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Kyuubi4269 posted...

It's a tradeable commodity, do you think trade isn't mutually enjoyable?

Not usually for its own sake. It's enjoyable to attain a product or service that you want, and it's enjoyable to attain compensation for that product/service (or at least, the compensation can subsequently be used to attain a product/service that provides later enjoyment), but the simple act of giving somebody money for a new video game doesn't usually get me off, nor do they get off on giving me the game.

The mere act of sex is enjoyable. It's not a matter of providing it as a service in exchange for something enjoyable.

Kyuubi4269 posted...

They want to have sex that offers a good return i.e. good performance, looks, kink gear, etc. People offer what they have for what someone else has.

They want to have a good time, because duh, but that doesn't mean they're exchanging anything but their time for that good time. They choose to spend their time doing something enjoyable, if it's not enjoyable, then that simply means they won't waste their time on it in the future. In practice, that standard is actually probably more common among those with more sexual partners than fewer, because having more varied experience means one is more able to recognize when sex has been sub-par and it's not worth hooking up with that person again.

Kyuubi4269 posted...

What way is up when you've been given too vague directions? You don't know you're putting out a good performance if anything beyond pain is fine.

You could always, I dunno, talk to your partner? This seems to be a novel concept for you, but relationships aren't typically between a man and a wordless sexual vending machine. If you want to know how to be a better partner for somebody you're interested in, communicate with them to find out how. That's always going to be true, whether you're dating somebody who's never dated anyone before or whether you're dating somebody who's had a new partner every month since hitting puberty. Humans invented words, so now you don't have to jump to conclusions.

Kyuubi4269 posted...

I expect my partners to be discriminating, I expect them to know what they want and what they can command of people who want them.

That typically comes with experience, not by holding yourself to such a high standard that you don't let anyone have you. You only learn what you like by trying out different things and comparing them to other things you've tried. That applies to all of life, really.

Kyuubi4269 posted...

As I said prior, someone who will just take whatever dick doesn't uphold high enough standards for me to want to pursue a relationship with.

And you've still failed to explain why sexual standards have anything to do with forming a relationship. One can very easily have high standards for a romantic/potential life partner while filling the gap between relationships with casual hookups. Again, sex is fun. It doesn't have to be anything more than that, nor does treating it casually mean one isn't going to be applying more stringent standards to serious relationships. Conflating relationships and sex to such a degree is baseless and foolish.

Kyuubi4269 posted...

Opinions don't have merit either.

I can see why you might think that, but those of us whose opinions are based on sound empirical reasoning and careful consideration of their implications would be inclined to disagree. My opinions have plenty of merit.