For sure. It's been 10 years now, but it still bugs me every year.
My Mom was white and my Dad is Asian. Dad was the Authority figure (since she died me and my Dad have gotten a lot closer for what it's worth), so my Mom was the one I always came to with my problems. Never degraded any of our hopes and aspirations even if they were unrealistic. If I was into something she'd go out of her way to get classes or find a program for me, even if money was tight. That goes for my brother and sister as well
I had a great Mom.
Your family sounds similar to mine. I think you and your dad getting closer is worth more than you can imagine. You both would definitely feel way worse if you drifted apart after. My dad lives in the same town but we never see each other. I think we both lack the courage and know how to approach the relationship. I don't feel depressed about it though. I kind of just accepted that we might just never have a relationship. Maybe one day Ill find the courage to try and connect.
All my immediate family has become tight knit. My sister and brother were never really antagonistic, but we were never that close either.
I'd try sending him a message. I'd feel bad if I wasn't able to reconcile with someone. ---
