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Gobstoppers12 posted...

It's all well and good to say that people can manage their mental illnesses, but...sometimes it's just not worth it to assume the best. Dating anybody with a diagnosed mental illness has the potential to spiral into a bad situation. People who have gone through it are absolutely justified in sharing their personal experiences. That's exactly what the topic is about.

A lot of us have had bad experiences with girls who have this particular diagnosis, so we're sharing our stories because we were prompted. It may not help with the stigma, but sometimes things just need to be said.

It's an extremely common story. It's not 100% of all cases, but these stories (which are all nearly identical to one another) are common enough to make the diagnosis itself a yellow flag, if not a red one. It can still be fun and worthwhile to date somebody with BPD, but there's absolutely a risk involved. Especially given how the relationship almost always starts strong, which can make you think "oh, this isn't so bad," until shit does get bad and you already feel like you're in too deep. It's what happened to me.

The basic sentiment of "Run away from them because they are going to ruin your life" constantly echoed throughout this topic essentially says that we as trauma survivors don't deserve love or the opportunity to overcome our disorder.

While at the very heart of my disorder is me feeling that I don't deserve to be loved...

I hope everyone can see why this would be rather damaging.