Current Events > My gf and I fight pretty regularly over familial obligations

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boxington 02/18/18 4:43:09 PM #51:	I posted it earlier, but can't her parents visit sometimes? --- b-bb-box <cite>boxington posted [p:896325703] in My gf and ... [t:76332826]...</cite> <quote>I posted it earlier, but can't her parents visit sometimes?</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Omnislasher 02/18/18 4:49:42 PM #52:	boxington posted... I posted it earlier, but can't her parents visit sometimes? doesn't solve the fundamental problem which is that he wants to use what little free time he has for his own enjoyment <cite>Omnislasher posted [p:896326050] in My gf and ... [t:76332826]...</cite> <quote><cite>boxington posted...</cite> <quote>I posted it earlier, but can't her parents visit sometimes?</quote> doesn't solve the fundamental problem which is that he wants to use what little free time he has for his own enjoyment</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
boxington 02/18/18 4:50:34 PM #53:	true. --- b-bb-box <cite>boxington posted [p:896326096] in My gf and ... [t:76332826]...</cite> <quote>true.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Balrog0 02/18/18 4:51:16 PM #54:	It's not even that, though. Her parents visited twice this week and we still 'have' to go over --- He would make his mark, if not on this tree, then on that wall; if not with teeth and claws, then with penknife and razor. <cite>Balrog0 posted [p:896326133] in My gf and ... [t:76332826]...</cite> <quote>It's not even that, though. Her parents visited twice this week and we still 'have' to go over</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Omnislasher 02/18/18 4:52:15 PM #56:	Balrog0 posted... It's not even that, though. Her parents visited twice this week and we still 'have' to go over yeah, we get it. she's fucking way too attached. and she's not about to just suddenly grow out of it considering her age so you got some serious thinking to do. <cite>Omnislasher posted [p:896326197] in My gf and ... [t:76332826]...</cite> <quote><cite>Balrog0 posted...</cite> <quote>It's not even that, though. Her parents visited twice this week and we still 'have' to go over</quote> yeah, we get it. she's fucking way too attached. and she's not about to just suddenly grow out of it considering her age so you got some serious thinking to do.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
MysteryMan923 02/18/18 4:53:46 PM #57:	What ethnicity is your gf? --- You ain't gotta like me You just mad cuz I tell it how it is and you tell it how it might be <cite>MysteryMan923 posted [p:896326272] in My gf and ... [t:76332826]...</cite> <quote>What ethnicity is your gf?</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
boxington 02/18/18 4:55:02 PM #58:	Balrog0 posted... It's not even that, though. Her parents visited twice this week and we still 'have' to go over yea, sorry. hopefully things work out, but if they don't, all the best. --- b-bb-box <cite>boxington posted [p:896326328] in My gf and ... [t:76332826]...</cite> <quote><cite>Balrog0 posted...</cite> <quote>It's not even that, though. Her parents visited twice this week and we still 'have' to go over</quote> yea, sorry. hopefully things work out, but if they don't, all the best.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Dustin1280 02/18/18 4:56:02 PM #59:	Can't you tell her you are willing to go once a month and if she chooses to go more then that then it's on her and her alone? I don't understand why you PERSONALLY have to be there once every single week... --- RIP: Canuklehead, Karma: 1369 // RIP: Gen_Lee_Enfield, Karma: 1731 // RIP: Orlando of the Axe, Karma: 1642 // RIP nayr626 Karma: 4395 --They delivered! <cite>Dustin1280 posted [p:896326381] in My gf and ... [t:76332826]...</cite> <quote>Can't you tell her you are willing to go once a month and if she chooses to go more then that then it's on her and her alone? I don't understand why you PERSONALLY have to be there once every single week...</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Balrog0 02/18/18 4:59:25 PM #60:	Omnislasher posted... Balrog0 posted... It's not even that, though. Her parents visited twice this week and we still 'have' to go over yeah, we get it. she's fucking way too attached. and she's not about to just suddenly grow out of it considering her age so you got some serious thinking to do. You might, but not everyone does clearly! --- He would make his mark, if not on this tree, then on that wall; if not with teeth and claws, then with penknife and razor. <cite>Balrog0 posted [p:896326560] in My gf and ... [t:76332826]...</cite> <quote><cite>Omnislasher posted...</cite> <quote><cite>Balrog0 posted...</cite> <quote>It's not even that, though. Her parents visited twice this week and we still 'have' to go over</quote> yeah, we get it. she's fucking way too attached. and she's not about to just suddenly grow out of it considering her age so you got some serious thinking to do.</quote> You might, but not everyone does clearly!</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Balrog0 02/18/18 5:00:10 PM #61:	MysteryMan923 posted... What ethnicity is your gf? Why do you ask, and why does it matter? --- He would make his mark, if not on this tree, then on that wall; if not with teeth and claws, then with penknife and razor. <cite>Balrog0 posted [p:896326596] in My gf and ... [t:76332826]...</cite> <quote><cite>MysteryMan923 posted...</cite> <quote>What ethnicity is your gf?</quote> Why do you ask, and why does it matter?</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Muffinz0rz 02/18/18 5:00:35 PM #62:	Balrog0 posted... MysteryMan923 posted... What ethnicity is your gf? Why do you ask, and why does it matter? answer the question --- Not removing this until Pat Benatar is in Super Smash Bros. (Started 8/31/2010) 2018 NFLB Summersim team (drafting in progress): https://i.imgur.com/JXYCLLL.png <cite>Muffinz0rz posted [p:896326617] in My gf and ... [t:76332826]...</cite> <quote><cite>Balrog0 posted...</cite> <quote><cite>MysteryMan923 posted...</cite> <quote>What ethnicity is your gf?</quote> Why do you ask, and why does it matter?</quote> answer the question</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Balrog0 02/18/18 5:01:21 PM #63:	She is black and I am white --- He would make his mark, if not on this tree, then on that wall; if not with teeth and claws, then with penknife and razor. <cite>Balrog0 posted [p:896326647] in My gf and ... [t:76332826]...</cite> <quote>She is black and I am white</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
