote><cite>GodSlayer15 posted...</cite> <quote><cite>Pitlord_Special posted...</cite> <quote>So you started from a clean slate with a woman wet and willing and a year later shes a wreck who finds sex to be an intensely traumatic experience. Sounds like you completely mismanaged her sexual growth and at least owe her the effort of trying to work past it instead of kicking her to the curb and blaming her for it</quote> I didn't mismanage anything. I flat out denied her sex for the first few weeks of our relationship because I knew she didn't want to do it. I told her at the time she needs to make that decision with a clear head and not while we're in the middle of making out and things. She came to me and said it is what she wanted and we talked about it before following through with it. Not once in our entire year relationship have I ever pressured her for sex or even initiated sex with her. Literally every time we had sex, she started it. I'm not kicking her to the curb or blaming her for anything either. <cite>lincoln002 posted...</cite> <quote> Well relationships require sacrifices and right now you need to sacrifice your sex life for your partners mental health. You completely ignored the advice I gave you about couples counseling. You've got a great girl and real opportunity at a successful relationship, but it seems you don't understand how a relationship works so it's not a bad idea to get some help so both of you can learn to love each other better.</quote> I know and I've made sacrifices and continue to do so. I ignored it because I don't need couples counseling, our relationship is perfectly fine. <cite>IfGodCouldDie posted...</cite> <quote>So if that's the case for you, it's highly unlikely that cheating would be anything but "just physical."</quote> I know myself though. I've banged random chicks multiple times and couldn't give 2 **s about them afterwards. I care about my girlfriend and know that's who I love, sex with someone else would just be sex. <cite>Ruvan22 posted...</cite> <quote>How old are you two?</quote> I'm 26, she's 24. <cite>Sariana21 posted...</cite> <quote>Didn't read all the responses. She should talk to her doctor about other options for birth control. That should be the first step. </quote> I don't see what that is going to accomplish. If she gets her sex drive back, I know how she really feels about doing it now that I don't know if I can just have sex with her because I want it. Anyways, thanks for all the responses guys. To be honest I was never really seriously even considering cheating on her at all, just wanted to vent and get different opinions. I agree with what a lot of you have said, if it comes to that point I will end things first. I'm not a cheater bros!</quote> You implied she was having overly emotional responses to things. That could be the result of a hormone imbalance. Many women are on the wrong birth control, or the wrong dosage, but never think to ask their doctors about it. It's not about her sex drive; it's about her emotional and physical well being. (It could be something else entirely, but I said talking to her doctor should be the FIRST step.)</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Pus_N_Pecans 04/28/18 8:41:45 PM #75:	If you actually want to stay with her, just tell her how you're feeling and maybe mention masturbating as an alternative if she doesn't want to have sex. Although, if this is bothering you this much, it almost seems like you should end the relationship. Having sex with some random woman is literally the worst possible choice for everyone involved. (including whoever this stranger might be that you would have sex with) --- My arts- http://gopherguy.deviantart.com/ <cite>Pus_N_Pecans posted [p:900481726] in I am dange... [t:76561038]...</cite> <quote>If you actually want to stay with her, just tell her how you're feeling and maybe mention masturbating as an alternative if she doesn't want to have sex. Although, if this is bothering you this much, it almost seems like you should end the relationship. Having sex with some random woman is literally the worst possible choice for everyone involved. (including whoever this stranger might be that you would have sex with)</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
bulletproofvita 04/28/18 8:50:24 PM #76:	Guerrilla Soldier posted... if she was definitely the person, you would make the situation work This. If it's love as you say.... You'd know what to do. --- Signatures are overrated. <cite>bulletproofvita posted [p:900482138] in I am dange... [t:76561038]...</cite> <quote><cite>Guerrilla Soldier posted...</cite> <quote>if she was definitely the person, you would make the situation work</quote> This. If it's love as you say.... You'd know what to do.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
IfGodCouldDie 04/28/18 8:50:27 PM #77:	GodSlayer15 posted... I know myself though. I've banged random chicks multiple times and couldn't give 2 **s about them afterwards. I care about my girlfriend and know that's who I love, sex with someone else would just be sex. But for some reason you can't explain why you "need" sex instead of just jerking off. --- Mind post. XBL:Cyanide Sucker PSN:Paters1 IGN:SuperPattyCakes <cite>IfGodCouldDie posted [p:900482143] in I am dange... [t:76561038]...</cite> <quote><cite>GodSlayer15 posted...</cite> <quote>I know myself though. I've banged random chicks multiple times and couldn't give 2 **s about them afterwards. I care about my girlfriend and know that's who I love, sex with someone else would just be sex.</quote> But for some reason you can't explain why you "need" sex instead of just jerking off.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
