LogFAQs > #903618511

Crazy story!!

Juan and I have been planning a trip to New York for a few months, and while we're there it's am ongoing assumption that we spend time with his best friend that he's known since high school, the guy's wife, and another friend, because we live in Arizona and only see them every few years, so the visit is kind of a big and expected deal. I have friends of my own who live there that I hadn't spoken to in forever so I typically wouldn't make plans with my friends in the past.

However my birthday was in March and around my birthday it hit me that I needed to do a lot better about making time to talk to my friends, so I messaged my best friend who lives in Ohio and suggested that we should talk on messenger a lot more despite the fact that our lives are busy because I straight up missed him, and he was excited about that, so we talk a lot more now and it's been awesome.
So I started contacting other friends in New York and doing the same and it's been incredible because I get to communicate with people I haven't seen in years!
I added Juan's 3 friends that we normally make plans with to a messenger group and suggested the same, but in the past few months they've hardly made an effort to talk to me despite the fact that I reach out to them.

That's when it hit me... hard! So I messaged the group we normally see in New York on Monday, the morning before our trip to New York and I told them I felt conflicted about spending time with them for dinner Friday night because we never talk anymore despite the fact that I reach out, and asked if there was a better way to communicate with them.

They pretty much all made excuses that they are dealing with life shit, time zones are difficult, and one actually said that he regularly updated my husband on their lives so he doesn't feel the need to send me an identical message. My heart both dropped and soared!

So I said Fuck it! At 10:30 Monday night I messaged 2 friends in New York that I had been speaking to regularly since March and hadn't seen in 10 years and told them I'd be in town and wanted to see them Friday night, and Tuesday morning before we left to board the plane they both confirmed!!!
So I'm ditching my husband's friends to see my own and I'm so excited. My husband isn't thrilled but he gets that it's my turn to see my people.
I responded in an epic way to his friends telling that my other friends and I take time out of our lives to communicate because it's a priority to us, so we say fuck time, space and distance and choose to talk to each other.

These 3 we normally see don't know yet that I'm not going to be there with them for dinner. One of them has a new girlfriend to introduce to is and in my heart I realized that I don't care.

So Friday night I'm thrilled and excited!!!
---

Been a murder, over in Riften. Some old lady who runs an orphanage. Those poor children must be heartbroken.