DarkChozoGhost 02/18/18 5:02:49 PM #65:	It seems like a silly reason to have to break up, but honestly it might be something you have to break up over. --- My sister's dog bit a hole in my Super Mario Land cartridge. It still works though - Skye Reynolds 3DS FC: 3239-5612-0115 <cite>DarkChozoGhost posted [p:896326728] in My gf and ... [t:76332826]...</cite> <quote>It seems like a silly reason to have to break up, but honestly it might be something you have to break up over.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Dustin1280 02/18/18 5:09:08 PM #67:	Dustin1280 posted... Can't you tell her you are willing to go once a month and if she chooses to go more then that then it's on her and her alone? I don't understand why you PERSONALLY have to be there once every single week... What exactly is the purpose of this weekly visit, simply to see her damn family? --- RIP: Canuklehead, Karma: 1369 // RIP: Gen_Lee_Enfield, Karma: 1731 // RIP: Orlando of the Axe, Karma: 1642 // RIP nayr626 Karma: 4395 --They delivered! <cite>Dustin1280 posted [p:896327048] in My gf and ... [t:76332826]...</cite> <quote><cite>Dustin1280 posted...</cite> <quote>Can't you tell her you are willing to go once a month and if she chooses to go more then that then it's on her and her alone? I don't understand why you PERSONALLY have to be there once every single week...</quote> What exactly is the purpose of this weekly visit, simply to see her damn family?</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Sada_Pop 02/18/18 5:10:28 PM #68:	DarkChozoGhost posted... It seems like a silly reason to have to break up, but honestly it might be something you have to break up over. It's an extremely stupid reason to break up imo. But that said, you should just do it. That way you no longer have to feel obligated to do it AND she can possibly find someone that's OK with her being close with her parents. --- People would have you believe that the accusation of racism is more offensive than ACTUAL racism. <cite>Sada_Pop posted [p:896327118] in My gf and ... [t:76332826]...</cite> <quote><cite>DarkChozoGhost posted...</cite> <quote>It seems like a silly reason to have to break up, but honestly it might be something you have to break up over.</quote> It's an extremely stupid reason to break up imo. But that said, you should just do it. That way you no longer have to feel obligated to do it AND she can possibly find someone that's OK with her being close with her parents.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
andel 02/18/18 5:13:05 PM #69:	you aren't obligated to visit her parents so often of course. it is reasonable i guess to do it maybe once a month, she can go by herself and should realize you aren't obligated to be with her 24/7. stifling another person is usually a bad idea and leads to resentment and such --- I am thinking about just walking into the river now that Megaupload is gone and condoms are in porn.-Fubonis <cite>andel posted [p:896327257] in My gf and ... [t:76332826]...</cite> <quote>you aren't obligated to visit her parents so often of course. it is reasonable i guess to do it maybe once a month, she can go by herself and should realize you aren't obligated to be with her 24/7. stifling another person is usually a bad idea and leads to resentment and such</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Doctor Foxx 02/18/18 5:14:27 PM #70:	A person's familial ties become your ties if their family and priority for family time doesn't match with you, you do not share values, and maybe shouldn't be together what they're asking for is excessive to me but wouldn't be to some people I've dated --- Never write off the Doctor! <cite>Doctor Foxx posted [p:896327329] in My gf and ... [t:76332826]...</cite> <quote>A person's familial ties become your ties if their family and priority for family time doesn't match with you, you do not share values, and maybe shouldn't be together what they're asking for is excessive to me but wouldn't be to some people I've dated</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Doctor Foxx 02/18/18 5:15:09 PM #71:	Dustin1280 posted... Dustin1280 posted... Can't you tell her you are willing to go once a month and if she chooses to go more then that then it's on her and her alone? I don't understand why you PERSONALLY have to be there once every single week... What exactly is the purpose of this weekly visit, simply to see her damn family? here's the thing some people care about their families families can value time together if you have a dysfunctional family this can be really hard to grasp and get behind --- Never write off the Doctor! <cite>Doctor Foxx posted [p:896327366] in My gf and ... [t:76332826]...</cite> <quote><cite>Dustin1280 posted...</cite> <quote><cite>Dustin1280 posted...</cite> <quote>Can't you tell her you are willing to go once a month and if she chooses to go more then that then it's on her and her alone? I don't understand why you PERSONALLY have to be there once every single week...</quote> What exactly is the purpose of this weekly visit, simply to see her damn family?</quote> here's the thing some people care about their families families can value time together if you have a dysfunctional family this can be really hard to grasp and get behind</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
DarkChozoGhost 02/18/18 5:21:53 PM #72:	Sada_Pop posted... DarkChozoGhost posted... It seems like a silly reason to have to break up, but honestly it might be something you have to break up over. It's an extremely stupid reason to break up imo. But that said, you should just do it. That way you no longer have to feel obligated to do it AND she can possibly find someone that's OK with her being close with her parents. She's being completely unreasonable --- My sister's dog bit a hole in my Super Mario Land cartridge. It still works though - Skye Reynolds 3DS FC: 3239-5612-0115 <cite>DarkChozoGhost posted [p:896327738] in My gf and ... [t:76332826]...</cite> <quote><cite>Sada_Pop posted...</cite> <quote><cite>DarkChozoGhost posted...</cite> <quote>It seems like a silly reason to have to break up, but honestly it might be something you have to break up over.</quote> It's an extremely stupid reason to break up imo. But that said, you should just do it. That way you no longer have to feel obligated to do it AND she can possibly find someone that's OK with her being close with her parents.