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KogaSteelfang posted...

*Is treated like trash. Is talked to like trash. Is looked down upon as trash. Is told he's trash.*
"Well, it's your fault for feeling like trash."
I honestly feel like I could turn this around if I had someone caring and encouraging in my life. I don't though, so I'm just looking at things for how they are.

I'm emotionally distant, sure. But that shouldn't stop people from trying to get to know me better. I'm generally well liked and respected, it's just no one really cares about me beyond surface level stuff. No one's ever tried to get close to me or anything like that. Not in real life anyway, I've had people reach out on gamefaqs plenty of times, and had a few friendships form that way, but they don't last.

With my trauma and anxieties, I'm keenly aware of how behave around me. I'm very good at reading people and recognizing how they feel.

There's only been a few times that I didn't recognize what I was seeing, and those were the times I thought people may have been showing interest and I got shot down pretty harshly.

IDK how you guys can say I'm wrong for saying it feels hopeless, and that I have a better chance than I think and to not blame myself... Just to turn around and say I don't have much of a chance and that I'm the problem.

I didnt say you dont have much of a chance. I said you need to get some therapy. You have a chance as long as you actually do the work, instead of being hopeless. Which is what I keep telling you. I didnt say dont blame yourself. I said blame yourself in a constructive way. Acting like its some unstoppable quality of reality is not helpful.

You are the problem. You can do better, and then you wont be the problem. Seriously; see a therapist. Everyone should see a therapist. You want someone caring and encouraging to help you turn things around? Thats what a therapist is for. Relationships are not therapy. Women are not your therapists.

Being emotionally distant is the problem. That actually does mean people wont want to get to know you, and thats reasonable. Your trauma and anxieties need to be worked through. With a therapist.

You absolutely have a chance, as long as you stop moping around about how you have no chance and doing nothing to change.