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Giant_Aspirin 02/16/18 1:03:21 PM #1: |
the server stopped by and asked us something and referred to my boss as "sweetie". my boss immediately interrupted her and said "excuse me, i really do not like being called that" and the server was like ".... sorry?" and my boss said "sweetie. you called me 'sweetie' and i really do not appreciate that. please don't do that again".
do you think she overreacted? how do you feel about being called 'pet' (sweetie, hon, dear, etc) names by strangers? --- Playing: Dark Souls III (PC), Hollow Knight (PC) (~);} - Get out the pans, don't just stand there dreamin' - {;(~) ... Copied to Clipboard!
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ilovuuu 02/16/18 1:04:52 PM #2: |
old ladies are easily offended
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Squall28 02/16/18 1:04:52 PM #3: |
That's what waitresses usually call me.
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MacadamianNut3 02/16/18 1:05:01 PM #4: |
She will have a fun time in the South lol
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K181 02/16/18 1:05:14 PM #5: |
Was the server a male or a female? It honestly makes a difference. If male, pretty dumb move by the server and they should know better. If a female, I'm assuming it was probably a middle-aged server and that was just the norm for them, so that'd be an overreaction.
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Giant_Aspirin 02/16/18 1:05:50 PM #6: |
K181 posted...
Was the server a male or a female? my boss got mad with our female server for calling her 'sweetie' K181 posted... If a female, I'm assuming it was probably a middle-aged server and that was just the norm for them, so that'd be an overreaction. the server was probably mid-early 20s and my boss is mid 50s --- Playing: Dark Souls III (PC), Hollow Knight (PC) (~);} - Get out the pans, don't just stand there dreamin' - {;(~) ... Copied to Clipboard!
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K181 02/16/18 1:08:56 PM #7: |
Bad reading comprehension, honestly missed that.
Then yeah, pretty dumb overreaction, albeit a bit of an odd habit for a younger server to have. --- The poster formerly known as Kakarot181: July 2, 2002 - March 14, 2012. Irregardless, for all intensive purposes, I could care less. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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eston 02/16/18 1:09:12 PM #8: |
I don't like it either, but I don't usually say anything. That said, I don't think it's an overreaction to tell someone you don't like something. That's called communication.
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LordMarshal 02/16/18 1:11:39 PM #9: |
When my wife was a server she called everyone something like sweetie. Barely ever any complaints and helped tips.
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Giant_Aspirin 02/16/18 1:13:11 PM #10: |
eston posted...
That said, I don't think it's an overreaction to tell someone you don't like something. That's called communication. that is true. how will the server know if nobody tells her? but like with all communication, how you communicate is almost as important as what you communicate. i think my boss was about as polite as possible, though. --- Playing: Dark Souls III (PC), Hollow Knight (PC) (~);} - Get out the pans, don't just stand there dreamin' - {;(~) ... Copied to Clipboard!
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iron jojo 02/16/18 1:15:57 PM #11: |
It's condescending to call an adult sweetie.
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ilovuuu 02/16/18 1:16:21 PM #13: |
old lady mad
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CyricZ 02/16/18 1:17:10 PM #14: |
"Please don't call me sweetie."
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Mr_Biscuit 02/16/18 1:17:42 PM #15: |
I mean, calling your BOSS "sweetie" is p dumb.
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CyricZ 02/16/18 1:48:52 PM #16: |
There's a couple of reading comprehension fails in this topic. Is it because it's the end of the work week? Should we all start the weekend early and hit the bars?
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Giant_Aspirin 02/16/18 1:49:51 PM #17: |
maybe it's because i'm lazy and don't capitalize properly
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KILBOTz 02/16/18 1:55:11 PM #18: |
shes white isn't she? middle class, middle aged white women hate people in the service industry.
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Giant_Aspirin 02/16/18 2:26:45 PM #19: |
KILBOTz posted...
shes white isn't she? middle class, middle aged white women hate people in the service industry. yeah, white and upper-middle class (combined household income of $250k+; which i know because she told me she's not eligible to contribute to a Roth) --- Playing: Dark Souls III (PC), Hollow Knight (PC) (~);} - Get out the pans, don't just stand there dreamin' - {;(~) ... Copied to Clipboard!
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ModLogic 02/16/18 2:27:47 PM #20: |
K181 posted...