</quote> She's being completely unreasonable</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Dustin1280 02/18/18 5:23:51 PM #73:	Doctor Foxx posted... here's the thing some people care about their families families can value time together if you have a dysfunctional family this can be really hard to grasp and get behind I'm not sure if you are trying to infer that my family might be dysfunctional (which isn't the case). But the fact of the matter is this girl, for whatever reason visits her family once a week, if it's strictly a social call and not for something like medical reasons. I see no reason why her husband/boyfriend/etc would be obligated to join every single week. A compromise should be reached, maybe once every two weeks or once a month. But expecting your significant other to fall in line with visiting family every single week for no other reason then to socialize is asinine and unreasonable. --- RIP: Canuklehead, Karma: 1369 // RIP: Gen_Lee_Enfield, Karma: 1731 // RIP: Orlando of the Axe, Karma: 1642 // RIP nayr626 Karma: 4395 --They delivered! <cite>Dustin1280 posted [p:896327836] in My gf and ... [t:76332826]...</cite> <quote><cite>Doctor Foxx posted...</cite> <quote>here's the thing some people care about their families families can value time together if you have a dysfunctional family this can be really hard to grasp and get behind</quote> I'm not sure if you are trying to infer that my family might be dysfunctional (which isn't the case). But the fact of the matter is this girl, for whatever reason visits her family once a week, if it's strictly a social call and not for something like medical reasons. I see no reason why her husband/boyfriend/etc would be obligated to join every single week. A compromise should be reached, maybe once every two weeks or once a month. But expecting your significant other to fall in line with visiting family every single week for no other reason then to socialize is asinine and unreasonable.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Doctor Foxx 02/18/18 5:26:35 PM #74:	Dustin1280 posted... Doctor Foxx posted... here's the thing some people care about their families families can value time together if you have a dysfunctional family this can be really hard to grasp and get behind I'm not sure if you are trying to infer that my family might be dysfunctional (which isn't the case). But the fact of the matter is this girl, for whatever reason visits her family once a week, if it's strictly a social call and not for something like medical reasons. I see no reason why her husband/boyfriend/etc would be obligated to join every single week. A compromise should be reached, maybe once every two weeks or once a month. But expecting your significant other to fall in line with visiting family every single week for no other reason then to socialize is asinine and unreasonable. the topic said the compromise was every two weeks and he hasn't been going. just seeing family =/= doing designated family time. it wasn't directed just at you, but to all of these people that find it so weird someone would want to visit their family weekly. It's a reasonable thing to ask of a SO however they don't have the same priorities. --- Never write off the Doctor! <cite>Doctor Foxx posted [p:896327984] in My gf and ... [t:76332826]...</cite> <quote><cite>Dustin1280 posted...</cite> <quote><cite>Doctor Foxx posted...</cite> <quote>here's the thing some people care about their families families can value time together if you have a dysfunctional family this can be really hard to grasp and get behind</quote> I'm not sure if you are trying to infer that my family might be dysfunctional (which isn't the case). But the fact of the matter is this girl, for whatever reason visits her family once a week, if it's strictly a social call and not for something like medical reasons. I see no reason why her husband/boyfriend/etc would be obligated to join every single week. A compromise should be reached, maybe once every two weeks or once a month. But expecting your significant other to fall in line with visiting family every single week for no other reason then to socialize is asinine and unreasonable.</quote> the topic said the compromise was every two weeks and he hasn't been going. just seeing family =/= doing designated family time. it wasn't directed just at you, but to all of these people that find it so weird someone would want to visit their family weekly. It's a reasonable thing to ask of a SO however they don't have the same priorities.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Balrog0 02/18/18 5:28:56 PM #75:	Sada_Pop posted... DarkChozoGhost posted... It seems like a silly reason to have to break up, but honestly it might be something you have to break up over. It's an extremely stupid reason to break up imo. But that said, you should just do it. That way you no longer have to feel obligated to do it AND she can possibly find someone that's OK with her being close with her parents. I'm fine with her being close to her parents. What makes you think I'm not? Because I don't want to be as close to her parents as she is? Is. that really normal? Even her sisters husband isn't like that, much less normal people in my experience. Doctor Foxx posted... A person's familial ties become your ties if their family and priority for family time doesn't match with you, you do not share values, and maybe shouldn't be together what they're asking for is excessive to me but wouldn't be to some people I've dated I don't understand these posts (and your next one) tbh. I don't expect that my family time is an obligation for my partner when I want to have it, and I don't begrudge her seeing her family when she wants to. Like, what if we had the same family priorities? We would spend both of our weekend days with our parents. That is not realistic or even sustainable, frankly. I can't count the number of times I've told my parents that I don't wanna see them because I already spent half my weekend with my gfs parents as it is. People don't have infinite free time... --- He would make his mark, if not on this tree, then on that wall; if not with teeth and claws, then with penknife and razor. <cite>Balrog0 posted [p:896328092] in My gf and ... [t:76332826]...</cite> <quote><cite>Sada_Pop posted...</cite> <quote><cite>DarkChozoGhost posted...</cite> <quote>It seems like a silly reason to have to break up, but honestly it might be something you have to break up over.</quote> It's an extremely stupid reason to break up imo. But that said, you should just do it. That way you no longer have to feel obligated to do it AND she can possibly find someone that's OK with her being close with her parents.</quote> I'm fine with her being close to her parents. What makes you think I'm not? Because I don't want to be as close to her parents as she is? Is. that really normal? Even her sisters husband isn't like that, much less normal people in my experience. <cite>Doctor Foxx posted...</cite> <quote>A person's familial ties become your ties if their family and priority for family time doesn't match with you, you do not share values, and maybe shouldn't be together what they're asking for is excessive to me but wouldn't be to some people I've dated</quote> I don't understand these posts (and your next one) tbh. I don't expect that my family time is an obligation for my partner when I want to have it, and I don't begrudge her seeing her family when she wants to. Like, what if we had the same family priorities? We would spend both of our weekend days with our parents. That is not realistic or even sustainable, frankly. I can't count the number of times I've told my parents that I don't wanna see them because I already spent half my weekend with my gfs parents as it is. People don't have infinite free time...</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
