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streamofthesky posted...

When I speak, the voice I hear in my head sounds great. When I listen to a recording of myself speaking, it sounds absolutely nothing like what I hear and I don't like it. Oddly deep and frustratingly monotone even when I know damn well I wasn't speaking in such a way. Like, if I didn't know it was my voice that was recorded, I'd swear it couldn't possibly be me talking, it sounds completely alien to what I personally hear.

That's because when you normally hear yourself talk, you receive both sound transferred through your ears externally by air conduction and sound transferred internally through your bones. This bone conduction of sound delivers rich low frequencies that are not included in air-conducted vocal sound. So when you hear your recorded voice without these frequencies, it sounds higher and different. Since your recorded voice does not sound how you expect it to, you dont like it.

This is similar to how we often don't like our own picture. We're used to see ourselves in a mirror, so the image we have of ourselves is mirrored. If you like combing your forelock in a certain direction, other people actually see it in the opposite direction. The same goes for imperfections such as moles, pimples and scars.

LinkPizza posted...

I think Im indifferent. Plus, I cant really hear my voice. Because Im me, I cant really hear what I sound like normally. So, I can only hear when recorded...

So you can't hear yourself when you talk? You should consult a doctor because that's not normal at all.

Krow_Incarnate posted...

https://voca.ro/6uQL4Pc7qGB

Thanks for sharing! Personally, I sound like I'm always constipated: https://voca.ro/2R4Sowzt9m1

Gardens posted...

Boston accented gay voice. And yes, I get misgendered everyday on the phone at work, but I play-along. When you're doing medical insurance things, you don't want your homophobic and conservative clients to derail the subject.

How can you be misgendered if you sound like a gay man? Sounding gay still implies that you sound like a man. Unless you're actually a woman, I don't see how you can be misgendered. Also, a voice can't sound gay, only an accent can. Gays who talk in an effeminate accent can actually sound not gay if they try, just like how a straight man can mimic a gay accent if they want. The gay accent and mannerisms are basically just replicating a type of female speech. Gays who adopted it during their development were subconsciously trying to act female because they felt more closely related to their female peers. The same goes for very tomboyish lesbians, their natural behavior is closer to a male one.

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Paradoxically, when I was undergoing puberty around the time I turned 14, I actually liked my recorded voice more than the one I heard in my head. My voice was just getting deeper, it was when I could no longer shriek like a girl. Since my recorded voice sounded higher, I recognized it more than the one I was now hearing in my head. I hit puberty late and my growth spurt was insane. In primary school (6-12 years old), I was always in the middle in class pictures, i.e. half of my peers (both genders combined) were taller than me. On my first year of high school (12-13 years), many girls were taller than me. A year later and we were equal in height. Another year later and I finally exceeded them but only barely. By the time I reached my maximum height at 16 (yes, that fast), I was now among the tallest. My height is 182 cm (1 cm below 6 ft).

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I'm French speaking.
30/Male/Quebec