Poll of the Day > So I was dancing at a club

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why the hell were you dancing at a club in the first place

I grade myself a higher being than some showtoy for random guys to look at and do what they please with, but I know its controversial for women to think that way.
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LittleRoyal posted...

Are you serious?

Yes, stop acting like you're the first groping victim. I also said gropers need to stop. Also it's not a big deal. It's just a little hand on hiney action. There are much worse injustices.
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I never said I was. In fact, many women go through similar things. And we do it often. Its repeated cases of being grabbed or touched or poked by men at their leisure really. Its barbaric if you think of it :/

As I said before, this is far from the worst thing thats happened to me, but it still made me uncomfortable so yeah I get to complain.

Its disgusting, sincerely, that youre actually sitting there telling me to feel honored when people do those sorts of things to me because it means they think Im worth it.
Because Im definitly much more valuable than their cheap thrills and inappropriate touching and I dont want see myself as some product for guys enjoyment. Im not even sexually active atm because Im just not comfortable with the thought of me doing that stuff and those guys talking about or thinking about me that way forever (would be different with a long term boyfriend, but all my relationships end after a couple months or less because Im not comfortable having sex, so either they break up or do weird things of varying degrees, such as back me into corner and grope all my stuffs or send me pics of myself with their stuff on it or tell everyone I do stuff with them that I dont do)

So no I shouldnt feel honored that guys think Im worth that and I shouldnt be thankful when guys catcall me or anything like that, I get to be upset and I get to talk about it in hopes that maybe, people will start to actually treat sexism more seriously so if I ever get to have a daughter then she wont have to deal with as much stuff like that.

You saying Its just... anything is ridiculous.
Im not sitting here traumatized. From the beginning I just said its something thats bothered me.

But you dont really know what its like to be grabbed and groped and devalued into something that only exists for guys to gawk and and feel (not saying thats what happened here because it may have been an accident)

Or what its really like to all the time be told dirty things or explicit things or have guys just talk to you like you owe yourself to them

So you shouldnt sit there acting like its nothing.

You can either talk about it and try to learn
Or leave it be because I wouldnt force you to discuss it even if I could

But acting like its nothing when you just dont know and dont understand is a serious issue.
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TC literally goes to a university where the on campus clubs ban alcohol?

looooooooooooooooooooooooooool
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I tell guys here they are being creepy all the time. I also think guys need to stop treating women purely as sexual objects. I also think you need to not be so "bothered but not traumatized" by an ass grab.
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LittleRoyal posted...

Its a club Im in, but not a dance club.

Well I was dancing about having a good time
And someone saw me and joined in xD
It was fun and weird and more and more people started dancing and we were just having fun

But eventually...someone totally smacked my bootie

And idk if it was on purpose or not

So someone may or may not have slapped you on the bottom on purpose?

I'm a woman, if it happened I'd move away from the guy. If it happened again I'd tell him to keep his damned hands to himself.

Easy. I don't need a safe space.
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SunWuKung420 posted...

I also think you need to not be so "bothered but not traumatized" by an ass grab.

Not one. I said that already. And why? Why do I have to think and agree on this like you do?
Im opening up for your opinions now not being sarcastic~ my tone can just be weird online.

myghostisdead posted...

So someone may or may not have slapped you on the bottom on purpose?

I'm a woman, if it happened I'd move away from the guy. If it happened again I'd tell him to keep his damned hands to himself.

Easy. I don't need a safe space.

And thats pretty much what I did.
But it happens kinda a lot. Well usually Im not dancing on campus xD much less in a club...

But yeah I usually do the same stuff.

But this is an Internet forum Im just posting my thoughts cuz yeah it kinda bugged me

Especially since its a pretty small club and I know everyone there so it was either someone I like, or someone I really get annoyed by and I dont want him touching me but Id hate to find out someone I like is grabbing at girls without invitation.
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LittleRoyal posted...

I never said I was. In fact, many women go through similar things. And we do it often. Its repeated cases of being grabbed or touched or poked by men at their leisure really. Its barbaric if you think of it :/

As I said before, this is far from the worst thing thats happened to me, but it still made me uncomfortable so yeah I get to complain.

Its disgusting, sincerely, that youre actually sitting there telling me to feel honored when people do those sorts of things to me because it means they think Im worth it.
Because Im definitly much more valuable than their cheap thrills and inappropriate touching and I dont want see myself as some product for guys enjoyment. Im not even sexually active atm because Im just not comfortable with the thought of me doing that stuff and those guys talking about or thinking about me that way forever (would be different with a long term boyfriend, but all my relationships end after a couple months or less because Im not comfortable having sex, so either they break up or do weird things of varying degrees, such as back me into corner and grope all my stuffs or send me pics of myself with their stuff on it or tell everyone I do stuff with them that I dont do)

So no I shouldnt feel honored that guys think Im worth that and I shouldnt be thankful when guys catcall me or anything like that, I get to be upset and I get to talk about it in hopes that maybe, people will start to actually treat sexism more seriously so if I ever get to have a daughter then she wont have to deal with as much stuff like that.

You saying Its just... anything is ridiculous.
Im not sitting here traumatized. From the beginning I just said its something thats bothered me.

But you dont really know what its like to be grabbed and groped and devalued into something that only exists for guys to gawk and and feel (not saying thats what happened here because it may have been an accident)

Or what its really like to all the time be told dirty things or explicit things or have guys just talk to you like you owe yourself to them

So you shouldnt sit there acting like its nothing.

You can either talk about it and try to learn
Or leave it be because I wouldnt force you to discuss it even if I could

But acting like its nothing when you just dont know and dont understand is a serious issue.

I rarely see it happen. I have been grabbed on my ass by a woman where is my pity party?
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LittleRoyal posted...

I never said I was. In fact, many women go through similar things. And we do it often. Its repeated cases of being grabbed or touched or poked by men at their leisure really. Its barbaric if you think of it :/

As I said before, this is far from the worst thing thats happened to me, but it still made me uncomfortable so yeah I get to complain.

No. You don't.

You have every right to feel how you feel and try to avoid uncomfortable circumstances, but you don't get to complain about stupid stuff. To be honest you're barely allowed to complain about legitimate grievances, you have no right to put your problems on other people's shoulders.

Some people are shit and some people are not, this is background noise we all put up with as it's a fact of life, the more you complain, the more weak you appear and the less people want to spend time with you.
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LittleRoyal posted...

I grade myself a higher being than some showtoy for random guys to look at and do what they please with, but I know its controversial for women to think that way.

You are a person just like them, you're just a rando peasant and deserve no more respect than any one else.

People do to others as they wish to be done to them, you may not like it but they're not mind readers despite having boundary issues. When somebody treats you the same as themself, they are showing you all due respect they can gage, they may cause upset but they don't mean to.
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Kyuubi4269 posted...

LittleRoyal posted...

I grade myself a higher being than some showtoy for random guys to look at and do what they please with, but I know its controversial for women to think that way.

You are a person just like them, you're just a rando peasant and deserve no more respect than any one else.

People do to others as they wish to be done to them, you may not like it but they're not mind readers despite having boundary issues. When somebody treats you the same as themself, they are showing you all due respect they can gage, they may cause upset but they don't mean to.

Honestly stop defending harassers and assaulters.

You dont need to read minds to know you cant go up and grab at or touch people without invitation.

Yeah Im a person just like them. I dont go up and grab them. Im also small, so I cant really chase then down and say creepy things while being physically larger and more intimidating, and I cant trap them against corners.
Stilll smart enough to know you cant treat people like that.
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