Poll of the Day > So... How do I get more matches on Tinder?

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Here's the deal: I have a good friend who is kind of depressed and down on himself. He's a good dude but has like zero self confidence and is not good at putting himself out there. He has a good job, and while he's no Brad Pitt, he's by no means ugly.

So basically, I told him I could make him a Tinder profile and get him matches in no time, figuring, how hard could it be? He agreed, so I made him one and got to swiping. Only problem is, it's been 3 days and I have not gotten a single match.

Is this normal? I ran out of free swipes one day, but I keep starting up my phone multiple times per day and swiping like a madman. I've probably been through over a thousand girls and... nothing. I am being selective with girls though. I'm only picking ones I'm 90%+ sure he'd like. But still, nothing.

Am I just being too selective? Could it be that all I had to go off for his profile pictures were old Facebook pics and he doesn't exactly like being the center of attention, so I had to somewhat awkwardly crop him out of them? So the pics I put up weren't all exactly great. Any tips? Are any of the paid options on Tinder worth it? Because honestly, I might drop a little money if it would help out a good friend's confidence.
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Be good looking.

And just swipe yes to all of them. You're being way to picky and not going to get matches out of your league.

Tinder is for girls to get attention and get banged by guys out of their league not the other way around.

If he has no self confidence don't online date. Go out and do shit he enjoys and meet people that way.

Lil69Leo posted...

Be good looking.

Lil69Leo posted...

And just swipe yes to all of them. You're being way to picky and not going to get matches out of your league.

Tinder is for girls to get attention and get banged by guys out of their league not the other way around.

If he has no self confidence don't online date. Go out and do shit he enjoys and meet people that way.

Just wondering, have either of you ever used Tinder?
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Lil69Leo posted...

Be good looking.

Lil69Leo posted...

And just swipe yes to all of them. You're being way to picky and not going to get matches out of your league.

Tinder is for girls to get attention and get banged by guys out of their league not the other way around.

If he has no self confidence don't online date. Go out and do shit he enjoys and meet people that way.

Just wondering, have either of you ever used Tinder?

I'm on it right now. Over 200 matches. etc.

Lil69Leo posted...

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Lil69Leo posted...

Be good looking.

Lil69Leo posted...

And just swipe yes to all of them. You're being way to picky and not going to get matches out of your league.

Tinder is for girls to get attention and get banged by guys out of their league not the other way around.

If he has no self confidence don't online date. Go out and do shit he enjoys and meet people that way.

Just wondering, have either of you ever used Tinder?

I'm on it right now. Over 200 matches. etc.

Oh ok. So do you pay for anything? Also, your advice of he has no self confidence, so don't date online makes no sense. It's much harder to approach girls in person than it is online.
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Lil69Leo posted...

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Lil69Leo posted...

Be good looking.

Lil69Leo posted...

And just swipe yes to all of them. You're being way to picky and not going to get matches out of your league.

Tinder is for girls to get attention and get banged by guys out of their league not the other way around.

If he has no self confidence don't online date. Go out and do shit he enjoys and meet people that way.

Just wondering, have either of you ever used Tinder?

I'm on it right now. Over 200 matches. etc.

Oh ok. So do you pay for anything? Also, your advice of he has no self confidence, so don't date online makes no sense. It's much harder to approach girls in person than it is online.

Tinder is free. Paying for it is sad and desperate. Go out with him, if hes a nerd or gamer take him to the local gaming pubs or something. Hopefully you don't live in a small town. Alcohol does wonders for self confidence.

Not getting matches is going to kill confidence faster too.

Lil69Leo posted...

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Lil69Leo posted...

Be good looking.

Lil69Leo posted...

And just swipe yes to all of them. You're being way to picky and not going to get matches out of your league.

Tinder is for girls to get attention and get banged by guys out of their league not the other way around.

If he has no self confidence don't online date. Go out and do shit he enjoys and meet people that way.

Just wondering, have either of you ever used Tinder?

I'm on it right now. Over 200 matches. etc.

Oh ok. So do you pay for anything? Also, your advice of he has no self confidence, so don't date online makes no sense. It's much harder to approach girls in person than it is online.

Tinder is free. Paying for it is sad and desperate. Go out with him, if hes a nerd or gamer take him to the local gaming pubs or something. Hopefully you don't live in a small town. Alcohol does wonders for self confidence.

Thanks, you've been zero help.

Lil69Leo posted...

Not getting matches is going to kill confidence faster too.

