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Topic	Why online dating sucks
ClockworkHare 01/16/21 10:26:22 PM #47:	Dating apps have become a standard for hook up opportunities. If that's what you're interested in, it's actually DUMB NOT to use them. It's the difference between riding a bike across country or just driving your car... For folks looking for long term commitments, however, one rule has not really changed pre and post advent of dating apps: the best catches rarely ever need that kind of assistance to find relationships to begin with and they get scooped up FAST without it, because their attractive characteristics are noticeable. If someone's awesome company on dates, has an attractive magnetic personality, and looking to settle down, they generally do not need apps to reel in partners. The partners have already been coming to them. "But but but I'M awesome, fierce and independent, Clockwork. Nobody looking for commitment is lining up to date me! " Then maybe you're ignoring one or more 5 common problems: you're looking in the wrong places (seeking commitment in places where hooking up is more catered to is like looking for a romantic dinner in a landfill). you're not as awesome as you think and you might be overestimating what you "bring to the table" compared to what you expect from partners. you're not making the conditions to approach you as easy and reasonable as you believe (you might be underestimating how much effort it takes to date you without asking yourself if you're justifiably worth the trouble compared to the competition). you claim you're ready for a commitment; but your actions, history, and priorities are flat out saying otherwise (red flags galore). you're not taking the possibility of a commitment seriously, it's just on your wish list (therefore you're more likely to overlook a real catch and let the good ones get away). Self reflection and practical maintenance can improve your odds in finding a committed partner. Telling yourself you're already perfect and people better accept that does not... --- Bite me like one of your French rolls. https://tryimg.com/u/2020/08/11/1tZ1gcH.jpg <cite>ClockworkHare posted [p:949586305] in Why online... [t:79243213]...</cite> <quote>Dating apps have become a standard for hook up opportunities. If that's what you're interested in, it's actually DUMB NOT to use them. It's the difference between riding a bike across country or just driving your car... For folks looking for long term commitments, however, one rule has not really changed pre and post advent of dating apps: the best catches rarely ever need that kind of assistance to find relationships to begin with and they get scooped up FAST without it, because their attractive characteristics are noticeable. If someone's awesome company on dates, has an attractive magnetic personality, and looking to settle down, they generally do not need apps to reel in partners. The partners have already been coming to them. "But but but I'M awesome, fierce and independent, Clockwork. Nobody looking for commitment is lining up to date me! " Then maybe you're ignoring one or more 5 common problems: you're looking in the wrong places (seeking commitment in places where hooking up is more catered to is like looking for a romantic dinner in a landfill).you're not as awesome as you think and you might be overestimating what you "bring to the table" compared to what you expect from partners.you're not making the conditions to approach you as easy and reasonable as you believe (you might be underestimating how much effort it takes to date you without asking yourself if you're justifiably worth the trouble compared to the competition).you claim you're ready for a commitment; but your actions, history, and priorities are flat out saying otherwise (red flags galore).you're not taking the possibility of a commitment seriously, it's just on your wish list (therefore you're more likely to overlook a real catch and let the good ones get away). Self reflection and practical maintenance can improve your odds in finding a committed partner. Telling yourself you're already perfect and people better accept that does not... --- Bite me like one of your French rolls. https://tryimg.com/u/2020/08/11/1tZ1gcH.jpg</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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