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Topic	I just found out my fiancee was cheating on me
Tropic_Sunset 12/10/17 12:57:12 PM #11:	Lokarin posted... Idk, I'd let a fiancee get a slide under certain situations... like it's future proofing, gotta get the freebangs out before final commitment. But I also understand that that's not for everyone, and I'm sorry for your loss. She had a boyfriend. For 2 months. Mead posted... Thats messed up, people should really not cheat on each other. Very hurtful thing to do to a person that youve allowed to become emotionally attached to yourself. Agreed. The worst part is that we even discussed an open relationship, which apparently she went through with anyway while I stayed loyal. RCtheWSBC posted... Dang...that really blows, but I suppose the thin silver lining is that you won't be getting married to someone who isn't committed to you. That's pretty much my mindset right now. KogaSteelfang posted... Sorry to hear that, I honestly don't understand how that situation occurs. If you're not willing to commit to your partner, don't accept the proposal. Sure, that would hurt them too, but it'd be better to know that you're not ready than to just lie to them and go behind their back. Right? And we'd been together for well over a year at this point, kind of feels like I wasted my time. NightShift posted... hit the gym Way ahead of you on that one, getting rid of my relationship gut. pizz posted... tell us all the emotionally painful details. i want you to be vivid and relive the memories So I've been suspicious for awhile of a "friend" of hers who she probably spends about as much (or more) time with as she does me, and she's taken to changing her phone PIN and keeping it under her pillow while sleeping. I'm not an idiot so this raised some red flags. I also saw an odd email while monitoring my network (I can paste the contents here with names redacted if anyone cares). She of course denies anything is going on. So once, while she's taking a nap, she leaves her phone at the foot of the bed by mistake. I see this, I know her new PIN, so I struggle for a little while and decide eventually that I won't go through her phone because that's not what I'm about, but I will check the texts for the guy I'm suspicious of. Sure enough, turns out they've been dating, she's calling him the same pet name as she does me, and they went away on a weekend when she told me she was taking care of things down in SLC. I sit on this for a few days while I decide what I want to do with it, because I know if I confront her she'll just lie to me. There's also the distinct possibility she stole $100 out of my bank account and I consider getting evidence and going to the police (to be fair, I don't know for sure this was her but I'd be very surprised if it wasn't). I know she and her boyfriend smoke weed so I also consider finding out where they are and making an anonymous call to the cops whenever they do that next. Eventually, I just get drunk and we have an argument. This occurred last night. She pushed me, I pushed her back, she calls the cops, they come over, find her bong, drug test us both (I don't smoke weed) she leaves, and that's the story so far. --- "Nostalgia is a hell of a drug." -Magus 10 <cite>Tropic_Sunset posted [p:891945003] in I just fou... [t:76083201]...</cite> <quote><cite>Lokarin posted...</cite> <quote>Idk, I'd let a fiancee get a slide under certain situations... like it's future proofing, gotta get the freebangs out before final commitment. But I also understand that that's not for everyone, and I'm sorry for your loss.</quote> She had a boyfriend. For 2 months. <cite>Mead posted...</cite> <quote>Thats messed up, people should really not cheat on each other. Very hurtful thing to do to a person that youve allowed to become emotionally attached to yourself.</quote> Agreed. The worst part is that we even discussed an open relationship, which apparently she went through with anyway while I stayed loyal. <cite>RCtheWSBC posted...</cite> <quote>Dang...that really blows, but I suppose the thin silver lining is that you won't be getting married to someone who isn't committed to you.</quote> That's pretty much my mindset right now. <cite>KogaSteelfang posted...</cite> <quote>Sorry to hear that, I honestly don't understand how that situation occurs. If you're not willing to commit to your partner, don't accept the proposal. Sure, that would hurt them too, but it'd be better to know that you're not ready than to just lie to them and go behind their back.</quote> Right? And we'd been together for well over a year at this point, kind of feels like I wasted my time. <cite>NightShift posted...</cite> <quote>hit the gym </quote> Way ahead of you on that one, getting rid of my relationship gut. <cite>pizz posted...</cite> <quote>tell us all the emotionally painful details. i want you to be vivid and relive the memories</quote> So I've been suspicious for awhile of a "friend" of hers who she probably spends about as much (or more) time with as she does me, and she's taken to changing her phone PIN and keeping it under her pillow while sleeping. I'm not an idiot so this raised some red flags. I also saw an odd email while monitoring my network (I can paste the contents here with names redacted if anyone cares). She of course denies anything is going on. So once, while she's taking a nap, she leaves her phone at the foot of the bed by mistake. I see this, I know her new PIN, so I struggle for a little while and decide eventually that I won't go through her phone because that's not what I'm about, but I will check the texts for the guy I'm suspicious of. Sure enough, turns out they've been dating, she's calling him the same pet name as she does me, and they went away on a weekend when she told me she was taking care of things down in SLC. I sit on this for a few days while I decide what I want to do with it, because I know if I confront her she'll just lie to me. There's also the distinct possibility she stole $100 out of my bank account and I consider getting evidence and going to the police (to be fair, I don't know for sure this was her but I'd be very surprised if it wasn't). I know she and her boyfriend smoke weed so I also consider finding out where they are and making an anonymous call to the cops whenever they do that next. Eventually, I just get drunk and we have an argument. This occurred last night. She pushed me, I pushed her back, she calls the cops, they come over, find her bong, drug test us both (I don't smoke weed) she leaves, and that's the story so far. --- "Nostalgia is a hell of a drug." -Magus 10</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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