Yeah, this is what I'm afraid of.
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Why are you swiping for him and not him? Is it on your phone?
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Friend of mine is a pilot. Once he changed his Tinder pic to one of him in uniform in the cockpit, he started matching with every single girl he swiped.

Try that.
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Don't pay for tinder

Don't have a bunch of selfies

Don't have an about me

Swipe right on everyone, filter them afterwards

Your "friend" will be banging 6s before the weekend ends
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RCtheWSBC posted...

Why are you swiping for him and not him? Is it on your phone?

The app is on my phone but I signed up with his phone number. I don't see this friend that often and he wouldn't do it himself. IDK, he's really, really been depressive lately and I'm just trying to help out any way I can.

SpaceBear_ posted...

Friend of mine is a pilot. Once he changed his Tinder pic to one of him in uniform in the cockpit, he started matching with every single girl he swiped.

Try that.

You're probably right. His pics are all shit. Bad lighting, obviously cropped, awkward poses. He didn't really give me much to work with. Maybe I need better pics somehow.
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Instead of paying for tinder, pay for a photographer to take a couple "candid" shots of your friend around town.
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SmokeMassTree posted...

Instead of paying for tinder, pay for a photographer to take a couple "candid" shots of your friend around town.

I mean that's not the worst idea posted in this topic.
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I get bitches

@OmegaTomHank
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He needs at least one "glamour shot" and then some action shots or photos showcasing hobbies.

Any pets are a plus. Apparently photos with children are popular, but I don't see the appeal.
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RCtheWSBC posted...

He needs at least one "glamour shot" and then some action shots or photos showcasing hobbies.

Any pets are a plus. Apparently photos with children are popular, but I don't see the appeal.

Ok, noted. Maybe we'll do a photoshoot this weekend.
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Children pics work p well

Dog pics tho, dog pics is where it's at
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SmokeMassTree posted...

Children pics work p well

Dog pics tho, dog pics is where it's at

Children are gross. Maybe we could find a friend with a dog though.
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I would think online dating apps or the like would be more easy for a guy with low self confidence to use themselves as, until you meet said people they are just words on a screen.
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wwinterj25 posted...

I would think online dating apps or the like would be more easy for a guy with low self confidence to use themselves as, until you meet said people they are just words on a screen.

This guy doesn't even have the confidence to use a dating app. It sucks.
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This guy doesn't even have the confidence to use a dating app. It sucks.

Sounds like it. So if you got him a date would he attend?
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Pic with a dog, pic with a few friends (who are normal), pic of doing some kind of interestingish activity.

No selfies.
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Smarkil posted...

Pic with a dog, pic with a few friends (who are normal), pic of doing some kind of interestingish activity.

No selfies.

Nope

1. Be attractive

2. Don't be unattractive.

Made a fake chad profile. His main pic was literally him sitting in McDonald's.

Couple days later. 200+ matches.
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So let's say your "friend" does get a match, will you be the one doing the messaging?
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wwinterj25 posted...

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This guy doesn't even have the confidence to use a dating app. It sucks.

Sounds like it. So if you got him a date would he attend?

I hope so. I think I'd be able to make him.

SmokeMassTree posted...

So let's say your "friend" does get a match, will you be the one doing the messaging?

I honestly haven't thought it out that far lol.
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I honestly haven't thought it out that far lol.

<__<

What an interesting situation
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RCtheWSBC posted...

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I honestly haven't thought it out that far lol.

<__<

What an interesting situation

I guess I'd probably start off and then pass it off to him at some point. Why does it even matter, if something goes awry, can't I just ignore them forever?
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SmokeMassTree posted...

Don't pay for tinder

Don't have a bunch of selfies

Don't have an about me

Swipe right on everyone, filter them afterwards

Your "friend" will be banging 6s before the weekend ends

How come you don't rate having an about me?
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Nobody actually uses Tinder, Tinder is a bunch of bots stealing people's information for profit.
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Update: I swiped right on everyone until I ran out of swipes yesterday. Still no matches. I think we need to do that photoshoot. Probably next weekend, as we're both busy this weekend.

I'm just gonna tell him I didn't use the app yet. If I tell him I've been swiping right all day and got no matches, that'd make him feel bad.
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It's much harder to approach girls in person than it is online.

False. It's sooo much easier.
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Judgmenl posted...

Nobody actually uses Tinder, Tinder is a bunch of bots stealing people's information for profit.

You only think that because the only matches you get are with bots lol
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Lil69Leo posted...

Be good looking.

Lil69Leo posted...

