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foolm0r0n posted...

Wait after 9 years you were living like roommates and then just mutually ghosted each other?

That's some good shit

Not intentionally but it kinda worked out like that. When I say living like roommates it wasn't like we had an agreement, it just kinda felt that way by the end.

We had long commutes to work (~45-60 mins each way) and conflicting schedules. We never shared a day off and sometimes she also had to work the late shift. I would also sometimes get sent out of town for work. Towards the end that was when I realized things were really bad as she used to contact me every day when I was out of town but the last few times there was literally zero communication. So lack of quality time together definitely didn't help.

Second thing was I had a habit of falling asleep in the recliner as I had the earlier start for work whilst she stayed up later playing videogames or watching TV. By the time I woke up she'd be in bed and long asleep. So it basically felt like we weren't sharing a bed most nights either.

Our common interests dwindled along with intimacy and quality time spent together. We had underlining issues we never resolved during the relationship due to shitty communication too. So basically we were in a position where it didn't feel like we were in a relationship and were only living together as we were married. We both still cared for each other but we weren't sure if we still loved each other and it was hard to tell that with us still living together. I was willing to do marriage counseling but she didn't want to. So I moved out so that we could see how we would feel and I guess the love wasn't there anymore.

I don't know if both of us were too stubborn to try reconcile but like I said, it worked out for us both in the end. And as everything was amicable so we both got to remain friends.