LogFAQs > #964883135

You're worried about getting into an abusive relationship. You found something that's got you thinking about it a lot, and while you know the stigma isn't a 100% accurate prediction, maybe even some people you know had a bad experience.

So plan now for what abusive behaviors are red lines for you. You can decide now that you'll walk at the first sign of violence. You can come up with questions to ask your friends about whether you're changing in a bad way regularly until you feel comfortable in the relationship.

Remember, the disorder isn't the problem, just behaviors. A person with a BPD diagnosis deserves a fair chance. If their behaviors cross your line, then you've given it to them and have no obligation anymore.

It's also possible you'll always be too worried about this. You might decide to end a relationship for that reason of you can't see yourself being happy in it. That's on you, but it could still be the best thing for you both. Do keep an open mind.