And just swipe yes to all of them. You're being way to picky and not going to get matches out of your league.

Tinder is for girls to get attention and get banged by guys out of their league not the other way around.

If he has no self confidence don't online date. Go out and do shit he enjoys and meet people that way.

Just wondering, have either of you ever used Tinder?

Plot-twist: That was the same guy.
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Tropic_Sunset posted...

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It's much harder to approach girls in person than it is online.

False. It's sooo much easier.

I think you'd find yourself in the minority there. I know a lot of socially awkward guys who have been able to do online dating no problem, but wouldn't ever be able to approach women in person.
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Take a picture of him sitting in his bedroom with a Magnum condom subtly on a table within frame.
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knightoffire55 posted...

Smarkil posted...

Pic with a dog, pic with a few friends (who are normal), pic of doing some kind of interestingish activity.

No selfies.

Nope

1. Be attractive

2. Don't be unattractive.

Made a fake chad profile. His main pic was literally him sitting in McDonald's.

Couple days later. 200+ matches.

It's kind of true. My MySpace page (lol) was full of my Chad-like selfies and plenty of girls sent me requests.

(This goes to show you how long it has been since I was single.)
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My main pic is the one I posted in the "post yourself" topic and one of me and my cat.

Bio is "Tinder says I'm 24, but I'm actually 24...Tried the tide pod challenge and I'm still here...great" and before it was "Still looking for a reason to get up in the morning. Care to help?"

Get like 7 or 8 matches a day. Make him more self deprecating.

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Tropic_Sunset posted...

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It's much harder to approach girls in person than it is online.

False. It's sooo much easier.

I think you'd find yourself in the minority there. I know a lot of socially awkward guys who have been able to do online dating no problem, but wouldn't ever be able to approach women in person.

Maybe. But I used to be a socially awkward guy. I practically walked with a hunchback in high school. I actually remember one day where I was going to my next class, saw some girls looking at me, one said "Ew" really loud and then they all started laughing at me.

But then I learned to not give a shit (people say 'be confident' but really just not caring about things got me to the same place) and found that not only could I be comfortable in a room full of strangers with no effort, but focusing on small, quick, easy things like my posture and putting on cologne made a HUGE difference. One of the better things you can do is just learn to talk to people, and if you're serious about improving you can do it much faster than getting a "hot bod" (although, and while I haven't really done this one, working out is worth it as well), and will see much more drastic results.

I'm someone who's not ugly (not crazy hot either) and have been able to sleep with some of the hottest girls I've ever met when I meet them in real life, but get 99.9% duds while dating online. Seriously, I cannot stress that it's worth the work. It's not as hard as you might think it is and worth the effort.

That said, don't listen to pick up artists. They lay a good foundation, at best, but beyond that you pretty much need to become the person you hate to get what you want, and there's no reason for that.
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"Pick-up artists" are losers. I can't echo that sentiment hard enough. It's embarrassing to hear them speak. Anyone that can't get a date by being genuine is either looking in the wrong places or may need to take some time to improve themselves (be it confidence building or whatever).

The most interest I ever had from women was when I just stopped caring what anyone else thought. You get into this kind of zone, like Peter in Office Space when he doesn't care about getting fired, and it's a different feeling that is empowering once you manage to find it. You can't will yourself to chill, but when you find a way to make "not caring" click everything else should fall into place.

I think the biggest mistake a lot of people tend to make is trying to present themselves as something the person they're pursuing will want, but in actuality that can backfire. I went out with girls like that and it was boring and didn't last long. This matters a lot more in person, probably... As for the whole "in person versus online" debate, I think it's relative. I never really favoured one direction over another, but if the guy is really as socially inept as he sounds, I think Tinder may be too fast for him and he should just try making friends on a social networking site without a core foundation of "hooking up"... He just needs to make some female friends and then go from there. It seems like jumping in won't work for him, especially if he lacks experience.

As far as a profile goes, make the write-up brief but interesting (mention a couple of funny interests so you have an immediate but ice-breaking talking point) and take a ton of pictures then have other people help you hammer down the best ones, preferably women. Guys and girls like different things. I always thought this Superman curl my hair naturally does was lame, but my wife finds it really appealing. He should have final say on everything, obviously, but get as much input as you can.
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TheCyborgNinja posted...

"Pick-up artists" are losers. I can't echo that sentiment hard enough. It's embarrassing to hear them speak. Anyone that can't get a date by being genuine is either looking in the wrong places or may need to take some time to improve themselves (be it confidence building or whatever).

