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Topic	The older I get, the more it hurts when I hear friends' success with women.
alt4445 10/15/17 10:08:05 PM #19:	Soviet_Poland posted... 5) I recognize it's tough for someone who already feels down and hopeless on this to make these changes. Start gradually. Try cooking new meals at home you normally don't. Add a gym routine if you haven't. Read books on topics you've been interested in but haven't gotten around to it. Maybe in several months, the gym changes start to be a bit more apparent. I've gone from 270lb to 150lb, I cook and prepare all my own meals (to the gram when I'm cutting), I've started making music after being hesitant for so long, and I pretty much always have something planned for the weekends (and sometimes weekdays). I have a new job in something I like, though I'm still not financially very stable (I have enough to live and barely any extra). I love going to concerts and raves, I attend tournaments, I sometimes attend random events in the city, sometimes I go to board game meetups, and I have a good variety in people I hang with. I had literally the best vacation I could've realistically gotten this past month. I've literally done a lot of things to purposely break out of my comfort zone (albeit not as much now as when I was younger and more hopeful) especially since I have social anxiety. I can't see my social or personal life get much better than this until I start making good money one day. None of that shit ever makes a difference. I'm still at square one, in regards to having a relationship, no matter what I've done and how far I've come. I understand that having a girl wont make me happy, but like, when any and all of my interest/curiosity has been met with rejection over and over, it starts to hurt sometimes. The reason that this stuff doesn't effect me too much in my day to day life is specifically that I've done what you said. Just ignore the fact that I don't have a girl and try to do stuff that I want to do and not base success or fun in having a girl. In other words, just having fun on my own and realizing that having a woman wont save me. And honestly, just accepting that I'll be alone is a relief in some ways because it's like a world where I never get rejected because I never bother to try. That alone helps me deal with it day to day because this used to effect me a lot more. Just that, when it's something I'm forced to deal with (like a friend having success with women), it opens up that wound again. --- [prototype invisible font] <cite>alt4445 posted [p:888507889] in The older ... [t:75882935]...</cite> <quote><cite>Soviet_Poland posted...</cite> <quote>5) I recognize it's tough for someone who already feels down and hopeless on this to make these changes. Start gradually. Try cooking new meals at home you normally don't. Add a gym routine if you haven't. Read books on topics you've been interested in but haven't gotten around to it. Maybe in several months, the gym changes start to be a bit more apparent. </quote> I've gone from 270lb to 150lb, I cook and prepare all my own meals (to the gram when I'm cutting), I've started making music after being hesitant for so long, and I pretty much always have something planned for the weekends (and sometimes weekdays). I have a new job in something I like, though I'm still not financially very stable (I have enough to live and barely any extra). I love going to concerts and raves, I attend tournaments, I sometimes attend random events in the city, sometimes I go to board game meetups, and I have a good variety in people I hang with. I had literally the best vacation I could've realistically gotten this past month. I've literally done a lot of things to purposely break out of my comfort zone (albeit not as much now as when I was younger and more hopeful) especially since I have social anxiety. I can't see my social or personal life get much better than this until I start making good money one day. None of that shit ever makes a difference. I'm still at square one, in regards to having a relationship, no matter what I've done and how far I've come. I understand that having a girl wont make me happy, but like, when any and all of my interest/curiosity has been met with rejection over and over, it starts to hurt sometimes. The reason that this stuff doesn't effect me too much in my day to day life is specifically that I've done what you said. Just ignore the fact that I don't have a girl and try to do stuff that I want to do and not base success or fun in having a girl. In other words, just having fun on my own and realizing that having a woman wont save me. And honestly, just accepting that I'll be alone is a relief in some ways because it's like a world where I never get rejected because I never bother to try. That alone helps me deal with it day to day because this used to effect me a lot more. Just that, when it's something I'm forced to deal with (like a friend having success with women), it opens up that wound again. --- [prototype invisible font]</quote> ... Copied to Clipboard!
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