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Before I met either of them I saw him (Ren) on a list for a party and was attracted to him so I though Id talk to him at the party. When he gets there I realise he is dating this girl (Sam) already so I did nothing and just like push it to the back of my head.

Since they worked with and were good friend with my best guy friend at the time I eventually became her friend. She said I was her best girl friend and she didnt have any because girls always end up stealing her boyfriend. Over the time I knew her she would always have drama at a party. Accused a guy of drugging her drink once, yelling at 2 girls who showed up to a party she co-hosted to leave because they werent paying attention to her, crying about giving herself a clothes hanger abortion (Ill come back to this), and most of all fighting with other girls if they so much as touched her boyfriend or looked at him for too long. Point is she created problems at every event.

I also started to learn she was a compulsive liar. She lied about being pregnant, about it being twins and hearing a heartbeat, about doing the clothes hanger abortion I mentioned, about being kidnapped by the Hells Angels, about being sex trafficked, and even just about little things like where a spider had bitten her. Despite all these things, I still tried to be her friend and be understanding and supportive and not call her out on any of it because it was nice to have a female friend even if it came with a lot of extra work.

Now maybe all of that is just me justifying and trying to feel better about what I did.

I guess all of the above eventually took a toll on her boyfriend. A year and a few months after meeting them they broke up. He broke up with her. She texted me to let me know, I tried to talk to her but she never replied, which is mostly what happened whenever I tried to write her in the past.

Couple days later a friend invited me out to her place, shes the ex of the friend who I met Ren and Sam through. Eventually we invite my good friend (her ex) and another mutual friend. Then someone suggested we invite the Sam and Ren. I told them they had broken up and she was at her dads while he was still nearby so they decided we should invite him.

The friend who invited me over and the mutual friend were getting tried eventually so Ren invited myself and my good friend over. Well before we leave my friend spots the record collection that they had split when they broke up and starts arguing with her and insisting about going through them right then and there because he feels she took some ones he should have. Ren and I feel awkward and leave and go to his place.

So were alone at his place. Kind of awkward at first, gets us a couple of drinks, pushes the couches so wed sit on the same one, put on something for us to watch. We chat and stuff and then I lay on the floor and he lays next to me while we talk more. We just had a connection, a spark, and naturally kissed when we were on the ground. Then you know, things naturally proceeded to the bedroom and bowchicawowwow sex happened.

I did feel like a bad friend but also she hasnt really been the best friend to me with the lies, drama, never writing back, and then also she didnt warn me a guy was just trying to use me. He said he didnt regret it or feel bad. We talked more though messages the next day, and basically every day, and have gone on a few dates already and its getting serious. My question is who should be the one to tell her? Me? Him? Just let her figure it out eventually? Its going to come out but what is the best approach. I already know the friendship is done. Shes going to think he broke up with her for me or he was cheating on her and that wasnt the case. Shes just notstable. I dont want her to get nasty or have a mental health break down and hurt herself.

A few friends that know her will know soon so...

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