Im 28, shes 25. Engaged, live together, been together for almost 6 years.
We have sex once or twice a month
Used to be like 5 times a day when we first got together, not sure what happened
If you're engaged and it's dropped off like that you guys need to have a conversation
Weve had many. Pretty much the same conversation over and over.
Just doesnt seem to change
What's the problem then? Does she not have much of a sex drive? Cuz that's the issue I've run into with my wife in the past. She was worried she's asexual cuz her drive is so low, but we had a few awkward talks at the time and it's improved since then.
Like, I know it sucks, and it makes you feel like a perv to be like GIMME MUH SEX but once sex is introduced into a relationship, it becomes an important aspect of it
She doesnt feel like theres enough intimacy outside of sex, and therefore doesnt crave it. Also says she doesnt feel confident enough sometimes.
But from my point of view, its literally always something. Too tired, headache, dont feel well, work was stressful, etc.
And then I end up getting kind of spiteful about it, which turns into one big vicious cycle.
For example... went to a wedding, out of town, this weekend.
Booked a nice hotel, didnt have 5 pets distracting us, no work to stress about, etc. We get there a couple hours before the ceremony starts, so I figured maybe we could get a head start on the romance.
Didnt want to fool around before the wedding because youll mess up my makeup or hair, saying that itll happen later tonight.
Then once we get back from the wedding, shes stumbling over and hiccuping non stop, and passes out pretty much instantly. Then nothing the next morning before we left either.
Idk it doesnt sound like much, but I figured it would be the perfect opportunity
Yea, definitely sounds like you're a checkbox couple and attraction was either a low priority or non existant to begin with.
No offense, but this is not looking good. ---
It's not the end of the world, but we can see it from here.