DarkChozoGhost 02/18/18 5:31:08 PM #76:	Doctor Foxx posted... It's a reasonable thing to ask of a SO however they don't have the same priorities. It is NOT reasonable to act how his gf is acting though. --- My sister's dog bit a hole in my Super Mario Land cartridge. It still works though - Skye Reynolds 3DS FC: 3239-5612-0115 <cite>DarkChozoGhost posted [p:896328195] in My gf and ... [t:76332826]...</cite> <quote><cite>Doctor Foxx posted...</cite> <quote>It's a reasonable thing to ask of a SO however they don't have the same priorities.</quote> It is NOT reasonable to act how his gf is acting though.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Doctor Foxx 02/18/18 5:31:58 PM #77:	Balrog0 posted... I don't understand these posts (and your next one) tbh. I don't expect that my family time is an obligation for my partner when I want to have it, and I don't begrudge her seeing her family when she wants to. Like, what if we had the same family priorities? We would spend both of our weekend days with our parents. That is not realistic or even sustainable, frankly. I can't count the number of times I've told my parents that I don't wanna see them because I already spent half my weekend with my gfs parents as it is. People don't have infinite free time... For people that really value family time, that is their recreation time to a degree. That's just something that gets scheduled and done. You aren't required to join your SO for it. But it is polite to. Their family is your family when you are together, and you can't avoid it all the time. --- Never write off the Doctor! <cite>Doctor Foxx posted [p:896328246] in My gf and ... [t:76332826]...</cite> <quote><cite>Balrog0 posted...</cite> <quote>I don't understand these posts (and your next one) tbh. I don't expect that my family time is an obligation for my partner when I want to have it, and I don't begrudge her seeing her family when she wants to. Like, what if we had the same family priorities? We would spend both of our weekend days with our parents. That is not realistic or even sustainable, frankly. I can't count the number of times I've told my parents that I don't wanna see them because I already spent half my weekend with my gfs parents as it is. People don't have infinite free time...</quote> For people that really value family time, that is their recreation time to a degree. That's just something that gets scheduled and done. You aren't required to join your SO for it. But it is polite to. Their family is your family when you are together, and you can't avoid it all the time.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Deadpool_18 02/18/18 5:32:39 PM #78:	My gf and I never fight. Ever. --- We're whalers on the moon, we carry a harpoon, but there ain't no whales, so we tell tall tales, and sing our whaling tune. <cite>Deadpool_18 posted [p:896328274] in My gf and ... [t:76332826]...</cite> <quote>My gf and I never fight. Ever.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Balrog0 02/18/18 5:35:28 PM #79:	Doctor Foxx posted... Balrog0 posted... I don't understand these posts (and your next one) tbh. I don't expect that my family time is an obligation for my partner when I want to have it, and I don't begrudge her seeing her family when she wants to. Like, what if we had the same family priorities? We would spend both of our weekend days with our parents. That is not realistic or even sustainable, frankly. I can't count the number of times I've told my parents that I don't wanna see them because I already spent half my weekend with my gfs parents as it is. People don't have infinite free time... For people that really value family time, that is their recreation time to a degree. That's just something that gets scheduled and done. You aren't required to join your SO for it. But it is polite to. Their family is your family when you are together, and you can't avoid it all the time. Nope, it's def not recreational for her. And and Why are you saying stuff like that I can't avoid it all the time, given I didn't avoid it at all for years? I just want to go less --- He would make his mark, if not on this tree, then on that wall; if not with teeth and claws, then with penknife and razor. <cite>Balrog0 posted [p:896328423] in My gf and ... [t:76332826]...</cite> <quote><cite>Doctor Foxx posted...</cite> <quote><cite>Balrog0 posted...</cite> <quote>I don't understand these posts (and your next one) tbh. I don't expect that my family time is an obligation for my partner when I want to have it, and I don't begrudge her seeing her family when she wants to. Like, what if we had the same family priorities? We would spend both of our weekend days with our parents. That is not realistic or even sustainable, frankly. I can't count the number of times I've told my parents that I don't wanna see them because I already spent half my weekend with my gfs parents as it is. People don't have infinite free time...</quote> For people that really value family time, that is their recreation time to a degree. That's just something that gets scheduled and done. You aren't required to join your SO for it. But it is polite to. Their family is your family when you are together, and you can't avoid it all the time.</quote> Nope, it's def not recreational for her. And and Why are you saying stuff like that I can't avoid it all the time, given I didn't avoid it at all for years? I just want to go less</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
