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Context, we nearly divorced years ago when in 2017 I found out he was sexting another woman and secretly going to strip clubs (and also texting his favorite stripper there to find out which days she was working and complimenting her and shit). I had no evidence of anything physical occurring and he swore up and down it was because he was depressed and sought external validation but would never act on anything. He put in a lot of work and we went to therapy, etc. I chose to forgive him. It took years for us but things did get better and he was transparent with everything to help regain my trust.

We sleep in separate rooms because he snores badly from sleep apnea and doesnt like the machine (its fine I get much better sleep this way). Last night I went to his room to grab my laptop when I overheard him on the phone speaking with a woman. It sounded like work stuff so I wanted to give him the benefit of a doubt and walked in. He immediately hung up on her. I got suspicious of course and demanded his phone. Well he fucking quickly deleted everything before handing it to me. Now he is swearing up and down that there is nothing between them. Maybe some light flirtation and banter. That she is in a different state, married, has a kid and they just vent to each other about work stuff. Well I have no way of validating anything because he deleted it all. So of course I am thinking the worst now but this time around we have a 2 year old that adores him. But I dont know how we can move past this again. He wants us to do therapy again and work on things but I also just feel done by it all. And they work together and communicate and projects so how the hell can I be ok with this?