LogFAQs > #956629455

First of all, there is absolutely nothing wrong with being used, if you are choosing to be used, or aware of it and don't mind. A good friend will not just use you, but will also reciprocate and do things for you as well. A really good friendship means neither of you even care if the other uses them and are happy to help the friend in any way possible.

Second, MANY people do things without anything in return. I know, I know, your gonna say "oh they get a feeling of doing a good deed, or a sense of accomplishment etc" That is not always true, and actually to your point, often you are just used, and you know your being used, and your effort is even wasted as the person you help squanders it and doesn't accomplish anything from what you have given them. People STILL try and help, and make the world a better place. People spend time with the elderly, even though they have demntia and won't remember it, just to make a bit of their day happier. People work at soup kitchens and give out food at food drives and help people they will never meet. TONS of people do good things every day without any expectation of anything in return and many try hard to ensure nobody even knows about it.

So yes, there are many people out there who will use you, but cutting yourself off from everybody just because of that, well, it seems like a waste. There is so much joy that can be had interacting with others. Not just joy for you, but for them as well. You can be a good influence, you can help people be motivated, push them to try new things, make anything they are doing, work, learning etc, more enjoyable and less of a chore. You have the power to make the world a better place by the way you interact with others.

Don't let bad experiences stop you from being open to good ones. I can understand if you can't put yourself out there anymore, or have just given up, but honestly, it's worth it to keep trying, to find others to share this burden of life with and to make it lighter for them, and in the process lighter for yourself as well.

The costs can be high, especially when those you love suffer, or pass away, but even though I have suffered loss and miss some of them greatly, I am glad I had them in my life and made their lives as pleasant/happy as I could while they were alive.

Life can be hard, can keep kicking you, even when you are down and have been down for awhile. It can be hard to get up and keep trying and sometimes it takes awhile to pull yourself together enough to even try, but if you can, it can also get better. I hope you do try and find friends and maybe more again, I really believe it is worth it.

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Tacobot 3000 "Saving the world from not having tacos."
Friends don't make their friends die Hanz. Psychopathic friends do.