IfGodCouldDie 04/28/18 8:51:55 PM #78:	Sariana21 posted... You implied she was having overly emotional responses to things. That could be the result of a hormone imbalance. Many women are on the wrong birth control, or the wrong dosage, but never think to ask their doctors about it. It's not about her sex drive; it's about her emotional and physical well being. (It could be something else entirely, but I said talking to her doctor should be the FIRST step.) This is a very good point. --- Mind post. XBL:Cyanide Sucker PSN:Paters1 IGN:SuperPattyCakes <cite>IfGodCouldDie posted [p:900482204] in I am dange... [t:76561038]...</cite> <quote><cite>Sariana21 posted...</cite> <quote>You implied she was having overly emotional responses to things. That could be the result of a hormone imbalance. Many women are on the wrong birth control, or the wrong dosage, but never think to ask their doctors about it. It's not about her sex drive; it's about her emotional and physical well being. (It could be something else entirely, but I said talking to her doctor should be the FIRST step.)</quote> This is a very good point.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
MarqueeSeries 04/28/18 9:13:59 PM #79:	lincoln002 posted... Don't break up just because of sex, that's stupid. Sex is not that important man, I don't know why you feel you need it so much. Why don't you just settle for oral sex and try to find a middle ground? Or just jerk off. This is a phase she's going through brother, you were her first and if you play your cards right you can be her only as well, don't be an idiot and throw away a great girl just because you're not busting as many nuts as you need. Go to couples counseling or something man. Sorry, but this is terrible advice. You can't write this off as "just because of sex" as if sex is some insignificant part of a relationship. If you're sexually incompatible with your partner, it's just not gonna work. Sorry TC, but you gotta let this go. She's let her religious beliefs get in the middle of your relationship. People like that can't be reasoned with --- Posted with GameRaven 3.4 <cite>MarqueeSeries posted [p:900483108] in I am dange... [t:76561038]...</cite> <quote><cite>lincoln002 posted...</cite> <quote>Don't break up just because of sex, that's stupid. Sex is not that important man, I don't know why you feel you need it so much. Why don't you just settle for oral sex and try to find a middle ground? Or just jerk off. This is a phase she's going through brother, you were her first and if you play your cards right you can be her only as well, don't be an idiot and throw away a great girl just because you're not busting as many nuts as you need. Go to couples counseling or something man.</quote> Sorry, but this is terrible advice. You can't write this off as "just because of sex" as if sex is some insignificant part of a relationship. If you're sexually incompatible with your partner, it's just not gonna work. Sorry TC, but you gotta let this go. She's let her religious beliefs get in the middle of your relationship. People like that can't be reasoned with</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
IfGodCouldDie 04/28/18 9:21:56 PM #80:	MarqueeSeries posted... lincoln002 posted... Don't break up just because of sex, that's stupid. Sex is not that important man, I don't know why you feel you need it so much. Why don't you just settle for oral sex and try to find a middle ground? Or just jerk off. This is a phase she's going through brother, you were her first and if you play your cards right you can be her only as well, don't be an idiot and throw away a great girl just because you're not busting as many nuts as you need. Go to couples counseling or something man. Sorry, but this is terrible advice. You can't write this off as "just because of sex" as if sex is some insignificant part of a relationship. If you're sexually incompatible with your partner, it's just not gonna work. Sorry TC, but you gotta let this go. She's let her religious beliefs get in the middle of your relationship. People like that can't be reasoned with You sound like someone that gives up at the slightest sign of adversity. --- Mind post. XBL:Cyanide Sucker PSN:Paters1 IGN:SuperPattyCakes <cite>IfGodCouldDie posted [p:900483450] in I am dange... [t:76561038]...</cite> <quote><cite>MarqueeSeries posted...</cite> <quote><cite>lincoln002 posted...</cite> <quote>Don't break up just because of sex, that's stupid. Sex is not that important man, I don't know why you feel you need it so much. Why don't you just settle for oral sex and try to find a middle ground? Or just jerk off. This is a phase she's going through brother, you were her first and if you play your cards right you can be her only as well, don't be an idiot and throw away a great girl just because you're not busting as many nuts as you need. Go to couples counseling or something man.</quote> Sorry, but this is terrible advice. You can't write this off as "just because of sex" as if sex is some insignificant part of a relationship. If you're sexually incompatible with your partner, it's just not gonna work. Sorry TC, but you gotta let this go. She's let her religious beliefs get in the middle of your relationship. People like that can't be reasoned with</quote> You sound like someone that gives up at the slightest sign of adversity.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Duwstai 04/28/18 9:22:12 PM #81:	It's probably just the birth control. It killed my gfs sex drive as well. She would have basically any excuse to avoid it. She got off it and went back to normal Im sure she akways has some slight guilt in the back of her mind but her sex drive and pleasure she gets from it normally blows it away in comparison. Now she's getting no drive or pleasure just those negative feelings. --- balls <cite>Duwstai posted [p:900483457] in I am dange... [t:76561038]...</cite> <quote>It's probably just the birth control. It killed my gfs sex drive as well. She would have basically any excuse to avoid it. She got off it and went back to normal Im sure she akways has some slight guilt in the back of her mind but her sex drive and pleasure she gets from it normally blows it away in comparison. Now she's getting no drive or pleasure just those negative feelings.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