FFVII_REMAKE 02/18/18 5:37:32 PM #80:	Thank god for MGTOW. Suck it TC. <cite>FFVII_REMAKE posted [p:896328529] in My gf and ... [t:76332826]...</cite> <quote>Thank god for MGTOW. Suck it TC.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Balrog0 02/18/18 5:38:03 PM #81:	Deadpool_18 posted... My gf and I never fight. Ever. That seems nice, how many months have you been together? --- He would make his mark, if not on this tree, then on that wall; if not with teeth and claws, then with penknife and razor. <cite>Balrog0 posted [p:896328563] in My gf and ... [t:76332826]...</cite> <quote><cite>Deadpool_18 posted...</cite> <quote>My gf and I never fight. Ever.</quote> That seems nice, how many months have you been together?</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Dustin1280 02/18/18 5:39:45 PM #82:	Okay.. seriously TC... WHY does your girlfriend go to her family's once a week? Is it strictly a social call or is there more you are not telling us... --- RIP: Canuklehead, Karma: 1369 // RIP: Gen_Lee_Enfield, Karma: 1731 // RIP: Orlando of the Axe, Karma: 1642 // RIP nayr626 Karma: 4395 --They delivered! <cite>Dustin1280 posted [p:896328648] in My gf and ... [t:76332826]...</cite> <quote>Okay.. seriously TC... WHY does your girlfriend go to her family's once a week? Is it strictly a social call or is there more you are not telling us...</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Doctor Foxx 02/18/18 5:39:51 PM #83:	Balrog0 posted... Doctor Foxx posted... Balrog0 posted... I don't understand these posts (and your next one) tbh. I don't expect that my family time is an obligation for my partner when I want to have it, and I don't begrudge her seeing her family when she wants to. Like, what if we had the same family priorities? We would spend both of our weekend days with our parents. That is not realistic or even sustainable, frankly. I can't count the number of times I've told my parents that I don't wanna see them because I already spent half my weekend with my gfs parents as it is. People don't have infinite free time... For people that really value family time, that is their recreation time to a degree. That's just something that gets scheduled and done. You aren't required to join your SO for it. But it is polite to. Their family is your family when you are together, and you can't avoid it all the time. Nope, it's def not recreational for her. And and Why are you saying stuff like that I can't avoid it all the time, given I didn't avoid it at all for years? I just want to go less It just seems like you have very mismatched ideas about family as a priority and that is a serious, relationship-killing issue in a lot of cases having to deal with my ex's family all the time was a huge strain for me you can put your foot down about it. just don't expect that it will go well --- Never write off the Doctor! <cite>Doctor Foxx posted [p:896328655] in My gf and ... [t:76332826]...</cite> <quote><cite>Balrog0 posted...</cite> <quote><cite>Doctor Foxx posted...</cite> <quote><cite>Balrog0 posted...</cite> <quote>I don't understand these posts (and your next one) tbh. I don't expect that my family time is an obligation for my partner when I want to have it, and I don't begrudge her seeing her family when she wants to. Like, what if we had the same family priorities? We would spend both of our weekend days with our parents. That is not realistic or even sustainable, frankly. I can't count the number of times I've told my parents that I don't wanna see them because I already spent half my weekend with my gfs parents as it is. People don't have infinite free time...</quote> For people that really value family time, that is their recreation time to a degree. That's just something that gets scheduled and done. You aren't required to join your SO for it. But it is polite to. Their family is your family when you are together, and you can't avoid it all the time.</quote> Nope, it's def not recreational for her. And and Why are you saying stuff like that I can't avoid it all the time, given I didn't avoid it at all for years? I just want to go less</quote> It just seems like you have very mismatched ideas about family as a priority and that is a serious, relationship-killing issue in a lot of cases having to deal with my ex's family all the time was a huge strain for me you can put your foot down about it. just don't expect that it will go well</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Punctus_Pilot 02/18/18 5:42:00 PM #84:	Doctor Foxx posted... Balrog0 posted... I don't understand these posts (and your next one) tbh. I don't expect that my family time is an obligation for my partner when I want to have it, and I don't begrudge her seeing her family when she wants to. Like, what if we had the same family priorities? We would spend both of our weekend days with our parents. That is not realistic or even sustainable, frankly. I can't count the number of times I've told my parents that I don't wanna see them because I already spent half my weekend with my gfs parents as it is. People don't have infinite free time... For people that really value family time, that is their recreation time to a degree. That's just something that gets scheduled and done. You aren't required to join your SO for it. But it is polite to. Their family is your family when you are together, and you can't avoid it all the time. He's not trying to avoid it all the time, he's just trying to have a reasonable amount of time to himself. <cite>Punctus_Pilot posted [p:896328782] in My gf and ... [t:76332826]...</cite> <quote><cite>Doctor Foxx posted...</cite> <quote><cite>Balrog0 posted...</cite> <quote>I don't understand these posts (and your next one) tbh. I don't expect that my family time is an obligation for my partner when I want to have it, and I don't begrudge her seeing her family when she wants to. Like, what if we had the same family priorities? We would spend both of our weekend days with our parents. That is not realistic or even sustainable, frankly. I can't count the number of times I've told my parents that I don't wanna see them because I already spent half my weekend with my gfs parents as it is. People don't have infinite free time...</quote> For people that really value family time, that is their recreation time to a degree. That's just something that gets scheduled and done. You aren't required to join your SO for it. But it is polite to. Their family is your family when you are together, and you can't avoid it all the time.</quote> He's not trying to avoid it all the time, he's just trying to have a reasonable amount of time to himself.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Balrog0 02/18/18 5:42:40 PM #85:	Dustin1280 posted... Okay.. seriously TC... WHY does your girlfriend go to her family's once a week? Is it strictly a social call or is there more you are not telling us... It is strictly social. I thought I mentioned this, but as I insisted on going less, she has been going less. There's no medical reason or anything. She just sees it as obligatory and feels like it should be obligatory for me as well, for reasons. many other people ITT have elaborated on (her family is my family is my family, her obligations are mine, etc) --- He would make his mark, if not on this tree, then on that wall; if not with teeth and claws, then with penknife and razor. <cite>Balrog0 posted [p:896328814] in My gf and ... [t:76332826]...