The most interest I ever had from women was when I just stopped caring what anyone else thought. You get into this kind of zone, like Peter in Office Space when he doesn't care about getting fired, and it's a different feeling that is empowering once you manage to find it. You can't will yourself to chill, but when you find a way to make "not caring" click everything else should fall into place.

Super true, the only point I'd disagree with is that pick up artists aren't losers. They're mostly just sad. Everytime I hear them speak I can't help but feel they're empty people. But hell, if you want to have meaningless, disconnected, lonely, empty sex and nothing else, by all means, pay them thousands of dollars because you will almost certainly get that. My advice is get all the free shit you can from those stupid scams, then build on it to make it your own, because beyond that there's nothing substantial apart from manipulation and narcissism.

TheCyborgNinja posted...

I think the biggest mistake a lot of people tend to make is trying to present themselves as something the person they're pursuing will want, but in actuality that can backfire. I went out with girls like that and it was boring and didn't last long. This matters a lot more in person, probably... As for the whole "in person versus online" debate, I think it's relative. I never really favoured one direction over another, but if the guy is really as socially inept as he sounds, I think Tinder may be too fast for him and he should just try making friends on a social networking site without a core foundation of "hooking up"... He just needs to make some female friends and then go from there. It seems like jumping in won't work for him, especially if he lacks experience.

Lack of experience is fine, you can make up for that aside from what you assume is experience. I would honestly say you should present yourself as the sort of person that would attract the sort of person you want. A bit tautological, but I fell in love with a girl who at first I was luke warm towards. I won't get too personal, but there are so many people out there, that if you just open yourself up and try to find something genuine, you can find that, even with someone who you're unsure of at first. That's what happened with me.

Just don't fall for a lying slut who will break your heart and gaslight you after a couple years. And women say men are evil.

TheCyborgNinja posted...

As far as a profile goes, make the write-up brief but interesting (mention a couple of funny interests so you have an immediate but ice-breaking talking point) and take a ton of pictures then have other people help you hammer down the best ones, preferably women. Guys and girls like different things. I always thought this Superman curl my hair naturally does was lame, but my wife finds it really appealing. He should have final say on everything, obviously, but get as much input as you can.

The writeup is inconsequential. I literally just bullshitted on mine, though made it an obvious joke. Make it not cringey, and be good at conversation, at you'll be fine.
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Unless you're a 10/10 chad you won't be getting many matches. People don't realize that the women who use Tinder are only matching (and subsequently hooking up with) the top 10% of guys on planet Earth.

Online dating in general is a massive grind and is mostly a waste of time if you don't put in 110% percent every single day messaging women and looking for matches.
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Chr0noid posted...

Unless you're a 10/10 chad you won't be getting many matches. People don't realize that the women who use Tinder are only matching (and subsequently hooking up with) the top 10% of guys on planet Earth.

Online dating in general is a massive grind and is mostly a waste of time if you don't put in 110% percent every single day messaging women and looking for matches.

You're definitely not off base. Arm candy is a commodity to a lot of people, especially the ones who know they're good looking. Even if they aren't jerks about it, the reality is that some people can pick and choose, and certain areas, like Tinder, are a breeding ground for this. I think it was Jim Jeffries (comedian) who made this point, and it's mostly accurate: there are fat, ugly sluts but not fat, ugly studs.

The only answer to stop being single is to just meet lots of people and eventually you'll find that special person and just know. The vast majority out there are incompatible with one-another, but if I can find somebody to like me for who I am, there's hope for anyone. I only ever seemed to get any attention because girls found me attractive, but I'm kind of weird so it was hard to grow anything meaningful lol
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I think you guys are all overstating how inept this guy is. He's not socially r*******. He actually has a lot of friends, many of whom are female. He's just extremely unconfident and tends to fade into the background in a group. He talks to female friends all the time, but has 0 confidence to ever make a move on them.

I feel like his biggest issue is that, making the first move. He also doesn't present himself in a way that makes him seem like he's interested. If he's in a situation where that's already been established, I feel like he'd do much better.
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Update: I got 1 match the other day but the girl looks weird as fuck and definitely not his type so I didn't message her. I swiped right until I ran out of likes again today. It seems I'm running out of likes much sooner than I was a few days ago. It was literally only around 30 likes today and then I got locked out. What's the deal with this?

I haven't gotten a chance to take any good photos yet. However, me and the guy who I made this page for are hanging out this weekend, so maybe we can take some good photos. I'm trying to get him to go to the gym with me so we can take some swelfies.
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