lincoln002 04/29/18 8:10:31 PM #82:	@GodSlayer15 so you're just whining then? I gave you a reasonable solution to your problem, counseling... What do you think a counselor does? Ya know what, I should know better than give practical advice on this board, if you cared about your gf like you say you do this thread would be on the advice board, you just want attention, I hope your relationship works out buddy. <cite>lincoln002 posted [p:900534649] in I am dange... [t:76561038]...</cite> <quote>@GodSlayer15 so you're just whining then? I gave you a reasonable solution to your problem, counseling... What do you think a counselor does? Ya know what, I should know better than give practical advice on this board, if you cared about your gf like you say you do this thread would be on the advice board, you just want attention, I hope your relationship works out buddy.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Akagami_Shanks 04/29/18 8:13:59 PM #83:	get with someone that isn't off their rocker --- It's the internet, quit your crying <cite>Akagami_Shanks posted [p:900534807] in I am dange... [t:76561038]...</cite> <quote>get with someone that isn't off their rocker</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Perascamin 04/29/18 8:17:05 PM #84:	It's nothing either of you have done. It's the birth control. Talk about getting off of it. My girlfriend got on BC too (the depo shot) because of her mom and it really took her for a ride she and I didn't ask for. Birth Control, not even once --- I've grown. <cite>Perascamin posted [p:900534962] in I am dange... [t:76561038]...</cite> <quote>It's nothing either of you have done. It's the birth control. Talk about getting off of it. My girlfriend got on BC too (the depo shot) because of her mom and it really took her for a ride she and I didn't ask for. Birth Control, not even once</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
scorpion41 04/29/18 8:18:02 PM #85:	If you have to consider cheating, just break it off. You have nothing at stake except a year long bf/gf relationship, so if you cant get the thoughts out of your head just move on. --- PSN: scorpion_4160 Currently Playing: NCAA 14, Darksiders series(PS3) <cite>scorpion41 posted [p:900535000] in I am dange... [t:76561038]...</cite> <quote>If you have to consider cheating, just break it off. You have nothing at stake except a year long bf/gf relationship, so if you cant get the thoughts out of your head just move on.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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SavenForever 05/02/18 7:06:06 AM #87:	Time to move on now before you do something incredibly stupid and hurt you or her even more than you intend to. --- http://i.imgur.com/aFt7pKH.jpg <cite>SavenForever posted [p:900668121] in I am dange... [t:76561038]...</cite> <quote>Time to move on now before you do something incredibly stupid and hurt you or her even more than you intend to.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
MFBKBass5 05/02/18 7:12:45 AM #88:	Break up with her. She sounds terrible. But cheating is even worse. Dont be a scumbag. --- !!!!!!!!! http://i.imgur.com/DzJSPWA.jpg <cite>MFBKBass5 posted [p:900668253] in I am dange... [t:76561038]...</cite> <quote>Break up with her. She sounds terrible. But cheating is even worse. Dont be a scumbag.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Omega Hunter 05/02/18 7:16:05 AM #89:	Lol you're with an overly religious sex hating puritan. I would get the hell out of that relationship. Cheating is also a good option, if she can't find out, like using an escort service...not picking up chicks around town. --- Living is naturally hell, you have to work to put a smile on. http://images.complex.com/complex/image/upload/7_ugmpjq.gif <cite>Omega Hunter posted [p:900668319] in I am dange... [t:76561038]...</cite> <quote>Lol you're with an overly religious sex hating puritan. I would get the hell out of that relationship. Cheating is also a good option, if she can't find out, like using an escort service...not picking up chicks around town.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
XXHornDogXX 05/02/18 7:26:52 AM #90:	Don't cheat on her. Man up either suck it up or just break it off. Explain your side of the story to her. I also highly doubt you won't get any ass from now until marriage if she has already given it up. <cite>XXHornDogXX posted [p:900668541] in I am dange... [t:76561038]...</cite> <quote>Don't cheat on her. Man up either suck it up or just break it off. Explain your side of the story to her. I also highly doubt you won't get any ass from now until marriage if she has already given it up.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