</cite> <quote><cite>Dustin1280 posted...</cite> <quote>Okay.. seriously TC... WHY does your girlfriend go to her family's once a week? Is it strictly a social call or is there more you are not telling us...</quote> It is strictly social. I thought I mentioned this, but as I insisted on going less, she has been going less. There's no medical reason or anything. She just sees it as obligatory and feels like it should be obligatory for me as well, for reasons. many other people ITT have elaborated on (her family is my family is my family, her obligations are mine, etc)</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Burnt_Puke82 02/18/18 5:46:18 PM #86:	.SSJ2GrimReaper posted... ZannoL posted... Does she give good head? classic CE response lol yep I love that it's the first response to the topic. --- You tried your best and you failed miserably. The lesson is: never try. <cite>Burnt_Puke82 posted [p:896329013] in My gf and ... [t:76332826]...</cite> <quote>.<cite>SSJ2GrimReaper posted...</cite> <quote><cite>ZannoL posted...</cite> <quote>Does she give good head?</quote> classic CE response</quote> lol yep I love that it's the first response to the topic.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Dustin1280 02/18/18 5:48:35 PM #87:	Realistically TC, I think when you are both levelheaded you should really discuss this in detail... Clearly you don't seem to want to go very much at all, and she apparently wants to go once a week if she were given free reign. I feel like even once every two weeks might be a bit excessive, but not horribly unreasonable. I would just re-iterate that you will go sometimes, but ultimately if she wants to go to her parents that is on her and you will not be joining her every single time she does. You will need to come to a solid compromise that BOTH SIDES can agree on or I simply don't see this relationship lasting... --- RIP: Canuklehead, Karma: 1369 // RIP: Gen_Lee_Enfield, Karma: 1731 // RIP: Orlando of the Axe, Karma: 1642 // RIP nayr626 Karma: 4395 --They delivered! <cite>Dustin1280 posted [p:896329130] in My gf and ... [t:76332826]...</cite> <quote>Realistically TC, I think when you are both levelheaded you should really discuss this in detail... Clearly you don't seem to want to go very much at all, and she apparently wants to go once a week if she were given free reign. I feel like even once every two weeks might be a bit excessive, but not horribly unreasonable. I would just re-iterate that you will go sometimes, but ultimately if she wants to go to her parents that is on her and you will not be joining her every single time she does. You will need to come to a solid compromise that BOTH SIDES can agree on or I simply don't see this relationship lasting...</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Punctus_Pilot 02/18/18 5:50:22 PM #88:	Dustin1280 posted... Clearly you don't seem to want to go very much at all, and she apparently wants to go once a week if she were given free reign. Every other week is far more than "not very much at all" <cite>Punctus_Pilot posted [p:896329223] in My gf and ... [t:76332826]...</cite> <quote><cite>Dustin1280 posted...</cite> <quote>Clearly you don't seem to want to go very much at all, and she apparently wants to go once a week if she were given free reign.</quote> Every other week is far more than "not very much at all"</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
ShadowNinja606 02/18/18 5:52:17 PM #89:	Deadpool_18 posted... My gf and I never fight. Ever. that makes no sense, everyone fights. you never disagree with each other? i mean wtf, do you also always wear matching sweaters and shit? i mean fuck, this kind of shit creates unreasonable expectations for everyone. fighting and disagreeing is normal, you fight and disagree with literally everyone you meet and interact with ever, given enough time, why should your partner be any different? almost seems to me that someone in that relationship is just pushing their anger and frustration down by always compromising and sacrificing for the other. can't be healthy long term but you do you, man, hope it works --- http://robocenter.forumotion.com/ <--CR site. The silence of a man waiting to die. <cite>ShadowNinja606 posted [p:896329328] in My gf and ... [t:76332826]...</cite> <quote><cite>Deadpool_18 posted...</cite> <quote>My gf and I never fight. Ever.</quote> that makes no sense, everyone fights. you never disagree with each other? i mean wtf, do you also always wear matching sweaters and shit? i mean fuck, this kind of shit creates unreasonable expectations for everyone. fighting and disagreeing is normal, you fight and disagree with literally everyone you meet and interact with ever, given enough time, why should your partner be any different? almost seems to me that someone in that relationship is just pushing their anger and frustration down by always compromising and sacrificing for the other. can't be healthy long term but you do you, man, hope it works</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
SSJKirby 02/18/18 5:52:50 PM #90:	Hearing about people being so close to their parents is baffling to someone who grew up in a dysfunctional family. I would not do well in this situation at all --- Not changing this signature until Beyond Good and Evil 2 is in my hand. August 25th, 2010. <cite>SSJKirby posted [p:896329358] in My gf and ... [t:76332826]...</cite> <quote>Hearing about people being so close to their parents is baffling to someone who grew up in a dysfunctional family. I would not do well in this situation at all</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Balrog0 02/18/18 6:01:23 PM #91:	I don't want to go very much at all, though, that is true. Part of that is that I'd like to see my parents more than we do. Its not like i fell great having not seen my mom since last year. But I don't want to take more time out of our schedules because we are always behind on chores and other things we want to do since we are always doing family stuff the days we have time to do chores... And she is the one that complains about stuff like that we need to do. I don't care if the house is a mess, except that it makes her unhappy. I usually clean while she's visiting them and I'm not. I have told her that, and she just says stuff like I shouldn't change whether I want to see my parents just because we've seen hers, but isn't that incredibly unrealistic? It's not like our lives stop because we have a desire to do something. We need to find a balance. I'd not want to anything that doesn't get us anything that takes hours after doing something else that takes hours, it's nothing to do with our parents per se. You can't complain about. needing to this and that and the other and then say we don't have time to do it because family time you're obligating yourself to IMO. I guess I honestly think it's selfish of her precisely because she is making me be 'the bad guy' in these situations. It feels very childish to me, like wanting to have your cake and eat it too And I do like to relax sometimes on weekends instead of just doing laundry and cleaning and cooking and shopping and seeing our parents... --- He would make his mark, if not on this tree, then on that wall; if not with teeth and claws, then with penknife and razor. <cite>Balrog0 posted [p:896329785] in My gf and ... [t:76332826]...