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MrToothHasYou posted...

Cluster B personality disorders get a bad rap but there are some important things to remember: people with mental illness, even these sorts of disorders which are closely associated with toxic, abusive behavior, are still more likely to become the victims of abuse than they are to be the perpetrators of it. In the case of BPD, there is almost always a case of childhood abuse/trauma present. Personality disorders arent just people being evil or whatever, they are a behavioral manifestation of trauma avoidance and (poor) coping mechanisms.

All that said, if you dont think you can hang, then dont. Get out now before you make it any harder on either her or yourself, youll be doing both of you a favor.

So with dating, someone having pre loaded reasons for their inconsistent or difficult behaviour (and I very much acknowledge they are genuine reasons, not flimsy excuses) doesn't make it any less difficult for the person trying to date them. For me it made things far worse because I felt I couldn't hold them to the standards of a mentally healthy person.

TC was asking for dating advice and he got it. And that advice came in the form of personal stories