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Topic	So I googled the girl I'm supposed to go out with. She has BPD
BettyWhite 05/08/22 11:30:45 PM #232:	The_Creep_2020 posted... I dated someone with BPD. At the start, it was incredible. As soon as things happened in my life that could threaten the amount of time or attention I could invest in them, things got toxic, psychologically manipulative and downright fucking awful quickly. Whenever Id start to try to get out, theyd start being very affectionate and do all these really sweet things. Sometimes it got really bad and I tried to get out of the relationship and theyd then threaten to kill themselves. They ended up breaking up with me, because I wouldnt come over one Friday night after Id just lost my job and had a massive cold. (One hour drive in fuckawful traffic). I called their bluff and said fine. They alternated between accusing me of breaking their heart and begging me to take them back, and after a few weeks promised theyd actually work on things. I was stupid enough to take that at face value. We lasted three weeks before I pulled the plug and once again was stupid enough to agree to an FWB arrangement. Then came a fake pregnancy, then weird lies about a miscarriage. Cut off all contact after getting all my shit back from their place. I was like her when I was 17... I didn't fix anything.. I just went on a 15 year streak of fucking people I didn't care about to avoid having to feel like that again. Only to accidentally fall in love and realize I'm emotionally still that 17-year-old boy. I've spent the last year confronting those issues and working on them.. Have even started therapy recently and finally found a therapist I jive with. Honestly, a lot of my initial improvements started with pretty much utter mental anguish where I merely pretended I was fine with separation. Like my logical brain knew it was alright to be apart, but my emotions were just storming inside of me. Now I honestly feel a good bit better.. But I need to remain vigilant and not let myself enter negative thought patterns. Especially as I work on confronting other demons. I know you didn't ask for this but it just came out. --- Thank you for being a friend <3 <cite>BettyWhite posted [p:964894107] in So I googl... [t:80013421]...</cite> <quote>The_Creep_2020 posted... </cite> <quote>I dated someone with BPD. At the start, it was incredible. As soon as things happened in my life that could threaten the amount of time or attention I could invest in them, things got toxic, psychologically manipulative and downright fucking awful quickly. Whenever Id start to try to get out, theyd start being very affectionate and do all these really sweet things. Sometimes it got really bad and I tried to get out of the relationship and theyd then threaten to kill themselves. They ended up breaking up with me, because I wouldnt come over one Friday night after Id just lost my job and had a massive cold. (One hour drive in fuckawful traffic). I called their bluff and said fine. They alternated between accusing me of breaking their heart and begging me to take them back, and after a few weeks promised theyd actually work on things. I was stupid enough to take that at face value. We lasted three weeks before I pulled the plug and once again was stupid enough to agree to an FWB arrangement. Then came a fake pregnancy, then weird lies about a miscarriage. Cut off all contact after getting all my shit back from their place.</quote> I was like her when I was 17... I didn't fix anything.. I just went on a 15 year streak of fucking people I didn't care about to avoid having to feel like that again. Only to accidentally fall in love and realize I'm emotionally still that 17-year-old boy. I've spent the last year confronting those issues and working on them.. Have even started therapy recently and finally found a therapist I jive with. Honestly, a lot of my initial improvements started with pretty much utter mental anguish where I merely pretended I was fine with separation. Like my logical brain knew it was alright to be apart, but my emotions were just storming inside of me. Now I honestly feel a good bit better.. But I need to remain vigilant and not let myself enter negative thought patterns. Especially as I work on confronting other demons. I know you didn't ask for this but it just came out. --- Thank you for being a friend <3</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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