Current Events > 2-2:30 Central Standard Time, going to ask her to see a movie with me.

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I will knock on her door, and ask her to watch a movie with me. I hear movies are a bad first date location, but this won't be a date, so it should be fine. I got my strategy all laid out, and I will report back about how it worked.

I feel like brutai in a way during his days where all his topics had to do with some girl. I guess I became my own enemy. Unlike him, though, I will actually put effort into this.
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Don't just randomly show up at her place.
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PiOverlord posted...

I will knock on her door

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Burgess posted...

Don't just randomly show up at her place.

We live in a dorm though.
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Doesn't matter.
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Burgess posted...

Doesn't matter.

Y'all are so anti-social.

She was going to watch a movie with myself and another person, but then this one guy that I know she has been trying to avoid was invited and is joining us, so now she doesn't want to come (even if she won't admit that is the reason).

I'll just knock on her door to verify she won't come, and then ask if she wants to watch a movie this weekend with me as I don't really want to go with the two guys anyways.

It's obvious she wants to watch a movie, but I feel we did her dirty by inviting the other guy (I didn't personally invite him, but still).
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I'm gonna ask my crew what I should do here, now Burgess has me second guessing myself.

@MabusIncarnate
@Kaname_Madoka
@Dustin1280

Am I doing the right thing?!? I thought one of you guys told me messaging a person to do something is a lot less personal, and you might as well not even do it at that point. I am being direct, and it's not like I don't have a "purpose" for being there. She literally lives a floor above me, what's so wrong about asking her in person?!?
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Nothing wrong with that in a dorm. Just do it Fam.
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Dude, why not just text her?

I guess you could wait till midnight and throw rocks at her window
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tote_all posted...

PiOverlord posted...

I'm gonna ask my crew what I should do here, now Burgess has me second guessing myself.

@MabusIncarnate
@Kaname_Madoka
@Dustin1280

Am I doing the right thing?!? I thought one of you guys told me messaging a person to do something is a lot less personal, and you might as well not even do it at that point. I am being direct, and it's not like I don't have a "purpose" for being there. She literally lives a floor above me, what's so wrong about asking her in person?!?

Eco chamber within CE.

Damn.

It really isn't though. Some of these guys disagree with my tactics all the time.

KiwiTerraRizing posted...

Nothing wrong with that in a dorm. Just do it Fam.

Thanks Fam. I don't see why knocking on someone's door is looked down upon nowadays. CE was telling me not to tell the girl that I liked her, and I did, and guess what, I feel more confident than ever now, and she is still my friend. I think this age of social media has made it where people feel they can't be direct, and they can't be in-person anymore.
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id give you advice except im not interested in dating and have never gone on one that worked out well.

so instead, good luck fam
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Dude, why you chasing a girl with a BF?

That shit is creepy. She obviously didn't respond to you admitting you like her. Why are you still bothering her?
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PiOverlord posted...

I liked her

PiOverlord posted...

my friend

I Like Toast posted...

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DoctorVader posted...

Dude, why you chasing a girl with a BF?

That shit is creepy. She obviously didn't respond to you admitting you like her. Why are you still bothering her?

Because you all act like everything is black and white with girls.

The friend zone is a term internet nerds made up to feel better about their lack of effort in trying to get a girl they like.
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PiOverlord posted...

DoctorVader posted...

Dude, why you chasing a girl with a BF?

That shit is creepy. She obviously didn't respond to you admitting you like her. Why are you still bothering her?

Because you all act like everything is black and white with girls.

The friend zone is a term internet nerds made up to feel better about their lack of effort in trying to get a girl they like.

LMAO, this is exactly what people sprung over a chick would say. You talk like you know what you're talking about but constantly make topics on here asking for advice and have yet to be successful.

It is black and white when she has a fucking BF. It's also black and white whether a girl likes you or not. This isn't a fairytale romcom where you can make someone like you. It doesn't work that way.

You literally opened your heart to her and told her you like her and she fucking deaded you. It accomplished nothing and now it's just going to come off as extremely desperate to her and she'll cut you off eventually.

People are telling you to stop not because they hate you or some shit. It's to save you from unneccsary pain. You're not special.

Yes, there's definitely ways to get out of the friendzone (which btw was not some nerd thing), but everything you're doing is throwing you in deeper. If you were actually any good at women, you wouldn't be in this mess.
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Okay, I listened to "You're the best around", the Rocky Theme Song, The Final Bell from Rocky, and the Rocky IV training montage. I am going to do it now, I am prepared, even with butterflies in my stomach.
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Lmao. So much cringe from the TC.

