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Heartomaton posted...

It's understandable. My whole point is just that no one, not even those of you who have dated people who have BPD, know for sure that an entirely different BPD sufferer is going to behave in the same way as the ones from your negative experiences.

You do have more experience on the subject, that is undeniable. But that just gives you a more informed perspective, not a definitive one.

I understand this. It's anectdotal, coming from my experience. What makes this different is how, again, as I've repeatedly mentioned, so many different people in the same situation have had the exact same experiences, down to the manipulation tactics and insults being identical.

I haven't heard anyone claim to have any remotely positive experiences with people who have BPD, outside the context of being manipulated by the love-bombing tactic.

Whenever this gets brought up outside a relatively "safe" environment for people who were abused by people with BPD, the conversation immediately turns into victims being demonized for stigmatizing and generalizing people with BPD, despite there being an overwhelming amount of horror stories.

The most ironic part is with my two abusive ex's, both of them barely acknowledged the existence of their BPD, save for them using it as an excuse to justify their abuse and devaluation tactics. Never apologize, but simply justify it.