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Kamen_Rider_Blade posted...

Why does she care about "Keeping up with the Jones'

Eh, its really not the stereotypical version of that. Its more like I often hear you wont let us do anything to the house, like get a new fence, additions, etc. But that stems primarily from the fact that I know this isnt our forever house and I know shell get an itch and want to move in a matter of years. So when I think of the house as future rental Im hesitant to do any late scale projects. Also, we did a kitchen remodel once before. It was nice, but we moved, and she was an absolute ass to the contractor at the end of the project.

Have you explained to her how seeking that out is largely fruitless & pointless, more for self indulgence and personal psychological gratification than anything meaningful?

Oh lord no! That would surely fall on deaf ears.

Why doesn't she want to have more sex with you? You're her hubbie.

Well, Im apt to say now its because she doesnt like and isnt attracted to me. It could also be menopause related, but maybe it isnt.

The frequency was roughly 1-2/x a month prior, dropped to 1x, and now is zero as of the past several months.

Household chores should be split 50/50 as much as possible IMO.

Well, this is an area where shed probably tell you I dont help. I keep clean and tidy, do yard work, load and empty the dishwasher when shes not away, do my own laundry. Do my own bedding/linens (but have been sleeping in separate beds for years at this point), take out the trash, etc. But does she do more? Yes. But also, I work full time and she does not work, so she does have more time than me. I also think she kinda obsessively cleans, like, as to keep herself occupied.

Raising the kid, both of you should have input on how to do it.
If your styles conflict, you need to delve into things a bit deeper as to why they conflict.

How you react around family is complicated because everybody's family dynamic is very different.
That's more of a tailor your approach to each family member as needed.

Where to go to dinner is a matter of figuring out what each one wants and find a good solution.

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Yeah, I guess my general theme was we have fought over a lot of stupid shit.