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Topic	Gay man calls out his HS bully after he came out as bisexual sparking debate.
OpenlyGator 11/13/19 12:20:34 AM #52:	CruelBuffalo posted... nemu posted... Seems fair. Regardless if the bully was just an asshole or using the bullying as a coping mechanism for his own physical or mental abuse, tormenting another person is not in any way justifiable. Maybe in some universe it would have been possible to open up a dialogue of understanding, but the victim owes nothing to the bully. Correct, the victim never has to forgive the bully. However the question is was he being an asshole with that post, and yes he was. He could have moved on, ignored it, blocked him, etc. Did he think everyone was gonna gang up on him with a passive aggressive post and be like yeah go kill yourself asshole!!! The bully left himself open for possible retaliation for drumroll ~~being a bully~~. He did the deed, he accepted the potential consequences. Never mind that his victim's retaliation was just text over the internet... If the bully also participated in physical harassment towards the victim (very common in high school bullying), I certainly would not fault the victim for merely casting justifiable shade at a ripe opportunity. Many victims would have understandably sought to do worse. Either way, it's the bully's fault for getting snubbed later on for being an ass in youth. Morally it's not the victim's responsibility to reach out on that for closure. A reformed bully would seek to make amends, which apparently was not attempted in this case. So you will see no sympathy for the bully from me. His actions set himself up for backlash. --- The funny thing about telling others to take the high road is how often it's hypocritical advice. http://tryimg.com/8/2017/06/28/IdSqD.png <cite>OpenlyGator posted [p:930059941] in Gay man ca... [t:78147163]...</cite> <quote>CruelBuffalo posted...</cite> <quote>nemu posted...</cite> <quote>Seems fair. Regardless if the bully was just an asshole or using the bullying as a coping mechanism for his own physical or mental abuse, tormenting another person is not in any way justifiable. Maybe in some universe it would have been possible to open up a dialogue of understanding, but the victim owes nothing to the bully. </quote> Correct, the victim never has to forgive the bully. However the question is was he being an asshole with that post, and yes he was. He could have moved on, ignored it, blocked him, etc. Did he think everyone was gonna gang up on him with a passive aggressive post and be like yeah go kill yourself asshole!!!</quote> The bully left himself open for possible retaliation for drumroll being a bully. He did the deed, he accepted the potential consequences. Never mind that his victim's retaliation was just text over the internet... If the bully also participated in physical harassment towards the victim (very common in high school bullying), I certainly would not fault the victim for merely casting justifiable shade at a ripe opportunity. Many victims would have understandably sought to do worse. Either way, it's the bully's fault for getting snubbed later on for being an ass in youth. Morally it's not the victim's responsibility to reach out on that for closure. A reformed bully would seek to make amends, which apparently was not attempted in this case. So you will see no sympathy for the bully from me. His actions set himself up for backlash. --- The funny thing about telling others to take the high road is how often it's hypocritical advice. http://tryimg.com/8/2017/06/28/IdSqD.png</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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