</cite> <quote>I don't want to go very much at all, though, that is true. Part of that is that I'd like to see my parents more than we do. Its not like i fell great having not seen my mom since last year. But I don't want to take more time out of our schedules because we are always behind on chores and other things we want to do since we are always doing family stuff the days we have time to do chores... And she is the one that complains about stuff like that we need to do. I don't care if the house is a mess, except that it makes her unhappy. I usually clean while she's visiting them and I'm not. I have told her that, and she just says stuff like I shouldn't change whether I want to see my parents just because we've seen hers, but isn't that incredibly unrealistic? It's not like our lives stop because we have a desire to do something. We need to find a balance. I'd not want to anything that doesn't get us anything that takes hours after doing something else that takes hours, it's nothing to do with our parents per se. You can't complain about. needing to this and that and the other and then say we don't have time to do it because family time you're obligating yourself to IMO. I guess I honestly think it's selfish of her precisely because she is making me be 'the bad guy' in these situations. It feels very childish to me, like wanting to have your cake and eat it too And I do like to relax sometimes on weekends instead of just doing laundry and cleaning and cooking and shopping and seeing our parents...</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
FFVII_REMAKE 02/18/18 6:05:42 PM #92:	I'm thankful to be single so I dont to deal with shit like this. <cite>FFVII_REMAKE posted [p:896330008] in My gf and ... [t:76332826]...</cite> <quote>I'm thankful to be single so I dont to deal with shit like this.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Balrog0 02/18/18 6:11:54 PM #93:	She came home from seeing them just now and immediately said she wanted to lay down and went upstairs without saying anything else Slamming!! --- He would make his mark, if not on this tree, then on that wall; if not with teeth and claws, then with penknife and razor. <cite>Balrog0 posted [p:896330330] in My gf and ... [t:76332826]...</cite> <quote>She came home from seeing them just now and immediately said she wanted to lay down and went upstairs without saying anything else Slamming!!</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Cj_WlLL_VVlN 02/18/18 6:24:00 PM #94:	TF is up with all these guys saying man up and do it. Once a week is insane. I've had girls who's families I've liked and wouldn't want to see them that frequently. Id say if family is important to someone in a relationship you make the effort to see and get along with maybe even try and befriend their family. You certainly don't have to agree to once a week meals. My family likes to get togetger a lot and even I think that's strange. --- The gamefaqs moderation team knows dogs capable of being offended, cant laugh at a joke, and like to punish jokes that are acceptable on prime time TV pg shows. <cite>Cj_WlLL_VVlN posted [p:896331018] in My gf and ... [t:76332826]...</cite> <quote>TF is up with all these guys saying man up and do it. Once a week is insane. I've had girls who's families I've liked and wouldn't want to see them that frequently. Id say if family is important to someone in a relationship you make the effort to see and get along with maybe even try and befriend their family. You certainly don't have to agree to once a week meals. My family likes to get togetger a lot and even I think that's strange.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
mrtopgoon327 02/18/18 7:48:35 PM #95:	That's annoying as fuck. Imagine working a 9 to 5 monday to friday then on sunday you gotta do that shit. Now you work S to F. You're relax chill day. 1-5 valuable hours gone, possibly more in that little free time you have. It's like going to church, another waste of time. My ex would go every saturday (7th day advenstist and sit and listen to nonsense that she only has in mind when shes at church, and then do whatever the fuck she wants outside of church and epxected me to go do that bullshit with her. Wake up early to get dressed and sit and watch foolishness and lose 4 hours of your day. fuck that --- mr top goon in this thang <cite>mrtopgoon327 posted [p:896335337] in My gf and ... [t:76332826]...</cite> <quote>That's annoying as fuck. Imagine working a 9 to 5 monday to friday then on sunday you gotta do that shit. Now you work S to F. You're relax chill day. 1-5 valuable hours gone, possibly more in that little free time you have. It's like going to church, another waste of time. My ex would go every saturday (7th day advenstist and sit and listen to nonsense that she only has in mind when shes at church, and then do whatever the fuck she wants outside of church and epxected me to go do that bullshit with her. Wake up early to get dressed and sit and watch foolishness and lose 4 hours of your day. fuck that</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
prettyprincess 02/18/18 8:14:24 PM #96:	I feel for you, tc I am very close with my family but, despite being maybe 20 mins from both parents and even closer to one sister, I see them very rarely (maybe once every couple months) I know that probably disappoints them in their own way because my mother especially literally always wants me to visit and they see my sisters multiple times each week by comparison but they have also respected my job, relationships, and generally more quiet, relaxed sense of passing my free time and don't hound me about coming around unless I have let it go way too long for them can't imagine I would be able to handle so much of someone else's family --- And in an infinite regress, tell me, why is the pain of birth lighter borne than the pain of death? <cite>prettyprincess posted [p:896336692] in My gf and ... [t:76332826]...</cite> <quote>I feel for you, tc I am very close with my family but, despite being maybe 20 mins from both parents and even closer to one sister, I see them very rarely (maybe once every couple months) I know that probably disappoints them in their own way because my mother especially literally always wants me to visit and they see my sisters multiple times each week by comparison but they have also respected my job, relationships, and generally more quiet, relaxed sense of passing my free time and don't hound me about coming around unless I have let it go way too long for them can't imagine I would be able to handle so much of someone else's family</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
