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Topic	So any form of masculinity is considered toxic now
SpiralDrift 06/27/18 4:11:30 PM #17:	pinky0926 posted... SpiralDrift posted... If we're gonna support women who attack their sexual assailants we should support men who choose to do the same. Of course, it's up to the victim to decide whether this is the best course of action in their specific situation and people outside of it can only offer advice in hindsight. There's a subtle difference in points here though. Consider both responses to the same situation: "I would have supported you if you attacked him/defended him in that situation" "You should have attacked/defended against him, then it wouldn't have happened." The reason people would say offering "advice" in that situation is toxic is because not only does it put the fault at the victim's feet for not handling it in a certain way but it's totally redundant. Hindsight is 20/20 and completely worthless (and insulting) in this situation. That just makes it bad advice then. Also, it's not just men saying it. --- Do unto others what your parents did to you. <cite>SpiralDrift posted [p:904073709] in So any for... [t:76755826]...</cite> <quote><cite>pinky0926 posted...</cite> <quote><cite>SpiralDrift posted...</cite> <quote>If we're gonna support women who attack their sexual assailants we should support men who choose to do the same. Of course, it's up to the victim to decide whether this is the best course of action in their specific situation and people outside of it can only offer advice in hindsight.</quote> There's a subtle difference in points here though. Consider both responses to the same situation: "I would have supported you if you attacked him/defended him in that situation" "You should have attacked/defended against him, then it wouldn't have happened." The reason people would say offering "advice" in that situation is toxic is because not only does it put the fault at the victim's feet for not handling it in a certain way but it's totally redundant. Hindsight is 20/20 and completely worthless (and insulting) in this situation.</quote> That just makes it bad advice then. Also, it's not just men saying it. --- Do unto others what your parents did to you.</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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