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Topic	So I googled the girl I'm supposed to go out with. She has BPD
Oliver_Oliver 05/08/22 2:34:57 PM #113:	Gobstoppers12 posted... My ex with BPD cheated on me several times, screamed at me like 40% of the time no matter how hard I tried to keep her happy, and broke up with me at least once a month. It was the most disastrous relationship I've ever had, and it's not even close. The weird thing is, if not for for abusive bullshit, she was very cool. Very sweet. Made me happy 60% of the time, but that 40% of the time she was in disaster mode, my life was essentially unlivable. BignutzisBack posted... This is really disturbing, as it mirrors exactly the experience I've had with someone who had borderline personality disorder, as well as my friends who dated girls with borderline personality disorder --Zero- posted... Had an ex that was very similar. Seemed like every other month shed get pissed at me and id come home from work to her having her things packed ready to leave me. She left me for her previous ex and got pregnant with him so I dodged a bullet when she finally let me free. Women with BPD in my experience is like getting on a roller coaster without the seatbelt tightened and it was easy to get stuck. yemmy posted... I've had relationships with 3 women in which had some serious personality disorders, only one of them was diagnosed with BPD (or at least shared the diagnosis of it), but all 3 did a lot of the same things, and all 3 had some sort of childhood abuse or severe neglect. People outside of these relationships make fun of the "I can fix her" thing, but when you are young and immature and the sex is so good, sometimes you actually think that, but no it is not happening. ^These are all VERY real things that really do happen in real life. I've heard VERY similar stories from multiple people who have dated someone with BPD. In other words, TC needs to take extreme caution if they decide to go further with this situation and actually go out on a date and proceed beyond that. Also... Unsugarized_Foo posted... Weird to Google someone and see they have BPD But BPD is on a slider from my experience. You can have someone who's crazy, shits on beds, and mean as a snake and have someone who's in treatment and can manage. You'll never see how far the rabbit hole goes unless you observe their closest relationships or become one I'd say go for it if you're a stable person yourself. Run away if you're a codependent It is true that BPD is on a slider. It also strongly depends if the person is medicated or not. Definitely something to consider. HOWEVER, TC also needs to consider the possibility that they might be walking into a situation where the slider is cranked all the way to one extreme side. Or maybe it won't, maybe it will be a slight thing where the BPD is barely noticeable. But TC seriously needs to be on guard and take caution if they decide to go out with this woman. It could be a normal situation, Or TC might find themselves in this situation below (see pic below) in the future (and if anyone has been following the current court case, it was revealed she had BPD): https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/a/user_image/5/9/9/AAZVFDAADNd_.jpg --- Confidence? It's nothing but an illusion. <cite>Oliver_Oliver posted [p:964883000] in So I googl... [t:80013421]...</cite> <quote>Gobstoppers12 posted... </cite> <quote>My ex with BPD cheated on me several times, screamed at me like 40% of the time no matter how hard I tried to keep her happy, and broke up with me at least once a month. It was the most disastrous relationship I've ever had, and it's not even close. The weird thing is, if not for for abusive bullshit, she was very cool. Very sweet. Made me happy 60% of the time, but that 40% of the time she was in disaster mode, my life was essentially unlivable.</quote> BignutzisBack posted... </cite> <quote>This is really disturbing, as it mirrors exactly the experience I've had with someone who had borderline personality disorder, as well as my friends who dated girls with borderline personality disorder</quote> --Zero- posted... </cite> <quote>Had an ex that was very similar. Seemed like every other month shed get pissed at me and id come home from work to her having her things packed ready to leave me. She left me for her previous ex and got pregnant with him so I dodged a bullet when she finally let me free. Women with BPD in my experience is like getting on a roller coaster without the seatbelt tightened and it was easy to get stuck.</quote> yemmy posted... </cite> <quote>I've had relationships with 3 women in which had some serious personality disorders, only one of them was diagnosed with BPD (or at least shared the diagnosis of it), but all 3 did a lot of the same things, and all 3 had some sort of childhood abuse or severe neglect. People outside of these relationships make fun of the "I can fix her" thing, but when you are young and immature and the sex is so good, sometimes you actually think that, but no it is not happening.</quote> ^These are all VERY real things that really do happen in real life. I've heard VERY similar stories from multiple people who have dated someone with BPD. In other words, TC needs to take extreme caution if they decide to go further with this situation and actually go out on a date and proceed beyond that. Also... Unsugarized_Foo posted... </cite> <quote>Weird to Google someone and see they have BPD But BPD is on a slider from my experience. You can have someone who's crazy, shits on beds, and mean as a snake and have someone who's in treatment and can manage. You'll never see how far the rabbit hole goes unless you observe their closest relationships or become one I'd say go for it if you're a stable person yourself. Run away if you're a codependent</quote> It is true that BPD is on a slider. It also strongly depends if the person is medicated or not. Definitely something to consider. HOWEVER, TC also needs to consider the possibility that they might be walking into a situation where the slider is cranked all the way to one extreme side. Or maybe it won't, maybe it will be a slight thing where the BPD is barely noticeable. But TC seriously needs to be on guard and take caution if they decide to go out with this woman. It could be a normal situation, Or TC might find themselves in this situation below (see pic below) in the future (and if anyone has been following the current court case, it was revealed she had BPD): https://gamefaqs.gamespot.com/a/user_image/5/9/9/AAZVFDAADNd_.jpg --- Confidence? It's nothing but an illusion.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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