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"Pick-up artists" are losers. I can't echo that sentiment hard enough. It's embarrassing to hear them speak. Anyone that can't get a date by being genuine is either looking in the wrong places or may need to take some time to improve themselves (be it confidence building or whatever).

The most interest I ever had from women was when I just stopped caring what anyone else thought. You get into this kind of zone, like Peter in Office Space when he doesn't care about getting fired, and it's a different feeling that is empowering once you manage to find it. You can't will yourself to chill, but when you find a way to make "not caring" click everything else should fall into place.

I think the biggest mistake a lot of people tend to make is trying to present themselves as something the person they're pursuing will want, but in actuality that can backfire. I went out with girls like that and it was boring and didn't last long. This matters a lot more in person, probably... As for the whole "in person versus online" debate, I think it's relative. I never really favoured one direction over another, but if the guy is really as socially inept as he sounds, I think Tinder may be too fast for him and he should just try making friends on a social networking site without a core foundation of "hooking up"... He just needs to make some female friends and then go from there. It seems like jumping in won't work for him, especially if he lacks experience.

As far as a profile goes, make the write-up brief but interesting (mention a couple of funny interests so you have an immediate but ice-breaking talking point) and take a ton of pictures then have other people help you hammer down the best ones, preferably women. Guys and girls like different things. I always thought this Superman curl my hair naturally does was lame, but my wife finds it really appealing. He should have final say on everything, obviously, but get as much input as you can.
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"message parlor" ? do you mean the post office ? - SlayerX888