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TheCyborgNinja posted...

"Pick-up artists" are losers. I can't echo that sentiment hard enough. It's embarrassing to hear them speak. Anyone that can't get a date by being genuine is either looking in the wrong places or may need to take some time to improve themselves (be it confidence building or whatever).

The most interest I ever had from women was when I just stopped caring what anyone else thought. You get into this kind of zone, like Peter in Office Space when he doesn't care about getting fired, and it's a different feeling that is empowering once you manage to find it. You can't will yourself to chill, but when you find a way to make "not caring" click everything else should fall into place.

Super true, the only point I'd disagree with is that pick up artists aren't losers. They're mostly just sad. Everytime I hear them speak I can't help but feel they're empty people. But hell, if you want to have meaningless, disconnected, lonely, empty sex and nothing else, by all means, pay them thousands of dollars because you will almost certainly get that. My advice is get all the free shit you can from those stupid scams, then build on it to make it your own, because beyond that there's nothing substantial apart from manipulation and narcissism.

TheCyborgNinja posted...

I think the biggest mistake a lot of people tend to make is trying to present themselves as something the person they're pursuing will want, but in actuality that can backfire. I went out with girls like that and it was boring and didn't last long. This matters a lot more in person, probably... As for the whole "in person versus online" debate, I think it's relative. I never really favoured one direction over another, but if the guy is really as socially inept as he sounds, I think Tinder may be too fast for him and he should just try making friends on a social networking site without a core foundation of "hooking up"... He just needs to make some female friends and then go from there. It seems like jumping in won't work for him, especially if he lacks experience.

Lack of experience is fine, you can make up for that aside from what you assume is experience. I would honestly say you should present yourself as the sort of person that would attract the sort of person you want. A bit tautological, but I fell in love with a girl who at first I was luke warm towards. I won't get too personal, but there are so many people out there, that if you just open yourself up and try to find something genuine, you can find that, even with someone who you're unsure of at first. That's what happened with me.

Just don't fall for a lying slut who will break your heart and gaslight you after a couple years. And women say men are evil.

TheCyborgNinja posted...

As far as a profile goes, make the write-up brief but interesting (mention a couple of funny interests so you have an immediate but ice-breaking talking point) and take a ton of pictures then have other people help you hammer down the best ones, preferably women. Guys and girls like different things. I always thought this Superman curl my hair naturally does was lame, but my wife finds it really appealing. He should have final say on everything, obviously, but get as much input as you can.

The writeup is inconsequential. I literally just bullshitted on mine, though made it an obvious joke. Make it not cringey, and be good at conversation, at you'll be fine.
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