masticatingman 02/18/18 8:15:59 PM #97:	Girls like to visit family if theyre close by normally - if they dont, they probably are completely cut off from them, which likely has an explosive story behind it. --- I am basically am I. Well, basically. <cite>masticatingman posted [p:896336777] in My gf and ... [t:76332826]...</cite> <quote>Girls like to visit family if theyre close by normally - if they dont, they probably are completely cut off from them, which likely has an explosive story behind it.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
JcOpIVY86 02/18/18 8:52:32 PM #98:	As someone who dated a girl where we regularly saw her family.....even bringing her little sister along to outings. I now have a wife whose parents do more for us as our childrens grandparents than I could ever dream. Family is everything, it obviously is for her. Do you want to have a family with her? At all? If not, leave her so she can find someone worthwhile. You have a unicorn, if you dont realize that, set her free. --- Sometimes it's what you don't do that makes you who you are. http://i4.photobucket.com/albums/y115/jckorn86/smallerbanner.jpg <cite>JcOpIVY86 posted [p:896338662] in My gf and ... [t:76332826]...</cite> <quote>As someone who dated a girl where we regularly saw her family.....even bringing her little sister along to outings. I now have a wife whose parents do more for us as our childrens grandparents than I could ever dream. Family is everything, it obviously is for her. Do you want to have a family with her? At all? If not, leave her so she can find someone worthwhile. You have a unicorn, if you dont realize that, set her free.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Punctus_Pilot 02/18/18 9:05:45 PM #99:	JcOpIVY86 posted... As someone who dated a girl where we regularly saw her family.....even bringing her little sister along to outings. I now have a wife whose parents do more for us as our childrens grandparents than I could ever dream. Family is everything, it obviously is for her. Do you want to have a family with her? At all? If not, leave her so she can find someone worthwhile. You have a unicorn, if you dont realize that, set her free. Shut the fuck up. There's a difference between "regularly seeing family" and giving him the silent treatment because he didn't want to spend 3 days in a single week with them. That's not a positive trait in a partner. <cite>Punctus_Pilot posted [p:896339309] in My gf and ... [t:76332826]...</cite> <quote><cite>JcOpIVY86 posted...</cite> <quote>As someone who dated a girl where we regularly saw her family.....even bringing her little sister along to outings. I now have a wife whose parents do more for us as our childrens grandparents than I could ever dream. Family is everything, it obviously is for her. Do you want to have a family with her? At all? If not, leave her so she can find someone worthwhile. You have a unicorn, if you dont realize that, set her free.</quote> Shut the fuck up. There's a difference between "regularly seeing family" and giving him the silent treatment because he didn't want to spend 3 days in a single week with them. That's not a positive trait in a partner.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
ilovuuu 02/18/18 9:09:04 PM #100:	bruh she's insane. get rid of her <cite>ilovuuu posted [p:896339451] in My gf and ... [t:76332826]...</cite> <quote>bruh she's insane. get rid of her</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
LinksLiege 02/18/18 9:09:14 PM #101:	JcOpIVY86 posted... [family blah blah blah] Family isn't everything for everyone. "Blood is blood" people are insufferable. --- This is LinksLiege's signature. It is fantastic. <cite>LinksLiege posted [p:896339459] in My gf and ... [t:76332826]...</cite> <quote><cite>JcOpIVY86 posted...</cite> <quote>[family blah blah blah]</quote> Family isn't everything for everyone. "Blood is blood" people are insufferable.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
Lorenzo_2003 02/18/18 9:12:56 PM #102:	Balrog0 posted... boxington posted... if you feel that someone is worth it, then sometimes you've gotta make sacrifices, and this one doesn't seem like a big one, IMO. We've been together for almost 4 years, dude. Have you been to visit your parents more than 150 times, without exaggeration, on top of your other obligations in the last 4 years? It depends a lot on how much you value your relationship with your parents and hers. I get along extremely well with mine and start to miss them after a few days. Visiting 150 times in four years only averages out to one visit every 10 days. That is not a lot at all, again, if you care about those people. Clearly you dont. Thats not a bad thing, just realize that this is going to continue driving a wedge between you and your girlfriend. She will resent you for it, or most likely already does. --- ... <cite>Lorenzo_2003 posted [p:896339664] in My gf and ... [t:76332826]...</cite> <quote><cite>Balrog0 posted...</cite> <quote><cite>boxington posted...</cite> <quote>if you feel that someone is worth it, then sometimes you've gotta make sacrifices, and this one doesn't seem like a big one, IMO.</quote> We've been together for almost 4 years, dude. Have you been to visit your parents more than 150 times, without exaggeration, on top of your other obligations in the last 4 years?</quote> It depends a lot on how much you value your relationship with your parents and hers. I get along extremely well with mine and start to miss them after a few days. Visiting 150 times in four years only averages out to one visit every 10 days. That is not a lot at all, again, if you care about those people. Clearly you dont. Thats not a bad thing, just realize that this is going to continue driving a wedge between you and your girlfriend. She will resent you for it, or most likely already does.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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