Apparently not. Both can be applied correctly or incorrectly.
Again. Read the all-sides on it. Understand our differences in position and realize they are not going to change. I at no point did anything maliciously and have already said while I disagree I can say illegal immigrants instead of illegals if it makes you feel more comfortable. You can choose to harp over it or not. That's your own choice. I am telling you flat out, my position will not change here.
A woman illegally crossing with her children to provide them a better life is still an illegal immigrant just as a man stealing money from someone to try and feed his children is a criminal.
Do I empathize for them and wish they weren't in those situations, yes. It doesn't change it is against the law and those terms are applied to those who break those laws.
That's all fine, but your analogy as to why "illegal immigrant" is okay because "African-American" is okay makes no sense. I'm just letting you know.