LogFAQs > #883371832

When someone asserts a pronoun preference, it's largely irrelevant to how they identify or present or whatever

You misunderstand. I'm not saying the speaker has a pronoun preference. I'm saying that the preference of the individual being spoken to is irrelevant to which pronoun is used by the speaker.

Japanese honorifics are not comparable because they have a specific context (100% of the time) and are not interchangeable.

English pronouns have a specific context (100% of the time) and are not interchangeable.
Say mister to a man.
Say miss to a woman.
Say missus to a married woman.
Say sir to someone who has be knighted.
Say doctor to someone who has an academic degree above master.
We have more words that replace a persons name such as he and him that can be interchanged with mister but the context with which these words are used always remain the same.

a much better place to start would be self-identifying pronouns (boku, watashi, etc). Boku is largely considered a masculine pronoun, watashi is feminine, but they are not rigid.

That's actually a contrast. English doesn't use self-identifying pronouns in that way. I, me, myself are neutral in regard to masculinity or femininity.
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