Next topic is gonna be "she blocked me CE, how do I get her to unblock me?"
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Go for it Pi, I think you have a good plan of action. Let us know how things go, I think you are making big strides here.
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Knock on her dorm door. Movie. Shenanigans. It's all in your grasp.
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Shit.. I'm late to the topic... did you already do it Pi?
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You talk like a nerd
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@PiOverlord

Need details. I hope the reason you haven't replied yet is you and this young lady are out on a date.
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I guess I got to face up to my failure. I went up, and knocked on her door, but she was actually in the lobby. She told me a different reason why she didn't want to go, playing the boyfriend card, saying she didn't know if he would be happy with her going out with a bunch of guys.

I could have pressed on deeper because I am almost 95% positive that is a BS reason (yesterday she said it was because she felt she was interrupting a guy's night out), and the real reason is that she did not want to go with us because of the one guy that I mentioned in post 6.

Still, the other 5% of me believes that the reason she brought up her boyfriend was as a direct attack against me, reminding me that she is taken and that I need to back off. Everyone believes that she should break up with the guy because she is so unhappy with him, but there is a reason she calls him boyfriend, and not ex-boyfriend. Once she pulled the boyfriend card, I couldn't just ask her to go to the movies with just me. I went to the movie with my friends like the original plan, but I couldn't full enjoy it as she was on my mind throughout it all.

Part of me doesn't want to give up, but then I think of this one girl who transferred and is friendly with me. The thought passed that maybe she has some weird thing for me, but then I realized that this girl could not do anything to make it where I would have feelings for her (I am not saying she does have feelings for me, but it is a hypothetical). This same scenario obviously applies to me. I could give the girl I like the whole world, but at the end of the day, it is still me giving the gift, and she would have higher praise for the small marble that the guy she does like gives her (whether that be her boyfriend, or some other schmuck) than the whole planet that I would offer as that means more to her. I wish my life was a movie, where I just have to struggle through the pain, but at the end I am rewarded with the girl and a happily ever after, but in reality, all I receive is pain. The truth is, I choose to believe that I can create a convoluted plan to steal her heart like she stole mine because I need this illusion, otherwise, I go to bed with tears and hopelessness. No matter what the signs say, perhaps even tomorrow, I will go back to believing that I need to just keep trying. Maybe I will ask her to watch a movie, and I'll order some pizza for us, and then I will try to see if I can see if she will want to go watch the movie in my room for some dumb reason that I still haven't worked my head around. Idk, the plan will fail obviously. Heck, I probably won't even see her tomorrow just because of the desire to execute such a dumb idea.

Sorry guys, CE is my only place that I can vent.
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If a girl has a boyfriend they have to make more of a first move or youre treading a thin line. What youre doing is insane.
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There's times when you need to keep pushing, and there's times when it's right to back down and lay off for a while. If she still has the boyfriend, and is mentioning it, it's time to hold off and move on for now. I'd give it one more go if they do officially break up and she's single. If not after that, the cards have been played.

My ex, and my first long-term girlfriend of 4 years had a boyfriend when I initially pursued her. She pushed me away for a couple weeks, but I knew she wasn't happy with him and the situation she was dealing with. She wound up leaving him for me, and we stayed together, as mentioned, for 4 years until we finally called it off.

My current wife now, of 14 years, pursued me when I had a girlfriend (of only like 2 months) and I inevitably decided I would be happy with her and behold, in the long term, I was, and I am. In both scenarios, a significant other was involved, and both panned out for the most part.

I don't think it's creepy, because sometimes you need to follow your heart, but you don't want to push too hard or come off as a creeper and scare them away. Learn your boundaries and find a comfortable balance between showing them that you are interested, but aren't desperate enough to pressure it to make it irritating or annoying.
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Thanks Mabus. I feel like everyone thinks I am crazy because I want to be social about how I go about things. People told me not to tell the girl I like her because they thought she would be put off and distance herself from me, but we are still friends, and honestly, as I said, I think I am more confident around her.

Still, I hate these feelings because just as my feelings towards her intensified, so have all the negative qualities that I was unaware I was capable of having so much of such as jealously.
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PiOverlord posted...

we are still friends

I Like Toast posted...

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