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Kamen_Rider_Blade posted...

Do you have any relatives coming in to help?

I think there partners need to lower expectations then. That's not a realistic expectation for them to do "Literally Everything" 24/7.

At that point, they want a butler, not a significant other or spouse.

Both our families live away but my mom is here until Saturday. Shes at my aunts now to be with her family that flew in from Egypt but she spent about 3 weeks with us and it was amazing to have help. My MIL came last night and is here until tomorrow. But my mom flies in once a year for a couple of weeks and his mom might come down every 3-4 months for 1-2 nights. Thats the extent of the help we get. We had a nanny but that was only during working hours which weve replaced with daycare. Were looking to get a sitter for a night every other week so we can have date nights though. Just havent had the time to interview any.

And even if youre a SAHP with a good partner, youre still working a full time job with the kids. At least until theyre in school. I have a lot of respect for the parents that do it and dont think they have an easier time than me.