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Noop_Noop posted...

I guess i just dont understand how his funeral service is for her

Because wakes and funerals are for the grieving, not the deceased. It's a time to bid farewell to the departed, but moreso it's a showing of support and a sharing of grief. Commiserating with those you love who may be in pain.

Yes, you can say goodbye or say a prayer for the one you've lost, but clearly you don't care to and that's fine. But I assume the aunt you speak of will be there, and while there may be plenty of other family there for her to lean on, you can never tell how much it will mean to someone that you show up and do something as simple as hold their hand in silence.

If you want to harbor a grudge towards your cousin for wasting his life, go for it. You do you. But instead of focusing on "Why should we be making a big deal of of this guy's funeral?", try instead just thinking about the people you actually give a shit about and how you can help them. Might make a bitter pill a little easier to swallow if you just change your perspective a bit and approach it from a point of helping your loved ones instead of seeing your cousin off, you know?

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