Was the server a male or a female? It honestly makes a difference. If male, pretty dumb move by the server and they should know better. If a female, I'm assuming it was probably a middle-aged server and that was just the norm for them, so that'd be an overreaction. incredible sexsim --- ... Copied to Clipboard!
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iron jojo 02/16/18 3:16:44 PM #21: |
KILBOTz posted...
shes white isn't she? middle class, middle aged white women hate people in the service industry. It's not about color. You will notice women in a position of power don't like being marginalized or trivialized etc. Because they have to work harder to be taken seriously. --- vickfan-chucky they hated Jesus homie chuckyhacks-who teh hell is "jesus homie" ... Copied to Clipboard!
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MacDaMurderer 02/16/18 3:18:43 PM #22: |
MacadamianNut3 posted...
She will have a fun time in the South lol Love that southern hospitality. --- @macdamurderer GT: Mac Da Murderer ... Copied to Clipboard!
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_Squirtle_ 02/16/18 3:18:51 PM #23: |
It's a bit weird since the younger girl is saying it to an older woman. The reverse is pretty normal.
I'd still say it's an overreaction because you don't really have that many interactions with the server. It's usually just "can I get some extra.../ a refill on..." after they take the order. Just let it go --- ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Offworlder1 02/16/18 3:23:48 PM #24: |
The old woman got offended over jack shit, pathetic.
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Weezy_Tha_Don 02/16/18 3:26:57 PM #25: |
I used to work at a retirement home as a sever. My thing was to say hey guys whenever I was about to take someones order. one time I said that to a resident and his wife and he snapped on me lol. he said my wife is not a Guy god damnit, I would kno. From that point on I always used the term folks
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K181 02/16/18 3:31:18 PM #26: |
ModLogic posted...
K181 posted...Was the server a male or a female? It honestly makes a difference. If male, pretty dumb move by the server and they should know better. If a female, I'm assuming it was probably a middle-aged server and that was just the norm for them, so that'd be an overreaction. You're the type of person that gets mad that black people can say the n-word but white people can't, aren't you? --- The poster formerly known as Kakarot181: July 2, 2002 - March 14, 2012. Irregardless, for all intensive purposes, I could care less. ... Copied to Clipboard!
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chrono625 02/16/18 3:38:40 PM #27: |
The professional way to take care of that, would have been to pull her aside privately and address her displeasure without making a scene.
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Giant_Aspirin 02/16/18 3:39:50 PM #28: |
chrono625 posted...
The professional way to take care of that, would have been to pull her aside privately and address her displeasure without making a scene. it wasn't like she made a scene or anything. --- Playing: Dark Souls III (PC), Hollow Knight (PC) (~);} - Get out the pans, don't just stand there dreamin' - {;(~) ... Copied to Clipboard!
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Fam_Fam 02/16/18 3:40:53 PM #29: |
Giant_Aspirin posted...
the server stopped by and asked us something and referred to my boss as "sweetie". my boss immediately interrupted her and said "excuse me, i really do not like being called that" and the server was like ".... sorry?" and my boss said "sweetie. you called me 'sweetie' and i really do not appreciate that. please don't do that again". if she doesn't like it, its within her rights to say that i don't see the problem also, people ALWAYS say: well if x makes them uncomfortable, they SHOULD HAVE SAID SOMETHING. now, she says something and its like that's bad too ... Copied to Clipboard!
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GiftedACIII 02/16/18 3:41:43 PM #30: |
A younger woman calling her superior who's much older than her "sweetie" does seem really disrespectful. It's like some cashier in his 20s calling his supervisors in his 40s "son"
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Polycosm 02/16/18 3:43:49 PM #31: |
Yeah, very similar scenarios have happened at my workplace too. Like, I would never have called one of my co-workers "sweetie" because it always sounded unprofessional and borderline condescending to me. But after seeing how a couple of them reacted when other people used that word... apparently it's a bigger deal than I originally thought.
I think it's part generational, too. The younger women in my office don't seem to care, but the Gen X-ers really hate that word, I imagine because there was a time where it was more commonly used with malintent. --- BKSheikah owned me so thoroughly in the 2017 guru contest, I'd swear he used the Lens of Truth to pick his bracket. (thengamer.com/guru) ... Copied to Clipboard!
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TrollSlayer11 02/16/18 3:47:36 PM #32: |
KILBOTz posted...
shes white isn't she? middle class, middle aged white women hate people in the service industry. --- Sunglasses and advil ... Copied to Clipboard!
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