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Jiek_Fafn posted...

My best friend is diagnosed with it. She's very clingy and quick to essentially lock herself away and cry if she feels a relationship is being threatened. She does it on a friendship level as well. It's never been abusive. Just makes her feel like shit if I'm hanging out with another friend too much or something. Her "abuse" is complete directed towards herself.

She does the same thing with guys that she dates as well. None of them have ever led me to believe that she's outwardly abusive towards them. They've mentioned that she gets super clingy or depressed when she's insecure though.

On the upside, people she loves. She really loves. It makes you feel very special. I'm not dating her so it's not suffocating or anything, so it's a pleasure to be around.

This is what a pretty mild case of bps looks like. I mentioned it on the first page but didn't go into detail.

I dated someone like this. I always suspected she had BPD, as I thought of her as Dr Jekyll and Mr Hyde. And the bolded is very true. She loved me very much and truly wanted to help people. She is one of the most "good" people I know, but good god she had a vindictive side that would lose all sense of relaity and logic when she thought something threatened her.

I eventually ended it because I couldn't take it anymore, but I have sense realized that there were things I could have done to make her feel more secure and I didn't. When she went full blown Hyde, I tended to sink to her level as well.

I failed her, and it breaks my heart because she really hoped we would get married. Amazingly, we are still friends.