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Ive been a mess these past few months. Im so beyond fucking tired. They have older kids and when I share that Im not ok and the toddler phase is so hard all I get is well its hard at every stage! or wait until theyre a teenager lolol. No its not the fucking same thing because you dont have to change your teens diapers, spoon feed them, clean up the plate of food they decided to toss on the floor, bathe them, chase them around and wrangle them to dress them, play with them, put them to bed, keep them away from all the hazards in your house and constantly keep watch of them every single second so they dont hurt themselves or set the house on fire. On top of working a full time job, cooking, cleaning, running errands, getting them ready for school, etc. Is it hard in other ways? Sure, I have no doubt. But not this physically exhausting because they can at least care for themselves without you watching them the whole time.

And why does it have to be a competition? One of them had nannies full time covering day and evening up until just now (kid is like 8-9) and the other is a step mom to a teen and wasnt there for the toddler years (kid was 10 when she came into the picture). And when she had to watch her toddler niece for one night she was dead ass tired and never wanted to do it again. So they werent even that involved during the toddler years but feel the need to minimize what Im going through. All I want is some compassion not competition.