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Zonbei posted...

only advice I can give you is: its not the fault of other people, or some cosmic force hell bent on harming you. It COULD be sheer bad luck; in the end, relationships are a matter of change, even though you can stack the deck in your favor.

There is something you can be doing to stack that deck, you just need to identify what it is. Those people you say are more desirable than you are more desirable because theyve done the work to be more desirable.

Nah... I've seen it happen enough. Anyone else can attract someone just by existing. They'll have opportunities and connections with people that then evolve into something more. They don't need to change who they are, or put on shows. Even if they're unattractive and have a nasty personality. Just being themselves is good enough, and I'm just not good enough. That's all there is to it really.

There's just something inherently undesirable about me. I don't know what it is, but everyone else can see it. It's like they just naturally reject the idea that I could be a potential partner.

You don't end up a friendless, loveless, 40 year old virgin if you have options.

Glob posted...

Not trying to make you depressed mate. But if you compare yourself to somebody like me who has had multiple relationships, Ive asked plenty of girls out who have said no. You need to learn to dust yourself off and try again.

Even without comparing to anyone else, I'm disappointed with myself. Then I see all the success everyone has, and I want that too. I don't need some rich super model, I just want someone to care about me. I want to be loved, and to be wanted.

I'm just not capable of inspiring that in others I guess. The worst part is that it proved my dad right. He always said no one would ever love me, and here we are.