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Kyuubi4269 posted...

A merchant can sell their goods for what it cost them to acquire it, but I'd have no respect for them. Either you have no sense of worth, or you aren't worth much; either option dealing with you isn't a respectable affair.

Except sex is a mutually enjoyable activity (provided you don't suck at it), not a product. Sure, it can be sold as a service, but framing it like that is not going to be appropriate for the vast majority of people because the vast majority of people aren't prostitutes. When people choose to have sex, it's because they want to have sex, not because they decide that their partner has earned access to that service.

The concepts of "value" and "worth" have no place here. Trying to shoehorn them in is flagrant objectification, and precisely the kind of attitude anti-slut shaming sentiments are trying to combat.

Kyuubi4269 posted...

Because if the bar for entry is low, anybody can get in.

So step up your game to make sure you remain the best option. Don't expect all future partners to limit their experience to reduce the chance of having been with somebody better than you. If you're really so insecure that you'd be willing to dump a potential partner because you're worried you're not good enough, talk to them about your insecurities to see how they're feeling, rather than assuming you need to cut your losses and run away.

And that's without considering that relationships are more than sex. Sex is a part of most relationships, yes, but the two can certainly be separated. Somebody having a few Tinder hookups between relationships doesn't mean they aren't going to commit to an exclusive relationship once they find somebody they want to be in a relationship with. Sex is fun. It doesn't have to be anything more than that (provided appropriate protections are used, of course), nor does having sex preclude enjoying the other aspects of whatever relationship they're considering now.

Kyuubi4269 posted...

I don't think there's a need to rank importance on feelings.

Ranking the importance of feelings is the fundamental basis for all subjective arguments. You're comparing opinions on their respective merits and implications to arrive at a conclusion on which is better. Of course there's a need to do that. Literally all conflict resolution depends on doing so.