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Lopen posted...

I just made it clear that I wouldn't require the same thing and it made me feel a little like I'm not trusted.

It's not about you.

My read is that when she lent you money before, and she thought you hadn't paid it back, it cast a seed of doubt in her mind. It doesn't matter that you had paid and the app hadn't let her know. You should have told her personally and apologized if it caused her any stress.

Now you're asking for more money and kvetching about her wanting a guarantee. You need to be bending over backwards.

You've also put yourself in a time crunch which isn't doing either of you any favors. You're obviously stressed about it. And she's going to be stressed because she's going to feel "I'm his only hope".

I would look to get the money another way at this point, regardless of the hit I'd take. But that's assuming continuing the relationship is important to you. Continuing to harp on the matter with her is not going to help. Apologize (it's all your fault and sorry for any stress) and let her know you've found another way (and don't whinge about the penalties or whatever it caused you).

(but I'm just an internet rando, so maybe listen to some more people too)