LogFAQs > #964543065

Had very close to this exact crisis in 2019. Thought my friends didn't care about me, had only one real family member whose health was rapidly declining and was refusing to get any treatment. I'm not going to presume that we're exactly the same, so just take what I'm saying with the appropriate amount of salt with that in mind, but I do think my experiences could be relevant as someone who has lived with people suffering depression my whole life and have teetered on the verge of it myself a few times.

What I had to do to start improving my life was just change how I was living. I hung out with different people, did different things-- just put myself out there, moved to a nearby town, and flipped everything upside down. Now I'm very happy with everything, met my near 3 year girlfriend around that time, and I'm pretty sure if I hadn't made such a drastic change with Covid sapping energy from the world + my mom dying I wouldn't be posting here right now.

Speaking of my mom, in addition to being totally crushed by losing my only real family member, I was left with a lot of debt when she passed and those same friends who I thought didn't care about me somehow figured out about the debt (I didnt mention it but its a small town-- pretty sure someone at the bank who was friends with a friend was loose lipped about it) and were invaluable emotional AND financial support during this time. When you need them, your friends WILL help you.

Anyway regardless I don't think those feelings are just gonna go away on their own. You need to change something in your life. It might be as simple as getting psychiatric help, or you might need to do something else more drastic, but changing things is the key.

tl;dr Your friends do care about you but it's almost irrelevant. Your perception is that they don't so you need to change something you're doing to start the road to improving your life because things don't ever get better by themself. I know we're not exactly chummy chummy, but hopefully something in this rambling helped.