LogFAQs > #929012020

legendary_zell posted...

Well the actual, real life situations where these things happen are confusing and ambiguous. That's the problem. We have to prepare people to handle that ambiguity and not just barrel ahead assuming they have consent. Just a little hesitation, a little questioning, a little thinking about the situation can help a lot.

Equipping guys with those tools isn't maligning them or accusing them of all being animals or rapists in waiting. It's harm prevention. Just like in elementary school you actually do have to affirmatively teach all children not to simply hit people even when they're mad or frustrated or feel threatened. Some people wouldn't do it anyway but a lot more people will do it if you don't give them strategies on how to avoid it.

I mean, you can also teach women to be less ambiguous in their revoking of consent if the problem is not correctly interpreting mixed signals, but I'm guessing people would consider the idea offensive, so let's go back to talking about how men need to be taught not to rape.
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