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haloiscoolisbak posted...

Yeah, last girl I dated had BPD and was a childhood abuse sufferer, from her own brother. Did you find yourself excusing all their ridiculous behaviour because of what they'd been through? Like I normally don't let people push me around or treat me unfairly, but because of what she'd gone through I felt myself constantly forgiving her for her behaviour.... Or at least justifying it to myself. (Had nothing to do with the sex which was no better or worse than what I'd had with previous girls)

I eventually ended up so gaslit and confused and hurt. It sucks because I'm someone who considered myself very understanding of mental health issues but now I'm way too scared to date someone like that again

My case is similar to yours with the last girl I dated except she had schizophrenia. I would often give my ex a pass for the ridiculous and abusive behavior she exhibited because of what she went through in the past.