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yemmy posted...

I've had relationships with 3 women in which had some serious personality disorders, only one of them was diagnosed with BPD (or at least shared the diagnosis of it), but all 3 did a lot of the same things, and all 3 had some sort of childhood abuse or severe neglect.

People outside of these relationships make fun of the "I can fix her" thing, but when you are young and immature and the sex is so good, sometimes you actually think that, but no it is not happening.

Yeah, last girl I dated had BPD and was a childhood abuse sufferer, from her own brother. Did you find yourself excusing all their ridiculous behaviour because of what they'd been through? Like I normally don't let people push me around or treat me unfairly, but because of what she'd gone through I felt myself constantly forgiving her for her behaviour.... Or at least justifying it to myself. (Had nothing to do with the sex which was no better or worse than what I'd had with previous girls)

I eventually ended up so gaslit and confused and hurt. It sucks because I'm someone who considered myself very understanding of mental health issues but now I'm way too scared to date someone like that again