Kastrada posted... Basically family to most of us is a unique perspective. Society for the most part treats it as a strange concept which baffles me since it's been around since humanity started really.
Also medical issues. If it was a closed adoption or there is no contact with the biological family, then we have no medical history to go off of. Makes doctor visits difficult when they ask a bunch of questions and you constantly have to explain you don't know.
Also certain terms you flat out don't use to adoptees. One person asked about my parents but said adoptive parents. That's not that big of a deal, especially because that user had no malice behind it.
But under no circumstances use the term "real parents" to an adoptee because most of them would just refer to their parents that raised them. For the most part because there are adoptees with terrible relationships with their families. But generally the term of "real families" and such is a no-no because it implies our families are less than or worse, we are.
There are other things especially like trans racial adoptees feeling the need to connect with their heritage it not. And reconciling that with their most likely white family. But that's a personal choice for each individual and it's up to the family to support that without question.
There's other stuff that me and my friends that are adopted have joked about before that only we know. And stuff that us none white adoptees who were adopted by our white families go through. Kind of like inside jokes/stories that some/most biological families wouldn't go through necessarily.
This is good to know, I was pretty ignorant to this and didn't intend to come off that way, so I apologize.