pinky0926 05/02/18 7:28:19 AM #91:	About 2 months ago (so 10 months dating) she said she wanted to stop having sex because she feels it's wrong and it makes her hate herself. I would have been out at this point if not sooner. --- CE's Resident Scotsman. http://i.imgur.com/ILz2ZbV.jpg <cite>pinky0926 posted [p:900668560] in I am dange... [t:76561038]...</cite> <quote><quote>About 2 months ago (so 10 months dating) she said she wanted to stop having sex because she feels it's wrong and it makes her hate herself.</quote> I would have been out at this point if not sooner.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Drunk 05/02/18 7:51:16 AM #92:	pinky0926 posted... About 2 months ago (so 10 months dating) she said she wanted to stop having sex because she feels it's wrong and it makes her hate herself. I would have been out at this point if not sooner. You get cucked and you still ain't out Dont lie --- Posted with GameRaven 3.4 <cite>Drunk posted [p:900669058] in I am dange... [t:76561038]...</cite> <quote><cite>pinky0926 posted...</cite> <quote><quote> About 2 months ago (so 10 months dating) she said she wanted to stop having sex because she feels it's wrong and it makes her hate herself.</quote> I would have been out at this point if not sooner.</quote> You get cucked and you still ain't out Dont lie</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Muffinz0rz 05/02/18 1:34:03 PM #93:	marriage is not like waving a magic wand that will instantly fix your sex life. she's having issues now, she'll have them after marriage. and cheating makes you a scumbag so dump her. breaking up over sex is completely legitimate. a perfect relationship is one where both parties are fulfilled and neither is deprived --- Not removing this until Pat Benatar is in Super Smash Bros. (Started 8/31/2010) 2018 NFLB Summersim (1-3): https://i.imgur.com/7cjNtgQ.png <cite>Muffinz0rz posted [p:900682079] in I am dange... [t:76561038]...</cite> <quote>marriage is not like waving a magic wand that will instantly fix your sex life. she's having issues now, she'll have them after marriage. and cheating makes you a scumbag so dump her. breaking up over sex is completely legitimate. a perfect relationship is one where both parties are fulfilled and neither is deprived</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Pogo_Marimo 05/02/18 1:49:03 PM #94:	Break up. You guys are not intimately compatible and it's clear there is a distinct ideological divide between you regarding sex. Even beyond that, it's clear with her desire to have sex but immense guilt over it that she has mental stuff she needs to work out before she is a good partner for anyone. --- // BEAUTY IS NOT LOVE - LOVE IS NOT MUSIC - MUSIC IS THE BEST - WISDOM IS THE DOMAIN OF THE WIZ--WHICH IS EXTINCT // http://www.last.fm/user/Pogo92 <cite>Pogo_Marimo posted [p:900682845] in I am dange... [t:76561038]...</cite> <quote>Break up. You guys are not intimately compatible and it's clear there is a distinct ideological divide between you regarding sex. Even beyond that, it's clear with her desire to have sex but immense guilt over it that she has mental stuff she needs to work out before she is a good partner for anyone.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
ChewedMint 05/02/18 1:59:40 PM #95:	GodSlayer15 posted... TheMikh posted... dump her because she deserves better Maybe I'm the one that deserves better? Is this a joke post? You're about to cheat on her and you think you're the one who deserves better? Good lord what the hell is wrong with people these days. You could just fap, it's not even hard to refrain from sex. I just laugh and shake my head every time I see someone acting like sex is the best and most important thing ever and they can't go more than a few weeks without it. Honestly at this point you're just better off breaking up since casual sex with random chicks is obviously more important to you than she is. <cite>ChewedMint posted [p:900683400] in I am dange... [t:76561038]...</cite> <quote><cite>GodSlayer15 posted...</cite> <quote><cite>TheMikh posted...</cite> <quote>dump her because she deserves better</quote> Maybe I'm the one that deserves better?</quote> Is this a joke post? You're about to cheat on her and you think you're the one who deserves better? Good lord what the hell is wrong with people these days. You could just fap, it's not even hard to refrain from sex. I just laugh and shake my head every time I see someone acting like sex is the best and most important thing ever and they can't go more than a few weeks without it. Honestly at this point you're just better off breaking up since casual sex with random chicks is obviously more important to you than she is.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
MACisBack 05/02/18 2:04:21 PM #96:	Before you explore all options. Have a long sit down with her about where you two want this to go and how you two are feeling instead of reaching for ideas on what to do. Work it out with her so when you two are done talking, both of you will know exactly where you stand. --- "There is wife assisted suicide. Get married and every day you die a little more" -teltec http://i.imgur.com/8snn2TX.jpg <cite>MACisBack posted [p:900683630] in I am dange... [t:76561038]...</cite> <quote>Before you explore all options. Have a long sit down with her about where you two want this to go and how you two are feeling instead of reaching for ideas on what to do. Work it out with her so when you two are done talking, both of you will know exactly where you stand.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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