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DivideR posted...

This.

Have you ever heard what your friends think of your relationship? Often times a third perspective sees things much differently.

My online friends, who have never met my wife, and have only heard what I've told them: They all think she's an abusive manipulator who never really loved me. They think that the bad times vastly outweighed the good and a lot of the good is tainted by her manipulation. They constantly shout me down when I try to talk about her good qualities or even defend her a little.

My irl friends who are also friends with my wife: mixed reactions. Three of them are pretty on my "side" and think my wife has lost her mind. One of my friends is... super weird about it. I've tried to talk to him about it and he just shuts me down with, "I'm not gonna talk shit about any of my friends." He also dismissed a lot of my concerns about her behavior which... hurt. A lot. My wife nearly cost me my new job and his only reaction was, "This situation sucks for both of you," when it was entirely her fault.

I haven't really told any of my other friends either because they were more my wife's friends or they're just not the kind of friends you open up to emotionally.

Also, all of my family that I've told are fully on board the "Wow, your wife is insane and trash" wagon.

But, before the breakups, people generally had the same reaction to our relationship: everyone thought we were so perfect together. My wife would gush about me. She talked about how good I was to her and how lucky she was to have found me. I had one friend outright tell me, "I wish I had what you guys have." I genuinely thought I'd hit the jackpot because I'd found someone who loved me, whom I loved just as much, and who wanted to be with me forever.

It sounds corny as fuck, but I was just so in love with her. Every love song made me think of her and gave me butterflies. I'm still as wild about her now as I was when I was nineteen; maybe even more so. And that's even after some of the truly heinous things she's done.